# Discrepencies in interracial dating/marriage **URL:** \ **Category:** Great Debates\ **Created:** [December 5, 2003, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/discrepencies-in-interracial-dating-marriage/217242 "2003-12-05T21:34:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![kmg365](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ec9cab/32.png) [@kmg365](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kmg365)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2003, 7:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/discrepencies-in-interracial-dating-marriage/217242/61 "2003-12-09T07:55:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by HayekHeyst \* > **Feminism causes rape, men can’t help but oppress women, and women’s oppression is an unavoidable part of our human destiny.** FTR, those are your words not mine. You seem to enjoy putting words into other people’s mouths don’t you? ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2003, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/discrepencies-in-interracial-dating-marriage/217242/62 "2003-12-09T18:10:35Z")
> [@](#): > > In Korea however, where I currently live, and even more so in Japan, it is so incredibly safe for young women to walk around in downtown areas and alley ways by themselves at all hours of the night, that the average westerner cannot comprehend it. And western women who visit here automatically take notice of this aspect as one of the biggest differences in street safety for women in East Asia versus the West. This is supposedly true in China, or at least in Beijing, so I was told during a visit there. I did see many unacompanied women on the streets at night. Of course, I actually saw many PEOPLE on the streets at night. Being an MCP, I paid more attention to the females. As to the intermarriage bit, it seems to me to be a tempest in a teapot. My take has always been that if two people are attracted to one another and wish to form a union, more power to them. As to why they are attracted to each other, I don’t care—I often don’t know why I myself am attracted to a person. It’s none of my business why others are. YMMV. ---
**Author:** ![sghoul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ec8ea/32.png) [@sghoul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sghoul)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2003, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/discrepencies-in-interracial-dating-marriage/217242/63 "2003-12-09T19:20:23Z")
/hyjack I am curious, if this is correct (more Bm/WF, WM/AF and low BF/WM, AM/WF, AM/BF), does that mean there is a larger population of single BF and AM? What effect would this have on a societal level? Or are the percentages so low as to not really mater. /hyjack ---
**Author:** ![HayekHeyst](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/45deac/32.png) [@HayekHeyst](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HayekHeyst)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2003, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/discrepencies-in-interracial-dating-marriage/217242/64 "2003-12-09T19:49:50Z")
KMG365, I said, “So, KMG365 would seem to imply:” I certainly left it open that you didn’t mean to imply that. But I notice you didn’t deny that my interpretation of your thoughts was correct. To paraphrase Jesus when people said he was the son of God. "“FTR, those are your words, not mine.” KMG365, you’ve said: > [@](#): > > The only difference among the cultures, nationalities and races of the world is how that misogyny is expressed. So, according to you: A) if women in the US are less oppressed in some way, they must be more oppressed in some other way B) Asia is perhaps 50 years behind the West in terms of male chauvinism and patriarchy. C) the US has more serial rapist-killers than Asia I don’t know how to interpret those three statements, which you have made, as anything other than a statement that there are more serial rapists in the US than in Asia because there is less male chauvinsm. Suppose a glass is 3/4 full of water (patriarchy) and 1/4 full of air (serial rapists), and then you pour out some water (develop feminism). The glass is now 1/4 full of water (patriarchy) and 3/4 full of air (serial rapists). The cause of the increase in air (serial rapists) is the pouring out of water (feminist partial suppression of patriarchy). ---
**Author:** ![Headcoat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6bbea6/32.png) [@Headcoat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Headcoat)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2003, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/discrepencies-in-interracial-dating-marriage/217242/65 "2003-12-09T21:48:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by LouisB \* > \*\*This is supposedly true in China, or at least in Beijing, so I was told during a visit there. I did see many unacompanied women on the streets at night. Of course, I actually saw many PEOPLE on the streets at night. Being an MCP, I paid more attention to the females. > > As to the intermarriage bit, it seems to me to be a tempest in a teapot. My take has always been that if two people are attracted to one another and wish to form a union, more power to them. As to why they are attracted to each other, I don’t care—I often don’t know why I myself am attracted to a person. It’s none of my business why others are. YMMV. \*\* ---
**Author:** ![Headcoat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6bbea6/32.png) [@Headcoat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Headcoat)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2003, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/discrepencies-in-interracial-dating-marriage/217242/66 "2003-12-09T21:51:07Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by LouisB \* > \*\* > As to the intermarriage bit, it seems to me to be a tempest in a teapot. My take has always been that if two people are attracted to one another and wish to form a union, more power to them. As to why they are attracted to each other, I don’t care—I often don’t know why I myself am attracted to a person. It’s none of my business why others are. YMMV. \*\* When you internalize and personalize the issue, then yeah, it is merely a private concern. But when trends point to highly skewed discrepencies, then it becomes important to find out why it occurs on a sociological level. It is no longer about one person’s idiosyncracies in attraction when patterns of mating reveal something far more than random pairing. sghoul, yes, there are higher percentages of unmarried black women and asian men. Crook’d Dope, thank you for those links. They were highly insightful. ---
**Author:** ![Burrido](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3be4f8/32.png) [@Burrido](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Burrido)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2003, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/discrepencies-in-interracial-dating-marriage/217242/67 "2003-12-10T03:22:11Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by sghoul \* > \*\*/hyjack > > I am curious, if this is correct (more Bm/WF, WM/AF and low BF/WM, AM/WF, AM/BF), does that mean there is a larger population of single BF and AM? What effect would this have on a societal level? Or are the percentages so low as to not really mater. > > /hyjack \*\* Asians make up up 3.6% of the population according to the census. Or 1.8% (unscientific speculation) if only males. I wouldnt think that would be enough to effect anything. [http://factfinder.census.gov/servlet/QTTable?geo\_id=01000US&ds\_name=DEC\_2000\_SF1\_U&qr\_name=DEC\_2000\_SF1\_U\_QTP5&\_lang=en&\_sse=on](http://factfinder.census.gov/servlet/QTTable?geo_id=01000US&ds_name=DEC_2000_SF1_U&qr_name=DEC_2000_SF1_U_QTP5&_lang=en&_sse=on) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/discrepencies-in-interracial-dating-marriage/217242.md?page=3)