# Do gay men turn you on? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 31, 2000, 5:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456 "2000-08-31T05:06:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![fnord1966](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ad7895/32.png) [@fnord1966](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fnord1966)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2000, 5:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/1 "2000-08-31T05:06:15Z")
I was wondering, do women find gay men as erotic as most men find lesbians? Just a silly question, but I would like to know. ---
**Author:** ![Homer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/df788c/32.png) [@Homer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homer)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2000, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/2 "2000-08-31T05:09:57Z")
Shhh! I told you not to tell anyone! Seriously, though, I find it hard to believe that women find ONE hairy, lumpy, dangly, grody man attractive, let alone two sets 'o dangly bits. –Tim ---
**Author:** ![lee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lee/32/7455_2.png) [@lee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lee)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2000, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/3 "2000-08-31T05:23:20Z")
i do. Watching two guys is a favorite fantasy of mine. I like to imagine two guys I know. Yum! ---
**Author:** ![Falcon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/49beb7/32.png) [@Falcon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Falcon)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2000, 5:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/4 "2000-08-31T05:52:49Z")
I’m with lee. Hell, I write the stuff sometimes. ---
**Author:** ![evilbeth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/evilbeth/32/2268_2.png) [@evilbeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/evilbeth)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2000, 8:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/5 "2000-08-31T08:49:51Z")
I’m with Falcon and lee. (Hmm…this makes twice this week that I have admitted this on the board…) ---
**Author:** ![Commander\_Fortune](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Commander\_Fortune](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Commander_Fortune)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2000, 10:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/6 "2000-08-31T10:00:53Z")
Oh, yeah. Definately. ---
**Author:** ![Bluemonchichi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6de8d8/32.png) [@Bluemonchichi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bluemonchichi)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2000, 10:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/7 "2000-08-31T10:05:06Z")
Ummm…Let me think about this a minute! Yes!!! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![SwimmingRiddles](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/43a26b/32.png) [@SwimmingRiddles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SwimmingRiddles)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2000, 11:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/8 "2000-08-31T11:47:04Z")
Attractive as individuals? Yes. It’s like having the best parts of both sexes. Erotic? No. However, as a drama queen, a lover of all things girly, I tend to have a lot in common with the femmes. Especially the drag queens. But I don’t find them especially erotic. ---
**Author:** ![SqrlCub](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea5d25/32.png) [@SqrlCub](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SqrlCub)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2000, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/9 "2000-08-31T13:23:25Z")
Gay men always turn me on. DUH! heheheHUGS! Sqrl ---
**Author:** ![Estrella](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7ba0ec/32.png) [@Estrella](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Estrella)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2000, 2:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/10 "2000-08-31T14:14:44Z")
I think two hot men kissing is definately as erotic as two hot girls kissing. Hell, I watch OZ for the occasional kiss between Keller and Beecher (among other reasons). ---
**Author:** ![Athena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/35a633/32.png) [@Athena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Athena)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2000, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/11 "2000-08-31T14:54:57Z")
Count me in. Funny - I’m surprised to see so many women agreeing with this. Most women I know IRL tell me I’m nuts. But damn, I’d love to watch a couple gay guys get it on. What fun! ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2000, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/12 "2000-08-31T15:23:44Z")
No, not really, but that doesn’t mean I disaprove of gays. It just doesn’t float my boat, that’s all. Maybe because I’m not into the whole threesome thing… ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2000, 7:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/13 "2000-09-01T07:44:27Z")
> [@](#): > > Do gay men turn you on? Yes. More appropriate answer to OP: Yes. I’m on a mailing list with several dozen female Star Trek fans who write slash: erotic same-sex fan fiction, almost exclusively written by women. ---
**Author:** ![Edwardina](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Edwardina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Edwardina)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2000, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/14 "2000-09-01T18:19:43Z")
I’ve been turned on by individual gay men, and I’ve imagined sharing two guys, but I never actually took it to the next level and imagined watching two men get it on. It’s an intriguing concept. Let’s just say I wouldn’t be adverse to the experience. But, I honestly couldn’t say how erotic I’d find it. I can’t imagine why two gay men would want a straight woman watching them in an intimate setting, though, so I don’t think I’m likely to find out what my arousal level might be any time soon. ---
**Author:** ![Gravity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gravity/32/14322_2.png) [@Gravity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gravity)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2000, 7:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/15 "2000-09-01T19:42:25Z")
Yep. I regularly read erotic slash. The angst-ridden gut-wrenching romantic ones are my favorites. 🙂 K. ---
**Author:** ![salinqmind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ec8ea/32.png) [@salinqmind](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/salinqmind)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2000, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/16 "2000-09-15T02:49:35Z")
Yes! YES! But in videos they have to be cute and trim. Crew cuts, shaven heads, grotesque muscles, nasty tattoos - yuck! And nothing ugly or violent. Passionate, romantic stuff, not totally unlike that between men/women, is a nice change of viewing pleasure. Same with reading material, here I can handle a bit more kinky/violent stuff. I like to read the boy/boy stuff on [http://www.jackinworld.com](http://www.jackinworld.com). Interesting and informative, not to mention titillating! As time goes on, I find myself more often bored than not with women and their breasts and thighs, like so many chicken parts, jiggling away. ---
**Author:** ![Scotticher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Scotticher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scotticher)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2000, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/17 "2000-09-15T03:10:01Z")
Sorry- I do not find gay men erotic. In my life I know gay men, and I find them to be wonderful men, or jerks, or men I feel neutral about. Pretty much the same as heterosexual men, I value them or don’t value them as people, not as any kind of gender or whatever. But, I don’t find them erotic. I guess this is kind of interesting to me, because I can’t see how a person would feel erotic about someone who had no interest in them sexually. Most likely, I am once again missing something. Scotti sighs, once again. ---
**Author:** ![fnord1966](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ad7895/32.png) [@fnord1966](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fnord1966)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2000, 5:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/18 "2000-09-15T05:46:36Z")
Wow, I thought that this thread had died a long time ago. I kinda forgot wht I started it in the first place. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2000, 11:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/19 "2000-09-15T11:34:52Z")
Just pictured Daniel Day-Lewis and Tom Cruise together. And it just made me go “ick.” ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21825_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2000, 11:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456/20 "2000-09-15T11:49:35Z")
I agree with Scotti. The thought of a couple of guys going at it does nothing for me… Anyway, I’m not much on spectator sports - I wanna be in the game myself! [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-gay-men-turn-you-on/31456.md?page=2)