# Divorced dopers, did you ever think this during your marriage?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [February 3, 2010, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-dopers-did-you-ever-think-this-during-your-marriage/527605 "2010-02-03T23:44:25Z")\
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**Author:** ![MitzeKatze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ad7895/32.png) [@MitzeKatze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MitzeKatze)\
**Post date:** [February 4, 2010, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-dopers-did-you-ever-think-this-during-your-marriage/527605/6 "2010-02-04T00:16:56Z")

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For a little more context, it was elaborated upon in subsequent posts.

> [@Married Dopers: Do you have a "back up plan?"](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-have-a-back-up-plan/527554/43):
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> You know, I am not really so sure of that. My first marriage I had all kinds of “just in case” plans in mind, and what I would do and wouldn’t do in the event of divorce and made sure that all “my” stuff was separate and accessible only to me even though I truly loved my husband…and we ended up divorced. Had you asked me at the time I would probably have said something like, “I don’t plan to divorce, but you never know what might happen” and it kept it as a possibility at the back of my mind any time things weren’t going just how I wanted them to be. All of the planning and preparing made it very easy to divorce, otherwise I might have worked more on the marriage itself.
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> This time I threw caution to the wind so to speak, never considered the possibility of divorce and it is a laughable suggestion to both me and my husband, still going strong more than 10 years later.
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> I know that anecdotes are not data but I do wonder how much of divorce is a self-fulfilling prophecy for those who over-think it and plan a bit too much, if you know what I mean.

Since both statements were made by me, a divorced and remarried woman, I thought I’d toss that out there. 😉

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