# Dirt from a grave **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 15, 2016, 7:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirt-from-a-grave/759961 "2016-07-15T07:26:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![jasnooks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f4b2a3/32.png) [@jasnooks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jasnooks)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2016, 7:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirt-from-a-grave/759961/1 "2016-07-15T07:26:44Z")
My mother passed away July 14, 1996. 20 years ago. Today my buddy drove me to visit her, and i was kind of pissed off to see that her marker was almost overgrown. My buddy helped me clean it up , and i brought some of the dirt home to put in the flower beds. I’m really drunk again, I’m sorry everybody ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2016, 7:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirt-from-a-grave/759961/2 "2016-07-15T07:46:38Z")
I’m sorry for your loss. Glad you had a good friend to help you out and be with you today. ---
**Author:** ![jasnooks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f4b2a3/32.png) [@jasnooks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jasnooks)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2016, 7:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirt-from-a-grave/759961/3 "2016-07-15T07:50:13Z")
I am too ---
**Author:** ![jtur88](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e9c0ed/32.png) [@jtur88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jtur88)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2016, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirt-from-a-grave/759961/4 "2016-07-15T19:10:11Z")
Since most people reading this probably have a parent still alive, the important thing is for them to know that you would do that, too. They already know, but it wouldn’t hurt to tell them. ---
**Author:** ![Omar\_Little](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omar_little/32/269_2.png) [@Omar\_Little](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omar_Little)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2016, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirt-from-a-grave/759961/5 "2016-07-16T16:45:25Z")
> [@jasnooks](#): > > i was kind of pissed off to see that her marker was almost overgrown. This is part of the reason I wish to be cremated. My parents are still living, but all of my grandparents have passed. The only time I have visited their graves are when their spouses passed away. My parents haven’t visited their parent’s graves in about 7-8 years. The thought of my body lying in a grave with the marker overgrowing with weeds, etc. and having years, decades pass since someone I loved comes to visit, is extremely depressing to me. My spouse and children know that I wish to be cremated and that there are about 4-5 different places (that are extremely important to me, that I wish to have my ashes scattered. If my spouse wishes to keep some of my ashes in a container for her to remember me by, then that’s great. ---
**Author:** ![Sailboat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sailboat/32/461_2.png) [@Sailboat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sailboat)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2016, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirt-from-a-grave/759961/6 "2016-07-16T19:40:57Z")
If movies have taught us anything, it’s that the contents of any cremation urn will eventually be spilled in a comic mishap.