# Do \[i\]any\[/i\] females not find asian males distasteful? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 1, 2003, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014 "2003-09-01T20:50:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/61 "2003-09-02T03:20:39Z")
Paging **Esprix** … **Esprix** , please pick up the white courtesy telephone… ---
**Author:** ![JThunder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e95f7d/32.png) [@JThunder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JThunder)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 3:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/62 "2003-09-02T03:23:24Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by yosemitebabe \* > \*\*If more Asian males were given romantic leads, given storylines where they were allowed to be “sexy” or “romantic,” then maybe they’d be on more women’s “hunk radar.” > > In other word, don’t just blame the female population, blame Hollywood. \*\* Oh, believe me, I happen to heartily agree with that! Hollywood is hugely responsible for perpetuating these images of Asian men. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/63 "2003-09-02T03:24:14Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by yosemitebabe \* > \*\*[Dustin Nguyen](http://h.t.ioki.tripod.com/Dustin/DnMain.htm) (obviously someone at this site thinks Dustin is a _major_ hottie). > \*\* Holy mackerel. Julie ---
**Author:** ![kathij](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@kathij](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kathij)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 3:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/64 "2003-09-02T03:28:44Z")
Straight guy checking in here to ask a question. I was watching my Baltimore Orioles get beaten up by the Seattle Mariners yesterday, and it struck me that Seattle’s Ichiro Suzuki is a pretty damn good looking guy. Do any of you female or gay male Dopers find him attractive? ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/65 "2003-09-02T03:33:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by kathij \* > \*\*Straight guy checking in here to ask a question. > > I was watching my Baltimore Orioles get beaten up by the Seattle Mariners yesterday, and it struck me that Seattle’s Ichiro Suzuki is a pretty damn good looking guy. > > Do any of you female or gay male Dopers find him attractive? \*\* He’s not unattractive, but he’s too slim for me. I tend more toward [Chow Yun Fat](http://nbi.com/hk/cyf/gallery/aatk/aatk077.jpg), personally. Julie ---
**Author:** ![leafrog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cab0a1/32.png) [@leafrog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/leafrog)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 4:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/66 "2003-09-02T04:11:15Z")
I’m a white woman who’s last three boyfriends have been Asian…so, yeah, I guess I find Asian men attractive. Just as attractive as the black men (one African-American and one African) I’ve dated and the white men (all breeds) I’ve dated. I have seen men of all races that were extremely unattractive, as well. I think there are definitely people out there that naturally aren’t attracted to others who looks a certain way. There are, unfortunately, other people in whom these feelings have racist roots. That kind of sucks for all involved and people should just get over it. ---
**Author:** ![lilbtagna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/4491bb/32.png) [@lilbtagna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lilbtagna)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 4:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/67 "2003-09-02T04:43:32Z")
I’m a Vietnamese woman who is friends with many, many Asian men. I find plenty of them attractive, but I’m afraid I wouldn’t date most of them. This has nothing to do however with the fact that they are Asian. I just don’t think they’re good boyfriend material, like a lot of the other guys I’ve encountered at college. They’re a little too infactuated with their cars, their drinks, and their parties for my taste. Again, that’s not a problem I have with Asian men specifically, since I know guys of every race like that. I did have one Vietnamese friend though who thought a nice compliment to his girlfriend at the time was, “I love you as much as I love my car.” She broke up with him pretty soon after that. Also, I can’t believe this thread has gotten so far listing attractive Asian actors and [Toshiro Mifune](http://www.mifuneproductions.co.jp/index1.html) hasn’t been mentioned. I was positively swooning over him when I watched the _Samurai Trilogy_ about Musashi. ---
**Author:** ![amarinth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3be4f8/32.png) [@amarinth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amarinth)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 4:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/68 "2003-09-02T04:49:41Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by kathij \* > \*\*Straight guy checking in here to ask a question. > > I was watching my Baltimore Orioles get beaten up by the Seattle Mariners yesterday, and it struck me that Seattle’s Ichiro Suzuki is a pretty damn good looking guy. > > Do any of you female or gay male Dopers find him attractive? \*\* uhm… Tsuyoshi Shinjo, OTOH, yes. Pity he can’t hit. And I think that BD Wong has yet to be mentioned in the thread. I also had several crushes growing up (where Asians were the largest minority) and in college (same) on Asian guys who wouldn’t give me the time of day. ---
**Author:** ![Jaade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/dfb087/32.png) [@Jaade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jaade)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 6:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/69 "2003-09-02T06:05:58Z")
I am one of those women that is not _particularly_ attrached to asian men. However, I married one! (He was 3/4th Phillipino) He was also a great deal stockier than most asian men I see. I don’t really like to date guys that I feel are smaller than me (and a good number of asian men fall into this category). And he looks very non asian I guess…at least, I thought he was hispanic when we met. That being said, I also had a relationship with a second asian guy, and have a heavy flirtation going with a third that is a friend of mine. In every single case though, it was personality that won me over, not looks. I think that a lot of women feel the same way. (Not about asian men, but about looks vs. personality) ~J ---
**Author:** ![MonkeyNo1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/bbe5ce/32.png) [@MonkeyNo1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MonkeyNo1)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 6:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/70 "2003-09-02T06:56:42Z")
Asian male very amused with this thread… I had never dated a non-Caucasian female until very very late in my dating life. In my humble experiences, many Caucasian females find Asian males to be very attractive or cute. Which is a good thing, as this Asian male is not very attracted to Asian females. LOL. ---
**Author:** ![Nightime](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Nightime](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nightime)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 7:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/71 "2003-09-02T07:52:59Z")
In my experience, it is all about attitude. I have known asian males who did not feel they were owed anything, and who just put themselves out there - and girls loved them! If anything, being asian was a plus! The fact is, asian males are often very good looking, and I think the reason for the perceived “distaste” is all about attitude. If an asian male feels that a girl has a “duty” to date him, or if he refuses to put himself out there because he is afraid of rejection, of course he won’t have much dating success. But that is true of anyone, not just asian males. It is just that asian males seem more likely to feel they are owed something, or to feel that women find them distasteful - it is a self fulfilling prophecy. ---
**Author:** ![kimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f0a364/32.png) [@kimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kimera)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 8:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/72 "2003-09-02T08:13:12Z")
I’m shocked no one has mentioned Keanu Reeves. Maybe because he’s only half? **JThunder** , you just aren’t hanging around the right people if you have the impression that white girls don’t like Asian guys. I know TONS of girls (both black and white) that are interested in dating Asian guys. More so than Asian guys interested in dating white girls. I’m dating an Asian guy myself. I’ve never had a crush on a black guy or a white guy. (Emotionally yes, but never physically.) Indian, Hispanic, Asian, those are the guys that get me going. I’m a white female, btw. ---
**Author:** ![sickboy51](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@sickboy51](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sickboy51)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 10:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/73 "2003-09-02T10:17:40Z")
I now I´m male, and this is a poll for females, but I would like to say a couple of things (with **non-native** and **Czarcasm** ´s permise, of course). First, for **Giggle** , black women being unattractive? I would date Halle Berry anday, anywhere and anytime, without the slightest sight of a doubt. I don´t know if you all know about that ugly problem in china, you see, seems that there, having a daughter is a major problem, so a lot of times, when a woman has a daughter (instead of a son), the poor baby ends up killed or abandoned as often to be a worry about that practice. So here in Spain, a quite number of families without kids are adopting chinese baby girls, so in about 15-20 years Spain will have a large population of spanish-chinese girls, ready to date and too few chinese males to do so. Too bad I will be too old to date them ☹ Anyway, I prefer japanese girls, their eyes´ shape drives me crazy. ---
**Author:** ![Siege](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dbc845/32.png) [@Siege](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siege)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 11:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/74 "2003-09-02T11:08:09Z")
**if you don’t know i won’t tell** , watch out. Many years ago, I was also studying Japanese and wound up studying in Japan. Now, I’m from a small town within 100 miles of **non-native** , but I wound up falling in at least puppy love with a Japanese fellow I met out while I was in Japan. Nothing came of it but memories and stories, but they are, for the most part, good ones. When it comes to attractiveness, I know it sounds trite, but personality really does greatly outweigh looks for me. I told the fellow I loved most I could never see myself being physically attracted to him about a month before I realized I loved him. At that point, my opinion completely changed. An ugly mind will turn me off far quicker than a less than perfect body (yes, I realize that’s not an equal comparison). Racial stereotyping, to me, is an indication of an ugly mind. CJ ---
**Author:** ![kathij](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@kathij](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kathij)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 2:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/75 "2003-09-02T14:02:33Z")
Okay, first of all, my partner posted a reply last night and was signed in as me, so to eliminate confusion, this post is from a straight woman. Were I single, I would date anyone with whom I felt rapport and attraction, and that includes Asian males. I worked for many years with a Chinese American man who was smart, funny, and very handsome. There were three reasons I didn’t date him: he was seeing someone, I was seeing someone, and he’s a control freak with an occasional mean streak. I grew up in San Francisco and lived there for most of my adult life, and I’ve seen _ **plenty** _ of very attractive Asian men in my day. The only reason I’ve never dated one is simply because the situation never presented itself (hard to believe, now that I think about it). I am sure that there are plenty of women out there who don’t find Asian men attractive simply because they’re Asian (the men, I mean). They (the women) are morons, and, it goes without saying, not worth your time. If the issue is that it’s hard to meet a nice girl (or at least pick one up), then maybe the problem is geographic. It’s very possible that you will find a higher percentage of women who don’t judge people based on their apparent “foreignness” in cosmopolitan cities, but that doesn’t mean that such women don’t exist elsewhere as well. ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/76 "2003-09-02T17:01:09Z")
_{ahem}_ Asian men are hot. No, wait. **Asian men are hot.** No, still not right. **Asian men are HOT!** Hrm. ASIAN MEN ARE HOT!!! Thank you. (If you’d like to see the hottest Asian man out there, [click here](http://www.gayleague.com/members/memberimages/613.jpg) to see a picture of my boyfriend, **Q**. 😃 ) Esprix ---
**Author:** ![Lamar\_Mundane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/85f322/32.png) [@Lamar\_Mundane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamar_Mundane)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/77 "2003-09-02T17:06:05Z")
Well, you said to be completely honest… This is one of those questions that you get one answer for if you ask it in print and anonymously, and quite a different one if you just look around you. I think that _Giggle Gaggle_, while a first class moron, actually gave you answers that more reflect the views of Americans _in general_, except without all the hate involved. If you were a sociologist and were tasked to do a study on the issue of interracial dating, what do you think the results would be? The vast majority of Americans never date outside their own race. Certainly, there are differences between regions - if you are in San Francisco or Seattle, places with a large and integrated Asian population, you are far more likely to find interracial couples than if you are in Oshkosh or Omaha or Oklahoma City. Anecdotally, I know of many women who will openly comment on the hotness of Asian men in the office or in a club setting, but I would bet my bottom dollar that they would never date the guy. Whether it is due to racism or some other factor, I am not sure. My guess is that they just are too comfortable with the status quo, and aren’t the type to step out. I also know very many people who are completely independant minded and the notion af a man’s race barely crosses their mind at all. It’s just that there are a lot more of the former. It is a shame, in my opinion, that things are this way, but it’s a lot different now than it was even 20 years ago. Sometimes the best way to get an accurate answer to a question such as yours is to just look around. ---
**Author:** ![dangermom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e274bd/32.png) [@dangermom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dangermom)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/78 "2003-09-02T17:15:56Z")
My first boyfriend, in 12th grade, was Asian. In college, I had a long flirtation with a Korean guy in my dorm. So yeah, I do find Asian guys attractive. I’m an old married lady now, though. ---
**Author:** ![ioioio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ioioio/32/316_2.png) [@ioioio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ioioio)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/79 "2003-09-02T17:30:03Z")
The original question was “Do _any_ females not find asian males distasteful?” Whether or not there are women who aren’t posting but who find Asian males distasteful, it has certainly been shown that _some_ females do not find Asian males distasteful. And as long as [Chow Yun-Fat](http://www.absolutepictures.com/display.php?p=/y/yun-fat_chow&c=028&n=Chow+Yun-Fat&l=039) is walking the face of the earth, the question is laughable. At college and subsequently while working in California, there were several Asian guys that I would have been delighted to go out with if only they’d been interested in me. (There are very few Asians where I live now.) ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014/80 "2003-09-02T18:35:12Z")
**Esprix** , I’m afraid I really don’t understand what you are saying. Could you be more clear about whether Asian men are hot or not? Julie [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-any-i-females-not-find-asian-males-distasteful/199014.md?page=5)