# Divorced people: do you still love your ex(es)? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 12, 2012, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817 "2012-11-12T20:17:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/1 "2012-11-12T20:17:10Z")
Poll in a moment. The results will be private, I think. ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 8:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/2 "2012-11-12T20:19:13Z")
No, but it took a lot of destructive, hateful work on her part to kill that love. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/3 "2012-11-12T20:27:42Z")
> [@Chimera](#): > > No, but it took a lot of destructive, hateful work on her part to kill that love. I knew you’d be an early responder. So did you stop loving her BEFORE or AFTER the divorce? ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/4 "2012-11-12T20:48:12Z")
I barely remember my first husband. Twenty-four very long years have passed. We’re FB friends but rarely say anything to each other. I hold no animosity towards him or anything like that. We just really don’t have anything in common. My second husband hates me because I dumped him but I don’t hate him. I don’t love him though. ---
**Author:** ![ThisSpaceForRent](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thisspaceforrent/32/345_2.png) [@ThisSpaceForRent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThisSpaceForRent)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/5 "2012-11-12T20:56:24Z")
Yes and yes…one on each end of the extreme. tsfr ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/6 "2012-11-12T21:00:59Z")
People who start polls should be required to reveal their own answer to the question posed, I think! ---
**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/7 "2012-11-12T21:02:12Z")
Two ex spouses, hate 'em both. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/8 "2012-11-12T21:09:56Z")
Pizza? ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/9 "2012-11-12T21:10:21Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > People who start polls should be required to reveal their own answer to the question posed, I think! It’s not a public poll, so I can’t agree. Anyway, I have only been married once, and I am still happily married to that woman, so I cannot give a meaningful answer (apart from the wisecracks at the end). > [@Anaamika](#): > > Pizza? I’m perfectly willing to provide you with free teleport pad service, Mika, but it’s still up to you to turn the damn thing on. ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/10 "2012-11-12T21:13:16Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > So did you stop loving her BEFORE or AFTER the divorce? Given that it was a rather painful 8 month long divorce process… I was about to say that it died in the first 4 bloody months of that process, but that would be wrong. It wouldn’t have hurt me so much and left such lasting injuries if I hadn’t still loved her. ---
**Author:** ![Chicken\_Fingers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Chicken\_Fingers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chicken_Fingers)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/11 "2012-11-12T21:16:35Z")
I love my ex, in a friend/family member way. He’s a great guy and we raised a child together. We were just always better suited to be friends. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/12 "2012-11-12T21:17:58Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > I’m perfectly willing to provide you with free teleport pad service, Mika, but it’s still up to you to turn the damn thing on. - bangs machine \* The repairman says 2016. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Chicken\_Fingers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Chicken\_Fingers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chicken_Fingers)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/13 "2012-11-12T21:23:31Z")
Woo hoo! I found a piece of pizza on my doorstep. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/14 "2012-11-12T21:25:51Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > - bangs machine \* > > The repairman says 2016. ☹ Did you show him your “I am on the Short List, and thus anyone who fails to provide me with preferential service will naturally be dropped into a pit of vipers” card? ---
**Author:** ![gwendee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/35a633/32.png) [@gwendee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gwendee)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/15 "2012-11-12T21:30:41Z")
My heart is still soft for the guy I married, but the liar that I asked to move out managed to make him disappear. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/16 "2012-11-12T21:36:34Z")
It took me a completely unreasonable amount of time to arrive at the conclusion that I had no business loving her (romantically) in the first place, but the events leading up to the divorce killed that love dead in a couple of months. I don’t feel any trace of that. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 9:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/17 "2012-11-12T21:37:08Z")
Nope. Shifted from love to hate pretty quickly. Still waiting on indifferent, but he becomes less relevant all the time so I can see it getting closer. ---
**Author:** ![Kent\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kent_clark/32/105_2.png) [@Kent\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kent_Clark)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/18 "2012-11-12T21:57:00Z")
I still love her but there is no, no, no, no way in Hell that I’d ever want to live with her again. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/19 "2012-11-12T22:15:37Z")
I still and always will love my ex but have no desire to see him again. The relationship was very bad for both of us. We’ve only seen each other in person once in the last 15 years. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2012, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817/20 "2012-11-12T22:23:17Z")
Unfortunately, my wife has threatened divorce if she came home and I smelled of mystery pizza, so I must pass. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/divorced-people-do-you-still-love-your-ex-es/640817.md?page=2)