# Do sexual preferences make one a bigot?

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**Category:** Great Debates\
**Created:** [August 12, 2021, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-sexual-preferences-make-one-a-bigot/948544 "2021-08-12T20:08:15Z")\
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**Author:** ![Max\_S](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@Max\_S](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_S)\
**Post date:** [September 7, 2021, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-sexual-preferences-make-one-a-bigot/948544/263 "2021-09-07T21:06:52Z")

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> [@iiandyiiii](#):
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> the moral thing re: dating is to not go on a date with someone (including going out to dinner or whatever) one knows there’s no chance of a relationship with

Well… as I was saying with **MrDibble** I don’t think it’s so absolute when the act in question is simply going on a date rather than actual sex. I think, under no circumstance is it morally wrong to refuse sex. (I could imagine contrived situations like you are the last couple alive but for all intents and purposes…) But there are situations where I think it would be morally wrong to refuse a date, even if you find them unattractive. Of course it isn’t fair to the date, but there may be other counterfactors in play. You might ‘owe’ someone, it might be a double date, etc. The motivation for your refusing is important because you do not have the absolute moral right to refuse.

> [@iiandyiiii](#):
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> At the same time, if that preference is caused by bigotry, the moral thing to do is to try and kill the bigotry within one’s self.

I’m primarily concerned with the question of whether the preference is, itself, a form of bigotry.

~Max

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