# Do lesbians enjoy penetration? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 5, 2007, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005 "2007-02-05T23:52:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![SSG\_Schwartz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@SSG\_Schwartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SSG_Schwartz)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2007, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/1 "2007-02-05T23:52:33Z")
I recently talked to a lesbian friend, and she said that she enjoys manual and oral stimulation, but if she wanted penetration, she would have stayed straight. Is this common? I know the porn films are generally not accurate, but in most, you see the strap on come out at some point. Do you use a phallic item? Do you prefer it? Or do you prefer not to have anything inserted for good lovemaking? This seems like a poll, so this seems like the place to put it. Sgt Schwartz ---
**Author:** ![myskepticsight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cc9497/32.png) [@myskepticsight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/myskepticsight)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2007, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/2 "2007-02-06T00:59:34Z")
I’m not a lesbian but I’ve known some. Some like dildos, some don’t. Just like all people don’t like oral or anal or whatever else. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2007, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/3 "2007-02-06T01:11:22Z")
They love penetration, but not with a man attached to the penetrator. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2007, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/4 "2007-02-06T01:13:26Z")
Almost every lesbian I know owns and uses a dildo on a semi-regular basis. It makes sense. Penetration doesn’t _have_ to be a gender thing… it just feels good. ---
**Author:** ![Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swallowed_My_Cellphone)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2007, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/5 "2007-02-06T01:20:45Z")
[QUOTE=olivesmarch4th] Almost every lesbian I know owns and uses a dildo on a semi-regular basis. It makes sense. Penetration doesn’t _have_ to be a gender thing… it just feels good. [/QUOTE] Wasn’t Susie Bright once quoted saying (with respect to lesbians and dildos): “Penetration is only as heterosexual as kissing”…? So whatever floats your boat whether your gay, straight, or bi. You do whatever feels good. ETA: I think the quote had something to do with lesbian-feminism and the use of dildos, but I really have no clue. (I should leave my sister’s old textbooks alone). ---
**Author:** ![susan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/susan/32/17537_2.png) [@susan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/susan)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2007, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/6 "2007-02-06T01:47:00Z")
It depends on the lesbian. Shoshana, lesbian ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2007, 9:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/7 "2007-02-06T09:41:36Z")
Ooh. I wish I could point you to something mindbending on the site I work for, but it goes so far beyond NSFW that I really shouldn’t. I’ll try to get around it like this: 1598 abbywinters profile php page com main model www . . / . ? = & = ---
**Author:** ![FriarTed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/friarted/32/1052_2.png) [@FriarTed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FriarTed)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2007, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/8 "2007-02-06T14:48:16Z")
[QUOTE=GuanoLad] Ooh. I wish I could point you to something mindbending on the site I work for, but it goes so far beyond NSFW that I really shouldn’t. I’ll try to get around it like this: 1598 abbywinters profile php page com main model www . . / . ? = & = [/QUOTE] You can make it safe for the SDMB but easier than that! ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2007, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/9 "2007-02-06T14:54:08Z")
[QUOTE=Shoshana] It depends on the lesbian. Shoshana, lesbian [/QUOTE] I like **Sgt Schwartz** a lot, so I’ll go easy on him, but why wouldn’t this make sense? What, is every lesbian cut from the same mold? I’ll make one small modification to **Shoshana’s** comment and say, it depends on the _individual_. ---
**Author:** ![phungi](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/phungi/32/395_2.png) [@phungi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phungi)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2007, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/10 "2007-02-06T15:00:26Z")
[QUOTE=FriarTed] You can make it safe for the SDMB but easier than that! [/QUOTE] This is harder than the “13 d i a b d” puzzle… ---
**Author:** ![Waverly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/57b2e6/32.png) [@Waverly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Waverly)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2007, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/11 "2007-02-06T15:02:18Z")
Everything you need to know about the subject is covered in Chasing Amy. ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2007, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/12 "2007-02-06T23:43:12Z")
[QUOTE=phungi] This is harder than the “13 d i a b d” puzzle… [/QUOTE] If you go to the website in question (it’s freely explorable) you will be able to figure out what order the words go in. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2007, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/13 "2007-02-06T23:53:20Z")
You go to most adult video stores, and there’s a whole lot of strap on dildos for sale. Somebody’s buying them, and I have trouble believing that the majority of them are being sold to straight girls for use on their straight boyfriends. Also, I’d like to commend **GuanoLad** on his excellent work. That’s a damn fine website you work for, sir. ---
**Author:** ![SSG\_Schwartz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@SSG\_Schwartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SSG_Schwartz)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/14 "2007-02-07T02:14:04Z")
[QUOTE=Anaamika] I like **Sgt Schwartz** a lot, so I’ll go easy on him, but why wouldn’t this make sense? What, is every lesbian cut from the same mold? I’ll make one small modification to **Shoshana’s** comment and say, it depends on the _individual_. [/QUOTE] Thank you, **Anaamika** , and I actually don’t approve of generalizations. That is how prejudices are formed, but I was interested to find if this was a generalization, and was trying to learn. No offense intended. Sgt Schwartz ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 2:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/15 "2007-02-07T02:19:37Z")
[QUOTE=GuanoLad] Ooh. I wish I could point you to something mindbending on the site I work for, but it goes so far beyond NSFW that I really shouldn’t. I’ll try to get around it like this: 1598 abbywinters profile php page com main model www . . / . ? = & = [/QUOTE] [http://www](http://www) (dot) [abbywinters.com/main.php?page=profile&model=1598](http://abbywinters.com/main.php?page=profile&model=1598) ---
**Author:** ![sturmhauke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e47c2d/32.png) [@sturmhauke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sturmhauke)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 8:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/16 "2007-02-07T08:55:44Z")
The chick sitting in the background looks bored. ---
**Author:** ![robertliguori](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/46a35a/32.png) [@robertliguori](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robertliguori)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 12:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/17 "2007-02-07T12:14:32Z")
I feel the overwhelming urge to write a script, that will reply to threads with titles fitting the expression “Do \ enjoy \?” with “Some do, some don’t.” ---
**Author:** ![Gorsnak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gorsnak/32/7587_2.png) [@Gorsnak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gorsnak)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 1:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/18 "2007-02-07T13:00:26Z")
[QUOTE=robertliguori] I feel the overwhelming urge to write a script, that will reply to threads with titles fitting the expression “Do \ enjoy \?” with “Some do, some don’t.” [/QUOTE] You’d enjoy that, wouldn’t you? ---
**Author:** ![Jurph](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/50afbb/32.png) [@Jurph](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jurph)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 1:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/19 "2007-02-07T13:09:40Z")
[QUOTE=Gorsnak] You’d enjoy that, wouldn’t you? [/QUOTE] Some programmers do… some programmers don’t. ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 2:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/20 "2007-02-07T14:12:36Z")
I think the bigger question is why don’t more hetro guys break down and admit to the pleasure of being penetrated. Some lesbians like penatation. Some gay guys don’t. Some hetero chicks arn’t that into penetration but it’s expected. Some straight guys won’t admit to it. But what the helll. Feelsl good to me. Others are missing out. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005.md?page=2)