# Do I come across as male or female to you? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 1, 2005, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778 "2005-02-01T14:54:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Kamino\_Neko](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kamino_neko/32/34_2.png) [@Kamino\_Neko](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kamino_Neko)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/1 "2005-02-01T14:54:11Z")
Twice in this last week I’ve had people on other forums actively confused about my gender. This happens fairly often. Even within hours of my clearing it up, it’ll happen again. It’s uncanny, really. I’ve actually long since stopped being surprised when people are confused about my gender. Heck, half the time I’m more surprised when someone gets it right first shot. Still, I’ve become curious. Which way do I read to the Dope? I’ve deliberately avoided reference to it in this post, to get as clean a reply as possible. ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/2 "2005-02-01T15:02:40Z")
My default assumption is male unless given some reason to believe otherwise, which I’ve not seen or remembered from your posts, so male. ---
**Author:** ![Cub\_Mistress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea666f/32.png) [@Cub\_Mistress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cub_Mistress)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/3 "2005-02-01T15:04:52Z")
I’d say male, and pretty young (under 30, maybe even under 25.) Is there a prize? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![badbadrubberpiggy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/57b2e6/32.png) [@badbadrubberpiggy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/badbadrubberpiggy)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/4 "2005-02-01T15:08:28Z")
I say female, though I don’t know why. Maybe most people default gender to whatever their own gender is? I’m female, therefor I think the unknown dopers are female, unless their name suggests otherwise. I suppose it’s a possibility. ---
**Author:** ![enigmatic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@enigmatic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enigmatic)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/5 "2005-02-01T15:09:12Z")
I’d have said male. ---
**Author:** ![archmichael](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/bb73d2/32.png) [@archmichael](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/archmichael)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/6 "2005-02-01T15:09:23Z")
Male ---
**Author:** ![enigmatic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@enigmatic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enigmatic)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/7 "2005-02-01T15:15:01Z")
Hey this is fun 🙂 Anyone care to guess me ? ---
**Author:** ![Sublight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/439d5e/32.png) [@Sublight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sublight)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/8 "2005-02-01T15:15:51Z")
I picture you as a [male with a long, red nose.](http://www.shejapan.com/jtyeholder/jtye/living/ghost/ghost4.html) Either that or a nationwide chain of all-night pubs known for [cheap beer](http://www.teng.co.jp/) and pretty good fried chicken. ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/9 "2005-02-01T15:17:22Z")
Me, I just thought you were a humanoid with a crow’s head 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/10 "2005-02-01T15:23:10Z")
> [@Sublight](#): > > I picture you as a [male with a long, red nose.](http://www.shejapan.com/jtyeholder/jtye/living/ghost/ghost4.html) Bah! Got to it before me. Though I was thinking more of the \*karasu tengu \* than the _yamabushi tengu_. I would have to go with male, though, since the name kind of implies that. ---
**Author:** ![Arwin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/51bf81/32.png) [@Arwin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arwin)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/11 "2005-02-01T15:24:17Z")
Human, until proven otherwise … ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 3:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/12 "2005-02-01T15:27:44Z")
Human? really? I definitely think of you as clam jerky. ---
**Author:** ![Kamino\_Neko](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kamino_neko/32/34_2.png) [@Kamino\_Neko](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kamino_Neko)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/13 "2005-02-01T15:31:07Z")
> [@Sublight](#): > > I picture you as a [male with a long, red nose.](http://www.shejapan.com/jtyeholder/jtye/living/ghost/ghost4.html) [These fellas](http://kardev.com/karasu_tengu.htm) are actually where I got the name. The yamabushi are less cool. > [@Cub Mistress](#): > > pretty young (under 30, maybe even under 25.) Funny you should say that. Most people also peg me as somewhat older or much younger than I am. (28 for the record.) I’ve been guessed at 15 and 30 pretty consistantly since I was 20. :smack: Apparently this is the ONLY forum online where I come across semi-consistantly as male. Funky. enigmatic, for some reason, you’re ‘female’ in my mind, for whatever that’s worth. (On preview. Hee. Clam Jerky. I still get a kick out of that.) ---
**Author:** ![Duderdude2](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/cdc98d/32.png) [@Duderdude2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duderdude2)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/14 "2005-02-01T16:02:52Z")
I automatically assume everyone’s a male, even those with “girl” or “chick” in their names. It’s a habit I picked up from various other message boards, this being one of the few with authentic females. ---
**Author:** ![LindyHopper](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ebca7d/32.png) [@LindyHopper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LindyHopper)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/15 "2005-02-01T16:26:26Z")
Male, unless I get you confused with **Tansu** (which sometimes happens). ---
**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/16 "2005-02-01T16:34:35Z")
**Tengu** - Female. I’ve always thought that. **enigmatic** - Female. So, when will you let us know if we’re right? ---
**Author:** ![AskNott](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asknott/32/5790_2.png) [@AskNott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AskNott)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/17 "2005-02-01T16:58:23Z")
We have too many members for me to remember everyone’s gender. I’m thinking I remember female. Your link to that armored, bird-headed creature with huge tassles on its nipple rings :eek: would have been ambiguous if you hadn’t said “these fellas.” It doesn’t matter, though, what your gender is. Not to me, anyway, whether you are male, female, human, or Martian. If you’re smart, witty, and not a jerk, you’re my friend. OK? Before I saw your link, I might have guessed you were a penguin or a Sherpa. ---
**Author:** ![Evil\_One](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/45deac/32.png) [@Evil\_One](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_One)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/18 "2005-02-01T17:50:11Z")
Male. 25-35. ---
**Author:** ![FilmGeek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b19c9b/32.png) [@FilmGeek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FilmGeek)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/19 "2005-02-01T17:52:15Z")
I always think I come across as male (not so much now that I know a few dopers, and have said numerous times that I’m not) but that comes from my interests (video games, dungeons and dragons, action films). I get mistaken for male in real life (more often in the winter as bulky clothes hide my more obvious chestal assets) and I have short hair and I don’t wear makeup. ---
**Author:** ![MysteryFellow63427](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e4f/32.png) [@MysteryFellow63427](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MysteryFellow63427)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2005, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778/20 "2005-02-01T18:43:03Z")
I pretty much assume that anyone with a username that’s remotely Japanesey/anime-sounding is male. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-i-come-across-as-male-or-female-to-you/287778.md?page=2)