# Dirty talk: Do you like it? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 4, 2010, 12:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080 "2010-08-04T00:14:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 2:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/21 "2010-08-04T02:16:28Z")
Sometimes, but I’m not that talkative during sex. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/22 "2010-08-04T02:44:45Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > I like it until it gets cheesy. > > Edit: Also, see above. And another thing, while a certain amount of male dominance is a huge turn-on, please remember this is real life, and not internet porn. Do not slap me in the face with your dick. Thanks. OK. Sorry about that. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![GHO57](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/df788c/32.png) [@GHO57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GHO57)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 2:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/23 "2010-08-04T02:47:15Z")
> [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](#): > > > [@GHO57](#): > > > > If you want a piece of me, step up and let’s get it going. > > I didn’t think they still made people who talked like this. Think, act, be… not talk (not \*saying \*it was sort of the point). Haven’t you ever seen a [weigh-in brawl](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UiwTYKRmzVI)? I’m talking about the theatrical aspects of the thing. The usual pattern is: “I’m going to fuck you up” \ “I’ll kill you” \ \ “That’s it!!” \. Hard words don’t mean shit, it’s just silly.. and a little sad to think some people seem to need it to preform. I’m guessing they’re the same people who need dirty talk to get it up. [Case in point](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KLHHPv7vu0c). ---
**Author:** ![pricciar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@pricciar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pricciar)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 5:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/24 "2010-08-04T05:54:53Z")
I think it is funny when someone finds dirty talk embarrassing. There’s not much room for her to be embarrassed when I am there with all my shame for the world to see. ---
**Author:** ![Hypno-Toad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b2d939/32.png) [@Hypno-Toad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hypno-Toad)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/25 "2010-08-04T14:35:14Z")
When it’s sincere, it’s enjoyable. But when it’s cheesy, I get uncomfortable and think that she’s not really having a good time. ---
**Author:** ![Not\_a\_Platypus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/d26b3c/32.png) [@Not\_a\_Platypus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Not_a_Platypus)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/26 "2010-08-04T14:37:02Z")
Not really. My SO wishes I would talk dirty, but when I try to comply with his requests, it just sounds like, well, like I’m trying. It doesn’t feel natural at all, so I just think I sound like a goof. He doesn’t talk much, either. Generally he only asks when I’m going down on him and, frankly, I have better things to do with my mouth at that point. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/27 "2010-08-04T15:19:45Z")
The depraved depths of my mind are laid bare when it comes to dirty talk. ---
**Author:** ![salinqmind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ec8ea/32.png) [@salinqmind](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/salinqmind)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/28 "2010-08-04T15:39:10Z")
No. Shut up, you sound like an idiot. Earlier I cooked your burger n’ fries, washed your clothes, and we spent an hour doing yard work, and now you’re spewing out “dirty talk” and expect me to be turned on???😕 SHUT. UP. ---
**Author:** ![pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a9a28c/32.png) [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pseudotriton_ruber_ruber)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/29 "2010-08-04T16:25:54Z")
> [@salinqmind](#): > > No. Shut up, you sound like an idiot. > > Earlier I cooked your burger n’ fries, washed your clothes, and we spent an hour doing yard work, and now you’re spewing out “dirty talk” and expect me to be turned on???😕 > > SHUT. UP. Okay, Mom. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/30 "2010-08-04T16:28:06Z")
> [@Silver\_Fire](#): > > LOL AHunter. 😃 > > I do, but it depends. If it sounds rehearsed or otherwise hokey, it’s a turn off. Dirty talk is sort of an art, I think. Agreed, you have to be good at it. It isn’t just talking dirty. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 5:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/31 "2010-08-04T17:11:04Z")
Boy, I guess it just depends, doesn’t it? Being told what’s good, what works, what feels good, or what the other person would like to do next can be fun! Plus it can be edifying. Real-life transcript follows: A: \ B: Really? I didn’t know you … okay! \ A: \ ---
**Author:** ![wolf-alice](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/9e8a1a/32.png) [@wolf-alice](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wolf-alice)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/32 "2010-08-04T17:15:13Z")
I kind of like being insulted, (with the **MeanOldLady** “Do not slap me in the face with your dick. Thanks” Corollary, as outlined above), and if you’re going to talk dirty to me, you have to do it with a bit of confidence and, you know, _joie de vivre_. There’s nothing worse than a tentative dirty-talker (You’re dick’s _real hard_, is it? Intriguing. _Do_ go on). And I’m not much for running commentaries, but I have, on occasion, come out with some completely fucking filthy one-liners that have, as it were, drawn matters to a swift conclusion. I have to be in the mood, though. I don’t like being asked to do it - I tend to get a bit sarcastic and literal, as per [this](http://www.asofterworld.com/index.php?id=542). ---
**Author:** ![Onomatopoeia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/onomatopoeia/32/4145_2.png) [@Onomatopoeia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Onomatopoeia)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/33 "2010-08-04T17:30:08Z")
Not a fan of the dirty talk. I also don’t like being told what to do, or asked if I “like that.” What’s the deal with women and this question during sex? If I didn’t like it I wouldn’t be there. I’m good with moans, screams, and even a little acrobatic action, but don’t ruin it by making me feel you’re spoiling for abuse. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/34 "2010-08-04T17:33:46Z")
NSFW [Nobody has linked to this yet?](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=41IgiLGlI0w&feature=related) [Part 2](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zmLfT6ZAZbA&feature=related) ---
**Author:** ![Whack-a-Mole](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/whack-a-mole/32/141_2.png) [@Whack-a-Mole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Whack-a-Mole)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 5:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/35 "2010-08-04T17:37:02Z")
> [@Silver\_Fire](#): > > Dirty talk is sort of an art, I think. ^^This. As with many things it can be good or it can be bad or indifferent. Yes it can get silly and be a turn-off but then artfully done at the right moments can be a huge turn-on. Better still in true throes of passion, just going with the flow on the way to ecstasy, is the best. ---
**Author:** ![Whack-a-Mole](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/whack-a-mole/32/141_2.png) [@Whack-a-Mole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Whack-a-Mole)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/36 "2010-08-04T17:38:55Z")
> [@Onomatopoeia](#): > > …don’t ruin it by making me feel you’re spoiling for abuse. You’re doing it wrong. Dirty talk in no way has to be abusive. It can if that is your thing but certainly does not have to be. ---
**Author:** ![Surly\_Chick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ec9cab/32.png) [@Surly\_Chick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Surly_Chick)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/37 "2010-08-04T17:43:23Z")
> [@bup](#): > > > [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](#): > > > > I didn’t think they still made people who talked like this. > > And you like it, don’t you, you little slut? Thank you, **bup.** My laugh for the day. ---
**Author:** ![Malthus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/85f322/32.png) [@Malthus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malthus)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/38 "2010-08-04T17:48:49Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > > [@woodstockbirdybird](#): > > > > Calling you names? Man, my definition of “dirty talk” must be fairly vanilla. > > On seeing the question, I immediately flashed to the SouthPark movie, when Saddam and Satan are having sex and one says to the other “Oh yeah, you like that, don’t you bitch” or something to that effect. I’d be like, “No, no I don’t, and get offa me right now!” If I was having sex with either, that would be my reaction no matter what they said. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/39 "2010-08-04T17:49:28Z")
It’s a really tricky thing. If it moves the plot along, then great. (As in “I really want to fuck you now” or “I love it when you lick my elbow.”) But running commentary, not so much. And overly “clever” names for things just kill the mood. (“Ooh baby, stick your magic mushroom into my strawberry shortcake!” Huh?) Many years ago I spent some time with a girl who was wonderful in every way except for her bedroom patter. “Ooh ah oh! Ooh ah oh! Ooh ah oh!” She never changed it up to ooh oh ah or oh ah ooh. It got very distracting. ---
**Author:** ![Onomatopoeia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/onomatopoeia/32/4145_2.png) [@Onomatopoeia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Onomatopoeia)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2010, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080/40 "2010-08-04T17:56:15Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > Many years ago I spent some time with a girl who was wonderful in every way except for her bedroom patter. “Ooh ah oh! Ooh ah oh! Ooh ah oh!” She never changed it up to ooh oh ah or oh ah ooh. It got very distracting. Yep. I’ve had one of those. As Elaine said: Fake, fake, fake, fake. 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dirty-talk-do-you-like-it/549080.md?page=3)