# Disfunctional family visit.
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/disfunctional-family-visit/753062
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
**Created:** [April 25, 2016, 4:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/disfunctional-family-visit/753062 "2016-04-25T04:06:56Z")
**Posts on this page:** 5
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### Author:  [@eenerms](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eenerms)
#### Post date: [April 25, 2016, 4:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/disfunctional-family-visit/753062/1 "2016-04-25T04:06:56Z")
My on and off alcoholic sister is coming to visit. Three months ago she called me and told me I was a bitch and never supported her at anytime. Ok. At my mothers 81st birthday she was wasted and belligerent . Now she wants to visit when my mother is here for a visit… She called and said I have always been supportive:confused:. Ok. When she’s here should I hide the booze? My mom likes a cocktail at night, and at 81 She’s entailed.
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### Author:  [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)
#### Post date: [April 25, 2016, 9:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/disfunctional-family-visit/753062/2 "2016-04-25T09:05:31Z")
> [@eenerms](#):
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> Ok. When she’s here should I hide the booze?
No booze in the house. At all.
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> My mom likes a cocktail at night, and at 81 She’s entailed.
Assuming you meant ‘entitled’, she knows your sister better than you and she’ll understand.
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### Author:  [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)
#### Post date: [April 25, 2016, 11:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/disfunctional-family-visit/753062/3 "2016-04-25T11:18:45Z")
Why are you having her in your home? She’s clearly going to want to drink your booze, and you’re clearly not cool with that. Also, she’s in the ‘on again’, alcoholic phase! And it seems self evident, from her flip flopping on your support, that she’s reaching that addled state that long term alcohol abuse often produces. Even high functioning alcoholics eventually hit that spot where it all catches up to them, the years of abuse really beginning to show. They can’t keep things straight, flip flop back and forth from, ‘I love you man!’, to ‘You always hated me!’. No end of conflict and drama, but impossible to push back against as they’re so addled they just mood swing back to the contrary position without warning, mid drama!
If I were you, I’d tell her up front, you have no booze in your house, you won’t tolerate her bringing any in, and if she shows up drunk you’ll turn her away. If she still wants to visit you’ll all be happy to see her. If not, you’ll understand, no judgement, no hard feelings, another day.
Wishing you Good Luck! ( I’m pretty sure you’re in for a wild ride!)
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### Author:  [@Sahirrnee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sahirrnee)
#### Post date: [April 25, 2016, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/disfunctional-family-visit/753062/4 "2016-04-25T13:36:27Z")
Is there any other kind?
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### Author:  [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)
#### Post date: [April 25, 2016, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/disfunctional-family-visit/753062/5 "2016-04-25T17:48:40Z")
Yeah, I wouldn’t let her stay there. She’s welcome to get a hotel. (Easier for me to say, I know.)