# Do lesbians enjoy penetration? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 5, 2007, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005 "2007-02-05T23:52:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![shy\_kat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/59ef9b/32.png) [@shy\_kat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shy_kat)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2011, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/41 "2011-03-06T16:47:14Z")
My wife and I both like penetration but seldom bother to do it with anything other than our fingers. ---
**Author:** ![rivulus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/839c29/32.png) [@rivulus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rivulus)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2011, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/42 "2011-03-07T04:09:44Z")
Lesbian here. Yup, my partner and I both enjoy penetration. Dildo and finger. But it’s only one part of our sexual repertoire. Depends on my mood what I’m into on a given day. Being the “top” has it’s own charms, too. This may be just a personal taste thing, but I prefer my “penis” without those hairy balls hanging down and flapping around (ugh, shiver). I’ve had – and enjoyed – sex with men. The penis is a fascinating thing. But balls… not my favorite. Honestly, my ideal (and here we get into the realm of ancient Greek fantasy) would be some sort of hermaphrodite with a fully functioning (real live warm skin, not rubber) penis but no balls, less hair, and a body/face more like a woman. TMI? ---
**Author:** ![Musicat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/musicat/32/20189_2.png) [@Musicat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Musicat)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2011, 4:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/43 "2011-03-07T04:24:18Z")
> [@rivulus](#): > > This may be just a personal taste thing, but I prefer my “penis” without those hairy balls hanging down and flapping around (ugh, shiver). For hairy: shave. For hanging down & flapping: keep the room cold. Works every time. Or find someone with undescended testicles. Works for contraception, too. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Fealycks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Fealycks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fealycks)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2011, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/44 "2011-03-31T15:05:54Z")
I’m a lesbian and I don’t like penetration. I’m a gold star which means I’ve never been with a man which is true but I have used a strap on with partners I have had but it’s perfectly fine to be a lesbian and not enjoy penetration. ---
**Author:** ![appleciders](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@appleciders](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/appleciders)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2011, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/45 "2011-03-31T17:50:56Z")
> [@betenoir](#): > > But in many ways the same idea, one that many het guys are put of by, to the lose of their own pleasure. I’ll cop to that. On the one hand, I can understand why it feels good, and why some guys like it. On the other hand, the mental block is too big for me to get over, so it’s not for me. ---
**Author:** ![Chapulin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@Chapulin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chapulin)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2011, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/46 "2011-03-31T18:10:47Z")
Yes, they just don’t want a man doing the penetrating. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2011, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/47 "2011-03-31T19:13:49Z")
All the lesbians I know (well, the ones who talk about such things) are rather enamored of fisting. So, yeah, some if not most lesbians like penetration. ---
**Author:** ![Stoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stoid/32/272_2.png) [@Stoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoid)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2011, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/48 "2011-03-31T19:24:55Z")
> [@betenoir](#): > > I think the bigger question is why don’t more hetro guys break down and admit to the pleasure of being penetrated. Because that makes them fags, doncha know. I have found that making a completely safe and accepting space for my lover to be very effective at breaking down that resistence. Once he’s absolutely sure that he won’t be judged, he cops. And THEN I point, laugh, and call him a big flaming homo. (j/k) ---
**Author:** ![Jake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f475e1/32.png) [@Jake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jake)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2011, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/49 "2011-03-31T20:46:55Z")
\This may be just a personal taste thing, but I prefer my “penis” without those hairy balls hanging down and flapping around (ugh, shiver). I’ve had – and enjoyed – sex with men. The penis is a fascinating thing. But balls… not my favorite. Honestly, my ideal (and here we get into the realm of ancient Greek fantasy) would be some sort of hermaphrodite with a fully functioning (real live warm skin, not rubber) penis but no balls, less hair, and a body/face more like a woman. TMI? \ Not at all. Your post was most informative. Thanks for the insight. Jack ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2011, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005/50 "2011-03-31T23:23:02Z")
> [@Fealycks](#): > > I’m a lesbian and I don’t like penetration. > I’m a gold star which means I’ve never been with a man which is true but I have used a strap on with partners I have had but it’s perfectly fine to be a lesbian and not enjoy penetration. Never heard that one before! I’m going to have to ask around to find out if everyone but me has heard it, of my friends (have heard ‘thoroughbred’ for gay guys who have never been with women). [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-lesbians-enjoy-penetration/391005.md?page=2)