# Dirty talk: Do you like it? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 4, 2010, 12:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080 "2010-08-04T00:14:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![woodstockbirdybird](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/woodstockbirdybird/32/7905_2.png) [@woodstockbirdybird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/woodstockbirdybird)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 12:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/1 "2010-08-04T00:14:20Z")
In sexual situations, do you enjoy dirty talk, or do you find it a turn-off? Or do you enjoy it up to a point, but get turned off if it’s too graphic and/or effusive? I’ve dated women across the spectrum - some who initiated it and were porn-star level verbal, some who enjoyed hearing it but were too shy to engage in it much themselves, and some who didn’t care for it at all. I’m sure men run the gamut, as well. So, what do you say? Personally, I like it. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/2 "2010-08-04T00:22:16Z")
It makes me feel like I’ve ended up in bed with a 3rd grader who has a bad case of potty mouth. ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/3 "2010-08-04T00:24:41Z")
I find it a turn off. Sounds to much like porn movie dialogue. I don’t mind normal talk during sex. But exaggerated dirty talk leaves me cold. The girl is trying too hard. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/4 "2010-08-04T00:25:06Z")
I like it up to a point, but get turned off the second I am insulted or it gets too graphic. You do not want to call me names when my teeth are that close to your dick. ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/5 "2010-08-04T00:25:32Z")
LOL AHunter. 😃 I do, but it depends. If it sounds rehearsed or otherwise hokey, it’s a turn off. Dirty talk is sort of an art, I think. ---
**Author:** ![woodstockbirdybird](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/woodstockbirdybird/32/7905_2.png) [@woodstockbirdybird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/woodstockbirdybird)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/6 "2010-08-04T00:28:11Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > I like it up to a point, but get turned off the second I am insulted or it gets too graphic. You do not want to call me names when my teeth are that close to your dick. Calling you names? Man, my definition of “dirty talk” must be fairly vanilla. ---
**Author:** ![pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a9a28c/32.png) [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pseudotriton_ruber_ruber)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/7 "2010-08-04T00:33:46Z")
I’ve gotten to become a real fan of it–my last GF was gifted at it, saying exactly the sort of encouraging sounds (sometimes as little as “Oh, yeah, I like that”) and she had a very fetching way of grunting rhythmically that I really liked. Before her, it was semi-comical stuff I used to hear that turned me on as it turned me off, but it’s nice to be with a woman who’s enjoying it and lets me know what she’s enjoying. ---
**Author:** ![Gil-Martin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Gil-Martin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gil-Martin)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/8 "2010-08-04T00:35:52Z")
I sometimes enjoy it up to a point, but get turned off if it’s too graphic and/or effusive. ---
**Author:** ![DivineComedienne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/c67d28/32.png) [@DivineComedienne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DivineComedienne)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/9 "2010-08-04T00:36:07Z")
Love it. I am pretty verbal during sex, especially when I kind of go into the “zone” and the words start coming out. Basically, I’m just saying whatever I’m thinking - not really obscene, but mostly “words of encouragement” that are kind of breathless, kind of sexy, that let him know that he’s doing a good job, keep doing that, that feels great, etc. I like hearing it too, if a guy’s talking sexy to me during sex about how much he’s enjoying it, how sexy I am, that sort of thing, it helps me along to an orgasm. As long as he doesn’t say something like, “_You mean the panties your mother laid out for you_?” 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/10 "2010-08-04T00:39:01Z")
> [@woodstockbirdybird](#): > > Personally, I like it. I know, and you still owe me about sixty bucks. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/11 "2010-08-04T00:40:03Z")
Seriously though, I like it most of the time. Occasionally I’m not in the mood, but more often than not it’s pretty fun. ---
**Author:** ![woodstockbirdybird](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/woodstockbirdybird/32/7905_2.png) [@woodstockbirdybird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/woodstockbirdybird)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 12:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/12 "2010-08-04T00:41:43Z")
> [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](#): > > > [@woodstockbirdybird](#): > > > > Personally, I like it. > > I know, and you still owe me about sixty bucks. Sixty? That’s not the way I remember that exchange. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 12:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/13 "2010-08-04T00:42:08Z")
> [@woodstockbirdybird](#): > > > [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > > > I like it up to a point, but get turned off the second I am insulted or it gets too graphic. You do not want to call me names when my teeth are that close to your dick. > > Calling you names? Man, my definition of “dirty talk” must be fairly vanilla. On seeing the question, I immediately flashed to the SouthPark movie, when Saddam and Satan are having sex and one says to the other “Oh yeah, you like that, don’t you bitch” or something to that effect. I’d be like, “No, no I don’t, and get offa me right now!” ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 12:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/14 "2010-08-04T00:51:56Z")
I like it until it gets cheesy. Edit: Also, see above. And another thing, while a certain amount of male dominance is a huge turn-on, please remember this is real life, and not internet porn. Do not slap me in the face with your dick. Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df705f/32.png) [@Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maggie_the_Ocelot)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/15 "2010-08-04T01:07:55Z")
Oh hell yes. ---
**Author:** ![GHO57](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/df788c/32.png) [@GHO57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GHO57)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/16 "2010-08-04T01:29:38Z")
I don’t mind instructions, it’s after all about both of us… and I don’t mind talking… I’ve had actual conversations during sex. But the “dirty” talk thing is just hilarious. I usually do my best not to laugh… it’s just when someone does the whole “let’s explain to the blind viewers what’s happening in graphic detail”-thing that I usually crack up. you know the stuff, straight from low budget porn, “I love how your huge…blah blah”. Not blind me, and most of the time I do actually know what’s happening without the narrative. Now, if submission happens to be her kink, I’ll make her beg for sex… and beg me to stop. But there’s no way I’m doing the dirty talk thing; I’ll pull her hair, I’ll even make her bleed… but it’s sex, it’s not fucking amateur dinner theater. If I want to wear mask and spew “dirty” words, I’ll audition for a hellraiser sequel. … Hmm… I do the same thing with fighting… I don’t posture, or threaten people. I see no point in pushing people. If you want a piece of me, step up and let’s get it going. I guess I’m just task oriented by nature. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/17 "2010-08-04T01:36:04Z")
> [@GHO57](#): > > If you want a piece of me, step up and let’s get it going. I didn’t think they still made people who talked like this. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/18 "2010-08-04T01:53:53Z")
> [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](#): > > > [@GHO57](#): > > > > If you want a piece of me, step up and let’s get it going. > > I didn’t think they still made people who talked like this. And you like it, don’t you, you little slut? ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/19 "2010-08-04T02:03:11Z")
Sure, most of the time, but as has been mentioned just the wrong word can make me laugh, or wince (and not in a good way). This isn’t just offensive stuff that’s clearly from a shitty porn – bad grammar can turn me off. ---
**Author:** ![woodstockbirdybird](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/woodstockbirdybird/32/7905_2.png) [@woodstockbirdybird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/woodstockbirdybird)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/20 "2010-08-04T02:07:42Z")
> [@woodstockbirdybird](#): > > > [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](#): > > > > I know, and you still owe me about sixty bucks. > > Sixty? That’s not the way I remember that exchange. Oh, wait - sixty _bucks_. Right. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080.md?page=2)