Oh, are we in another DoperLand thread, where it’s totally normal to bring a lawsuit against the parents of a kid who bit your kid at daycare?
Yeah, in the real world, that’s something a crazy person would do.
Look, to answer the OP, there’s no reason in the world you need to know who bit your kid. As others have pointed out, the only possible thing you could do with this information would be to target your rage at the correct toddler. You’re not going to bring a lawsuit. That is ridiculous-- tscht! No. Hush. I said that it is ridiculous.
If your child continues to be bitten, then the daycare has a responsibility to expel the biter from the program, and if that doesn’t happen, then it’s a shit daycare and you should find a different one.
I’ll agree that a lawsuit over a simple bite is ridiculous. However, what does the parent do when the bite becomes infected and results in a huge medical bill?
It’s not like a meteor fell out of the sky and hit their little snowflake. A person is responsible for causing the wound. That person is a child, but still retains legal personage, and is legally responsible (through the parents) for their actions. Other people accepted responsibility for ensuring the safety of the children in their care, and one of those charges became injured.
Between those two, there is ample responsibility to go around.
No, you don’t need to know which kid it was. As others have said, as long as you are satisfied with the appropriate response on behalf of the daycare - and they are going to tell you that part, right? What’s it to you? As others have said, if the behavior continues you are free to bring it up to the next level. Another child biting your kid once is not a good enough reason to go into Mama Bear mode - they bite at that age, and need to be taught not to.
Worse yet, what happens when the toddler dies from the infection and then rises from the dead and starts eating the living? Huh? What then, naysayers? This isn’t just a trivial incident. This is something that could potentially destroy the whole human race. I hope all of you, especially DianaG and MsWhatsit, are properly ashamed of yourselves. People like you don’t deserve to have children.
It is the parent’s responsibility to get their kid vaccinated against tetanus. Tetanus is a common disease contracted by scraping little knees and getting dirt in the wound, or by being bitten by another toddler. So, it is pretty much a given that a kid gets scrapes and bites, so get the damn shot and then you don’t have to sue afterwards.
Let it go, OP. You’ll be glad you did when your kid bites another kid in a month or so. In my experience as a parent, the due course of child developement is first being bitten, then biting, then getting over the biting thing, then getting hit, then hitting, rinse, repeat.
Did you miss the part where I said a lawsuit over a simple bite was ridiculous?
It’s right here:
Maybe you didn’t catch it
If (note the word “if” indicating a conditional clause) it turns out to not be a simple bite, and there’s a big medical bill over an infection (which do happen with human mouth bites that break the skin) then someone responsible for either the biter or the facility have legal liability.
But, before you go off the deep end again, I should repeat
You need to develop a better relationship with the staff of the daycare, OP. The official policy is to never tell parents who the biter is. But I’ve never had trouble getting to the bottom of these sorts of things through my social network with the other parents and the teachers that I’m friendly with.
They won’t tell you in open company in front of other parents and you’ll get the whole “a generic child” bit. But you ask them later, in private, offsite if possible. Best time is when they have some drinks in them.
In a late-breaking addition to the Craziest Response to a Simple Preschool Issue competition, we have “Get your child’s preschool teacher drunk and wheedle the name of the offending child out of them,” which is likely to have a strong showing but in my opinion will still not edge out, “Go to court and sue the parents.”
I disagree. I think there is some assumed risk in sending young children to daycare. I also think that it would be difficult to prove material damages in a lawsuit. I really think this technically would be a criminal matter, not a civil matter. But, again, I think it would be difficult to prove malice aforethought, and it would definitely be difficult to find handcuffs tiny enough to fit on a toddlers little wrists.
It is my opinion that you are obligated to adhere to and respect the policies of the Day Care provider you have chosen. If you do not agree with their policies you are entitled to withdraw your child from their care and seek other arrangements.
Now that I think about it, we’re dealing with a biter here. For officer safety, it’d probably be a good idea to tase the toddler before attempting to cuff him.
