# Do Black Men Like Dirty Talk More Than White Men? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 17, 2007, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805 "2007-11-17T03:50:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2007, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/61 "2007-11-19T19:39:47Z")
[QUOTE=gigi] I find it hard to believe that only the black men were interested in no-strings-attached sex?? [/QUOTE] Hmm, I didn’t read it that way exactly, but that the white men in this case were pursuing their interests _using the same techniques_ they’d use to woo a wife. And that’s where they were losing. Which makes me wonder if those same black men would approach a woman they were interested in beginning a long-term relationship in the same way. Or do they have two distinct courting behaviors, one for immediate gratification and the other for attracting a wife? ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2007, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/62 "2007-11-19T19:40:56Z")
> [@Nzinga](#): > > I can see how the fact that she was molested would ruin the mood. But ‘daddy’ is my favorite pet name to use. In the bedroom, and sometimes, when I’m feeling saucy, outside of the bedroom too. I dated a girl from Baja who called me Papi–and called her dad and her son that, too. I think in some places it’s just a generic badge of affection for a male relative/SO. > [@Maastricht](#): > > My personal experience has been with under 10 white guys. :eek: Paedo! 😉 > [@gigi](#): > > I find it hard to believe that only the black men were interested in no-strings-attached sex?? Us white guys are interested plenty–we just don’t know how to get it. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2007, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/63 "2007-11-19T19:41:15Z")
[QUOTE=gigi] I find it hard to believe that only the black men were interested in no-strings-attached sex?? [/QUOTE] I can only speak for myself, but I sex with or without strings attached. As long as there isn’t _too_ much blood on the string. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2007, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/64 "2007-11-19T19:59:10Z")
[QUOTE=fetus] **HazelNutCoffee** , your last post has proven the following hypothesis, which this thread seems as good a place as any to throw out there, and, hey, keep in mind, I’m _just_ throwing it out there: I swear you get hotter with every single post. I won’t go into details about who wants to tear whose what and how, since we _are_ in public. 😉 [/QUOTE] Gee, you sure know how to charm the ladies. 😉 It’s my Asian/Catholic schoolgirl background, isn’t it? :smack: ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2007, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/65 "2007-11-19T20:01:12Z")
[QUOTE=OneCentStamp] I can only speak for myself, but I sex with or without strings attached. As long as there isn’t _too_ much blood on the string. [/QUOTE] Cool. Everyone knows girls on the rag are extra-horny. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2007, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/66 "2007-11-20T01:08:01Z")
[QUOTE=HazelNutCoffee] Gee, you sure know how to charm the ladies. 😉 It’s my Asian/Catholic schoolgirl background, isn’t it? :smack: [/QUOTE] May I agree with **fetus** in that the corpus of your posts here tends to indicate to both interested and disinterested observers alike that you picked your online name well, for communicating heat, tastefulness and sweetness 🆒 (The Asian Catholic Schoolgirl thing… well I’m sure the gentlemen here cannot fail but take it into account, but we behave… just watch out for the ones who’ll ask if you still have and fit into the uniform… :eek: 😃 ) ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2007, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/67 "2007-11-20T01:10:26Z")
[QUOTE=Guinastasia] MY personal observation is that while black men may talk dirty more frequently, when white men talk dirty, their expressions are usually a great deal more vulgar. (Again, just my observation. May or may not be true) [/QUOTE] Oh, and I misunderstood-I meant non-sexually. My bad. :o ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2007, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/68 "2007-11-20T01:24:55Z")
> [@HazelNutCoffee](#): > > Gee, you sure know how to charm the ladies. Yeah, “I swear you get hotter with every single post” is one of my favorite lines. 😉 Catholic school doesn’t have much to do with it–I’m not one of those guys. It’s your picture combined with your personality. Anyway, I’m glad you weren’t visibly offended. I was getting worried! ---
**Author:** ![Sleel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/73ab20/32.png) [@Sleel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleel)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2007, 7:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/69 "2007-11-20T07:43:51Z")
I’m sure cultural differences play a part, but if he’s not talking up a storm while banging you silly, sometimes it’s just the guy. If I’m really into things I go almost non-verbal, as in I have to seriously concentrate to do much more than grunt or manage Og-simple sentences. “Turn over. Og want doggy-style!” I’m sure as hell not shy, and I talk well enough to charm women into trying things they weren’t sure they’d like (by all indications, they did enjoy them immensely though :D) but once we’re actually _doing_ those things, I’m lucky if I can string together a sentence as complicated as, “Oh #%&\* yeah, that feels good, baby!” It’s actually a bad sign if I’m pretty coherent because it means I’m detached from the moment to some extent. I had one or two women who specifically requested dirty talk and I had a couple of problems with that. 1) I don’t write romance stories for a reason, and that reason is: I’m not that good at finding original ways to say, “I’m going to plunge my purple-headed love warrior into the torrid whirlpool of your womanhood,” especially while my balls are being licked. 2) If I hold on to enough upper faculties to make an attempt at original and hot dirty-talk, the reptile part of my brain part thinks, “Well, hell, no point diverting blood to the member when he’s still in wooing mode using that big ol’ cortex. Hey, arousal, time to take a nap.” Or, pretty much what **fetus** said; my boner go bye-bye. Now, if you want a guy to make you hyperventilate so much that your toes go numb, or orgasm so hard that you lose track of time, space, and your sense of identity, I’m your man. I can do sexual innuendo, or whisper dirty deeds for later into your ear at a party while maintaining sexual tension until time for explosive consummation, but I can’t hold up much of a conversation once things get past clothing being undone. Sorry, I’m just wired that way. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2007, 11:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/70 "2007-11-20T11:30:13Z")
[QUOTE=JRDelirious] (The Asian Catholic Schoolgirl thing… well I’m sure the gentlemen here cannot fail but take it into account, but we behave… just watch out for the ones who’ll ask if you still have and fit into the uniform… :eek: 😃 ) [/QUOTE] I don’t know about _have_, but she’d still fit into it. She’s really beautiful and fit. And smart, too. Eat your hearts out, Dopermen, I got to meet her in the flesh! (Decently covered, it was at a restaurant.) [QUOTE=Sleel] Now, if you want a guy to make you hyperventilate so much that your toes go numb, or orgasm so hard that you lose track of time, space, and your sense of identity, I’m your man. [/QUOTE] So, uh, how \*you \*doin’? 😉 (“purple-headed love warrior” _gigglesnort_) ---
**Author:** ![Tastes\_of\_Chocolate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tastes_of_chocolate/32/3232_2.png) [@Tastes\_of\_Chocolate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tastes_of_Chocolate)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2007, 2:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/71 "2007-11-20T14:18:33Z")
[QUOTE=Sleel] 1. I don’t write romance stories for a reason, and that reason is: I’m not that good at finding original ways to say, “I’m going to plunge my purple-headed love warrior into the torrid whirlpool of your womanhood,” especially while my balls are being licked. [/QUOTE] I have nothing to add to this thread except “I find your ideas intriguing and I wish to subscribe to your news letter.” Or what **WhyNot** said. ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2007, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/72 "2007-11-20T14:43:27Z")
[QUOTE=Sleel] Now, if you want a guy to make you hyperventilate so much that your toes go numb, or orgasm so hard that you lose track of time, space, and your sense of identity, I’m your man. [/QUOTE] OK, it’s way too early for me to be breathing so hard. ---
**Author:** ![Sleel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/73ab20/32.png) [@Sleel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleel)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2007, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/73 "2007-11-21T01:29:51Z")
Many apologies, ladies, but I’m married. Besides, now that I’m over 30 I’m starting to slow down a little. Hours-long sessions are starting to seem like more trouble than they’re worth sometimes. I do appreciate the attention though. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2007, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/74 "2007-11-21T14:25:05Z")
I don’t think black men like dirty talk any more than white men, you just notice it more often because black people are so loud. ---
**Author:** ![fisha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/da6949/32.png) [@fisha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fisha)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2007, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/75 "2007-11-21T14:33:35Z")
[QUOTE=OneCentStamp] I don’t think black men like dirty talk any more than white men, you just notice it more often because black people are so loud. [/QUOTE] Best laugh today. Of course it’s only 0830, but still. ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2007, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/76 "2007-11-21T14:44:08Z")
[QUOTE=OneCentStamp] I don’t think black men like dirty talk any more than white men, you just notice it more often because black people are so loud. [/QUOTE] Okay, I let out a chuckle. ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2007, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/77 "2007-11-21T15:39:41Z")
[QUOTE=RedRosesForMe] I’ve only had sex with one black guy, sans dirty talk. The white guys I’ve had sex with, I’d say about half were into some sort of talking, one was into serious dirty talk. My experience is that talking during sex falls into 3 categories: 1. Comfortable with feedback: It feels so good when you X, Why don’t you get on top, etc. 2. Into a bit of dirty talk: You’re so naughty; You like X, don’t you, you little slut; etc. 3. Serious dirty talk: Of the type **Diosa** describes, very explicit and not confined to the bedroom. Then there’s 1. Guys who don’t really talk, but moan or grunt approval, and 2. Guys who make no noise at all, even when they climax. These guys are weird, but I’ve only ever dated one, so they’re rather uncommon in my experience. Most guys fall into 1, 2, or 4. I’ve only ever been with one guy who was into really serious dirty talk where he wasn’t just repeating a few stock phrases. He’d also do it when we weren’t in the bedroom or on our way to it, like the time he growled into my ear (before we’d ever done the deed) “I’d ravish you.” That was really hot. [/QUOTE] Just to clarify, my hubby and I are both (with a nod to Weird Al) whiter than sour cream. I am very, very proud that I singlehandedly, over a course of about 10 years, changed him from a 5 to a 3! When we first started seeing one another, he was silent, silent, silent. After a while, by being clear about what turns me on (and it ain’t silence, dammit!), I got him to a point where he would at least vocalize during, uh, key times. These days, though, we’ll be in a movie theater or a restaurant or bar or something, and he’ll pull me close and start whispering wonderful, explicit things in my ear! Yum! Unfortunately, I can’t add anything to the black/white divide, because I have no sexual experience with black men, outside of my years as a phone sex operator. In that capacity, I’d have to say my results don’t count, because, hey, white men who are not comfortable with sexually explicit talk wouldn’t be calling a phone sex line, right? ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2007, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-black-men-like-dirty-talk-more-than-white-men/426805/78 "2007-11-21T17:39:45Z")
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