# Do I Bring Flowers For This?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-bring-flowers-for-this/418869>\
**Category:** Factual Questions\
**Created:** [September 12, 2007, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-bring-flowers-for-this/418869 "2007-09-12T02:51:30Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 5\
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**Author:** ![Quasimodem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Quasimodem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodem)\
**Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-bring-flowers-for-this/418869/1 "2007-09-12T02:51:30Z")

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Second try, you locked my first one, why???

Anyway this is an etiquette question and I know y’all know all kinds of shit about etiquette, right?

Recently my former football coach (whom I thought a lot of, being that he developed a soft spot in his heart for a little German kid who didn’t know what that funny ball was for and who only knew a few words in English) died and I only found out about the funeral after the fact.

I am meeting with his widow next Wednesday to reminisce, and I am wearing a suit and tie for the occasion.

(Not for her, but for Coach)

Is there anything else I need to do?

Thanks

Quasi

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**Author:** ![treis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bc79bd/32.png) [@treis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/treis)\
**Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-bring-flowers-for-this/418869/2 "2007-09-12T03:01:34Z")

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Flowers would be a nice gesture, but I don’t think any sort of gift is required in this situation.

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**Author:** ![eenerms](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/cdc98d/32.png) [@eenerms](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eenerms)\
**Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-bring-flowers-for-this/418869/3 "2007-09-12T03:24:54Z")

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Maybe you should find out if your coach has a memorial fund you can contribute to. She would get a notice about that. (FWIW my husband’s parents were both teachers and they have a scholarship fund in their names. We get notices if people contribute to it)

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**Author:** ![Duck\_Duck\_Goose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/50afbb/32.png) [@Duck\_Duck\_Goose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duck_Duck_Goose)\
**Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-bring-flowers-for-this/418869/4 "2007-09-12T03:31:25Z")

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[QUOTE=Quasimodem]  
Second try, you locked my first one, why???  
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I observed that a number of threads were locked, without any visible OP, around the time the server went toes-up, around 4:30 p.m. CDST. No idea why, but you definitely weren’t alone.

No, there’s no need to bring flowers. You donate flowers to the actual funeral, but since that’s past…

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**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\
**Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-bring-flowers-for-this/418869/5 "2007-09-12T03:46:36Z")

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Taking her a cheery bouquet, would be a nice gesture. Flowers for her, not funeral flowers.  
You can ask her while you’re there if there is a memorial fund.