# Do orgies appeal to you? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 23, 2012, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567 "2012-09-23T03:43:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2012, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/21 "2012-09-23T14:57:17Z")
> [@Antigen](#): > > I don’t want that many people seeing me naked. Besides, for me, sex is a one-on-one thing involving a little more than just the physical. > > I guess I don’t really understand the big appeal of orgies, especially to men. Once you’ve had sex with one person, aren’t you sort of done, at least for a while? Well, especially in my youth it used to take me a while to finish and I’d stay hard throughout, so I can well imagine moving from one mouth or vagina to another before settling on one to come in, and finding it amusing and enjoyable. But that was then. These days I really don’t see it. The point about “more than just the physical” is pretty much the clincher. ---
**Author:** ![Ludovic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ab992/32.png) [@Ludovic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludovic)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2012, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/22 "2012-09-23T14:57:47Z")
> [@Grumman](#): > > I wouldn’t go quite that far: I wouldn’t participate in any orgy that would allow more than one person like me to participate. If 2+ bisexual women decide to invite me to their orgy for some reason I’m all for it, as long as it doesn’t end in human sacrifice or anything like that. Me too. The presence of another man in the room would most likely be a woodwhacker for me. But if I’m the only guy in the room? Sure. But what’s the chances of that? ---
**Author:** ![Trion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ccd318/32.png) [@Trion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trion)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2012, 3:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/23 "2012-09-23T15:03:00Z")
Theoretically, yes. Realistically, no. ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2012, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/24 "2012-09-23T15:26:08Z")
Depends. Large group, probably not. Three to four total participants, sure. 50 year old male. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2012, 3:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/25 "2012-09-23T15:34:53Z")
The idea isn’t even remotely interesting to me but even if it was, just one look at HBO’s _Real Sex_ series gives you a peek at the people who usually participate. Even if you WERE interested, at that point I would imagine your interest would _ahem_ dry up quickly. Well, at least mine would. ---
**Author:** ![KermitTheFrig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/47e85d/32.png) [@KermitTheFrig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KermitTheFrig)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2012, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/26 "2012-09-23T15:37:15Z")
A threesome or foursome including people I care about a lot could work for me, but I’m not sure I see it ever happening. I’m not into strangers at all. Years and years ago there was a bit of threesome stuff going on–male, bi female, lesbian female. The other two were a little more into each other, but it was fun then and interesting to think back on. We were more or less a trio for a while. Everyone ended up going their separate ways. ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2012, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/27 "2012-09-23T17:22:29Z")
I voted no, and yet if the situation were just right… ---
**Author:** ![qualityleashdog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/9f8e36/32.png) [@qualityleashdog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/qualityleashdog)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2012, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/28 "2012-09-23T17:27:23Z")
When I was 20, and the potential participants were much more attractive, all the time. Now that I’m 30 and the participant pool is more likely to be frumpy, not so much. ---
**Author:** ![zhoen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c4cdca/32.png) [@zhoen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zhoen)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2012, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/29 "2012-09-23T17:43:40Z")
Appealing in my imagination, where I can orchestrate everything, and make them all shut up, and then vanish when I’m done. In reality? Messy human feelings, messy humans, awkward, and I know I’d wind up with the one person at the party I least wanted to talk with, cornered in the kitchen making politely evasive conversation. ---
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2012, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/30 "2012-09-23T18:34:54Z")
Like visiting a legal cathouse in NV, a orgy is something I did once, glad I did it for the experience, but have no interest in repeating. ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_R.Mortiss](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tim_r.mortiss/32/142_2.png) [@Tim\_R.Mortiss](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_R.Mortiss)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2012, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/31 "2012-09-23T18:47:36Z")
No. Too many thank-you-notes to write. ---
**Author:** ![Taomist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@Taomist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taomist)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2012, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/32 "2012-09-23T19:21:07Z")
In fantasyland, yeah. In reality, nah. But that’s why we have fantasyland 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2012, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/33 "2012-09-23T19:31:34Z")
Eh…not really, but then again I have never participated in one, so I can’t say so with certainty. ---
**Author:** ![Onomatopoeia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/onomatopoeia/32/4145_2.png) [@Onomatopoeia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Onomatopoeia)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2012, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/34 "2012-09-23T20:18:04Z")
I have an ultra sensitivity to scents, of all kinds, always have. The slightest aroma, shift in aromas, introduction of a new aroma, or competing aromas, slams directly into my head, either giving me an instantaneous headache, or causing a choking sensation. With the regimen I require of my wife, both prior to and during our amorous encounters, it’s amazing she still has sex with me at all, and she’s just one person. The thought of being in the same room with a bunch of people having sex, forget about participating as I’m sure I’d go instantly catatonic, with the myriad scents wafting around, and most likely bodies that are in no way hygienically acceptable to me, is far more disgusting than I can describe, and is causing my windpipe to tighten as I type this post. So no. ---
**Author:** ![Covered\_In\_Bees](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Covered\_In\_Bees](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Covered_In_Bees)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2012, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/35 "2012-09-23T20:58:18Z")
Male, mid20s. Orgies in general do not appeal to me, but I’m not sure you could totally count me out. If I were single and a possible MFF threesome presented itself, I’d probably go for it, at least to try it once. Any more people than that I think it would just get awkward and uncomfortable. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2012, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/36 "2012-09-23T21:25:24Z")
> [@Tim\_R.Mortiss](#): > > No. Too many thank-you-notes to write. See, for me it would be writing out replies to the thank you notes… ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2012, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/37 "2012-09-24T00:36:40Z")
I’m not letting that many people see me naked. I got married so I wouldn’t have to get naked in front of anyone new again. Now … a threesome with Worf and Captain Picard … maybe 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2012, 12:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/38 "2012-09-24T00:42:03Z")
> [@PandaBear77](#): > > Now … a threesome with Worf … maybe :eek: Are we talking about [the same Worf](http://images2.fanpop.com/image/photos/9400000/Lieutenant-Worf-star-trek-the-next-generation-9406774-1694-2560.jpg)? :eek: ---
**Author:** ![FriarTed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/friarted/32/1052_2.png) [@FriarTed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FriarTed)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2012, 12:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/39 "2012-09-24T00:51:37Z")
> [@Taomist](#): > > In fantasyland, yeah. > In reality, nah. > But that’s why we have fantasyland 🙂 Yeah, and in fantasyland, it would be just with a bunch of girls, like the Spice Girls (Posh as she was back then, the rest as they are now- she’s aged badly but they’ve matured nicely.) ---
**Author:** ![kayT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayt/32/3633_2.png) [@kayT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayT)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2012, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567/40 "2012-09-24T01:57:10Z")
> [@Acid\_Lamp](#): > > I’ve had several threesomes and an occasional moresome. They can be fun. Yup. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-orgies-appeal-to-you/635567.md?page=3)