# Do all guys tell their girlfriends they are "the best ever"? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 9, 2003, 11:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207 "2003-07-09T11:57:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![KP](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/a9adbd/32.png) [@KP](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KP)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/41 "2003-07-10T00:25:34Z")
I dunno. I keep trying to think of what could possibly make a guy say something like that. I mean, I love a good game of tennis or chess, but whatever the activity, and no matter how much I enjoy it and want a rematch, I won’t call my partner the best unless they really are. it just doesn’t come up that way. I’m sorry -really sorry- but I can only think of 3 major possibilities. 1. You ARE the best, in which case I’d explect a detailed recitation of how and why, because they’ll want you to do it that way again. Moreover, ‘being the best’ rarely happens through pure dumb luck, so you probably already have some idea WHY you’re the best. 2. You are obviously insecure, in which case it does not reflect your skill, but rather their wish to reassure you; or 3. You are _so much_ NOT the best that part of them (consciously or not) can’t help but think about (and cover up) the invidious comparison. Oh sure there are minor possibilities, but unless the guy talks that way routinely to others in other areas of their life, or had a previous GF who constantly asked the question, he probably wouldn’t be even thinking in a comparative mode unless it’s one of these (and #2 doesn’t really count unless #1 isn’t true) I’ve known many girls who were sure they were ‘the best’ at oral sex, because some guy(s) had (for reasons of their own) told them they were. I’m not talking about falling short of some porn fantasy, I’m talking “Let’s forget about me and give you another turn or two” That’s not as bad as it sounds -I fall more in the ‘tis better to give than recieve’ camp- but I do like variety and playfulness, so it does take a fair bit to make me give any acr the ‘wave off’. Doing so is rather ‘counter-playful’. ---
**Author:** ![garius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e19b73/32.png) [@garius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/garius)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2003, 10:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/42 "2003-07-14T10:38:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Coldfire \* > took our romance advice from the Barry White of the British Isles, **garius** himself. 😃 She knows i love her - i let her borrow my laptop and everything. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2003, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/43 "2003-07-14T20:02:09Z")
**Shoshana** > [@](#): > > Jeez! Lesbianism is a lot easier than all of this! Sure, if you’re female… ::sulk sulk sulk:: ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2003, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/44 "2003-07-14T20:37:41Z")
Uh, **Coldfire** , please never again speak of **handy** ’s wiener. Thank you. ---
**Author:** ![Lizard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@Lizard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lizard)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2003, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/45 "2003-07-14T21:19:26Z")
I’ve been with a few women where I didn’t get off. It was pretty obvious _they_ weren’t the best I’d ever been with. I took it as a positive sign about them if they seemed to care about it. Otherwise, I’ve never told anyone they were the best, and I probably never will. What’s the point? ---
**Author:** ![Fuji\_Kitakyusho](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/f0a364/32.png) [@Fuji\_Kitakyusho](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fuji_Kitakyusho)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2003, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/46 "2003-07-14T22:28:04Z")
No, because I’d be lying. I remember the best ever. Vividly. I miss that. No one since has come close. -FK ---
**Author:** ![lovelyluka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f475e1/32.png) [@lovelyluka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lovelyluka)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2003, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/47 "2003-07-14T23:19:14Z")
I know I’m his best ever. Don’t even have to ask. Heh heh heh. And I seem to be doing better with each boyfriend I have, so I’m telling the truth when I tell him (because he asks, because there are security issues) that he is, in fact, the best. The dilemma will come when I date a guy who is _not_ the best. In the meantime, I’ll just sit over here and be smug. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![danceswithcats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9e8a1a/32.png) [@danceswithcats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/danceswithcats)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2003, 11:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/48 "2003-07-14T23:30:20Z")
I feign post-coital hearing impairment, as in, “Sure, you’ve got a nice chest.” Or, “I agree, the Yankees are the best.” If the issue is pressed, you can always yawn and say “Sure, choose any fuzzy doll from the bottom shelf.” 😃 You may wish to run for cover after the preceding! ---
**Author:** ![Adoptamom\_II](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/7ba0ec/32.png) [@Adoptamom\_II](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Adoptamom_II)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2003, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/49 "2003-07-15T01:11:53Z")
Obviously not - read on! A woman meets a gorgeous man in a bar. They talk, they connect, they end up leaving together. They get back to his place, and as he shows her around his apartment, she notices that his bedroom is completely packed with sweet cuddly teddy bears. Hundreds of cute small bears on a shelf all the way along the floor, cuddly medium-sized ones on a shelf a little higher, and huge enormous bears on the top shelf along the wall. The woman is surprised that this guy would have a collection of teddy bears, especially one that’s so extensive, but she decides not to mention this to him, and actually is quite impressed by his sensitive side. She turns to him… they kiss… and then they rip each other’s clothes off and make hot steamy love. After an intense night of passion with this sensitive guy, they are lying there together in the afterglow, the woman rolls over and asks, smiling, “Well, how was it?” The guy says: “Help yourself to any prize from the bottom shelf.” ---
**Author:** ![John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Carter_of_Mars)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2003, 3:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/50 "2003-07-15T03:09:33Z")
By **Adoptamom\_11** : "The guy says: “Help yourself to any prize from the bottom shelf.” Please, please tell me this didn’t really happen! It’s just…Well, it’s JUST! To answer the OP: No, I would never make a remark that would imply a comparison. It’s simply not a cool thing to do, IMHO. There are many other ways to compliment someone without referencing past experiences. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2003, 5:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/51 "2003-07-15T05:24:59Z")
Nah, never told a girl she was the best. I did however tell a girl once (in the throws of passion) that she was “my dirty little bitch” Uh, yeah, that one didn’t go over to well. Which brings me to my point; I’m not sure how body chemistry work for a woman but for a man; we’re apt to say just about anything when our penis is hard. Just can’t help it sometimes. ---
**Author:** ![Berkut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a88e57/32.png) [@Berkut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Berkut)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2003, 6:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/52 "2003-07-15T06:34:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by SHAKES \* > \*\* I did however tell a girl once (in the throws of passion) that she was “my dirty little bitch” Uh, yeah, that one didn’t go over to well. \*\* Worked great for me. ---
**Author:** ![Infectious\_Lass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/e56c9b/32.png) [@Infectious\_Lass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Infectious_Lass)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2003, 7:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/53 "2003-07-15T07:40:54Z")
I don’t really have anything to add to this thread but I just want to say it has made me laugh so much-“you’re better than socks on a rooster” “spell out the state capitals” ROFL! yeah I know the acronyms are tiresome (that is the right word isn’t it?) This thread is a joy. You Dopers are the best you know that don’t you? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2003, 7:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/54 "2003-07-15T07:46:20Z")
I think it’s tacky to compare lovers so I wouldn’t tell a woman she was the best but would confirm that she was the most recent. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2003, 12:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/55 "2003-07-15T12:46:50Z")
I would, maybe, if it were true. It isn’t, so I keep my wug shut, which I consider the better part of wisdom in such a case. Romantic s-o-b, ain’t I? ---
**Author:** ![Major\_Kong](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b9bd4f/32.png) [@Major\_Kong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Major_Kong)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2003, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/56 "2003-07-15T20:24:28Z")
After I have sex with a woman, I sit her down for a grading process. I calmly go over everything she did right and wrong. And so there are no bad feelings as I go over the whole thing, I secretly videotape the encounters. We go over her performance and the performance of past lovers. And just so she can’t feel I’m not being fair, I post all this on the internet so I can other’s opinions to back me up. She is then given a number between 0 and 10. I really think honesty is very important in a relationship. By the way, I am single so ladies e-mail if you are interested in an honest relationship. ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2003, 5:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/57 "2003-07-16T05:13:34Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by Major Kong \* > \*\* And just so she can’t feel I’m not being fair, I post all this on the internet so I can other’s opinions to back me up._\* Cite. ---
**Author:** ![mmjewett](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba8739/32.png) [@mmjewett](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mmjewett)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2003, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/58 "2003-07-17T02:14:59Z")
no…I prefer to have them tell me that I am the best ever. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Major\_Kong](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b9bd4f/32.png) [@Major\_Kong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Major_Kong)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2003, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/59 "2003-07-17T02:50:04Z")
[www.majorkonggrading.org](http://www.majorkonggrading.org) ---
**Author:** ![Berkut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a88e57/32.png) [@Berkut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Berkut)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207/60 "2003-07-19T00:17:25Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Joey G \* > \*\*Worked great for me. \*\* …again [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-all-guys-tell-their-girlfriends-they-are-the-best-ever/187207.md?page=4)