# Do women enjoy anal sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 6, 2007, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146 "2007-02-06T23:25:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Rubystreak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e5b9ba/32.png) [@Rubystreak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rubystreak)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/21 "2007-02-07T04:19:02Z")
[QUOTE=BrainGlutton] For that matter, is there really such thing as a **vaginal** G-spot? [/QUOTE] Oh, yes. Big time. It makes orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone possible. Trust me on this. ---
**Author:** ![Sublight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/439d5e/32.png) [@Sublight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sublight)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/22 "2007-02-07T05:19:30Z")
[QUOTE=Rubystreak] Is the feeling really very different from vaginal sex for guys? [/QUOTE] That’s kind of what I was wondering. What the attraction of anal sex (on the giving end) for guys? Just isn’t a turn-on for me. ---
**Author:** ![Chotii](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/71e660/32.png) [@Chotii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chotii)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 7:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/23 "2007-02-07T07:18:56Z")
From what I understand, without going into details which would be my husband’s to share or not share…it’s just gawdawfully tight, with a muscle-trembling finish. Also I _think_ the sensation of bumping across the inner anal sphincter would be different from vaginal intercourse, expecially after a vaginal birth. I say that, because the sensation is different for me, and thus I assume, for him. Also, if (as in my own case) vocalization becomes both loud and utterly unselfconscious, well I guess that could be a heck of a turn-on. Then, even if the feeling was the same, the experience would be different. ---
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 7:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/24 "2007-02-07T07:50:26Z")
I have had one partner that claimed she Orgasmed from it, and since she wanted it often and reacted like she O’d , I can only assume she did. One other partner did enjoy it, but one for two reasons “It was nasty” and she used a vibrator on her clit while being… ---
**Author:** ![Sleel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/73ab20/32.png) [@Sleel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleel)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 8:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/25 "2007-02-07T08:17:35Z")
I’m not a woman so I can’t speak to the OP from personal experience, but **Sublight** ’s question I can handle. Physically, it’s tighter than most vaginas. She can clamp down on you if she wants, just like she can with her vagina if she’s practiced it, and she will if she has an orgasm when you’re “doing stuff.” You can have fun with both places at once, if you want. That’s kind of interesting, feeling yourself inside her while you’re fingering her. If you’ve got a mirror or video recording around, you can also see her being penetrated, reacting, getting turned one, while she’s not being _penetrated_, in a sense. Mentally, there’s the forbidden fruit factor: Most women won’t let you do it but this one will. Or, she hasn’t done this with other guys but she’s doing it with you. There’s the trust issue. It takes a lot of trust for her to allow her to do something with her that can cause her pain if you rush, don’t communicate well, or get too into yourself to pay attention to her. That she trusts you with it is a big headrush. Some girls like it, some don’t. I’ve been the first guy they did anal with for a couple of girlfriends, a few had tried it before, and a couple wouldn’t do it. Either they’d done it before and didn’t like it, or they just wouldn’t do it at all, ever. Those who were into it usually got really into it. It seems to be one of those things where there aren’t many fence-sitters. You either like it or you don’t. Even the women who liked it weren’t always in the mood for it though. It’s something that can’t be rushed or pushed. If it’s not the right time, it’s not going to happen. From my experiences on the giving side, women can definitely enjoy the hell out of anal sex. I remember one of my girlfriends getting so wet that she dripped; she lubricated even more than usual. For some, just the thought of the forbidden or wantonness of it was a turn-on. It seems to be an emotional trigger. I’ve had a couple of women have weird emotional reactions after or during, and most of them told me that the experience can be pretty overwhelming sometimes. You’ll get some out-there moments too. Screaming, moaning, eyes rolled back, even drooling. Pretty trippy and powerful stuff. ---
**Author:** ![Chotii](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/71e660/32.png) [@Chotii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chotii)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 8:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/26 "2007-02-07T08:31:27Z")
[QUOTE=BrainGlutton] For that matter, is there really such thing as a **vaginal** G-spot? [/QUOTE] I’m not sure I believe there is, or at least, not universally. I have heard - and this [upper right hand picture on Wikipedia](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clitoral_glans) seems to substantiate - that the root of the clitoris, which extends deep into the pelvic cavity - bifurcates, and the two forks pass on either side of the urethra, and end up against the anterior vaginal wall. Depending on how they grow, where they contact, and other simple developmental variations, one woman might be in absolute heaven from an angle of penetration that would leave another woman bored and wondering what the point is. But lucky the woman with just the right anatomy, and a partner who can find it. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Chasing\_Dreams](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/258eb7/32.png) [@Chasing\_Dreams](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chasing_Dreams)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 8:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/27 "2007-02-07T08:43:22Z")
Can’t we hook up some electrodes to the G-spot and connect it to a trigger button? ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 11:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/28 "2007-02-07T11:25:41Z")
To quote the illustrious Madonna, “My bottom hurts just thinking about it.” To answer your question seriously, there is nothing pleasurable (for me) about anal sex and I will never try it again. It feels like nothing, and then hurts for hours later. My asshole is sacred. No. ---
**Author:** ![Aangelica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b2d939/32.png) [@Aangelica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aangelica)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/29 "2007-02-07T16:47:27Z")
_shrug_ I do not. I know many women who do. This is very much a YMMV sort of dealie. In my personal case, I find it ranges from uncomfortable to blazing agony. As neither sensation is to my sexual fancy, I abstain from anal sex. To clarify, I’ve tried it several times (five times total - with three different partners). Two of the three were gentlemen and tried and tried and tried to make it work for me. (The third was a jackass of Biblical proportions in all ways - guys, sneaking one in on your girlfriend is not going to make you a popular fella.) They failed, but not through want of communication and trying. It just ain’t for me. Then again, I routinely climax through vaginal penetration _alone_ and have profoundly meh feelings toward receiving oral sex, so what do I know? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![BrainGlutton](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/82dd89/32.png) [@BrainGlutton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrainGlutton)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/30 "2007-02-07T20:58:06Z")
[QUOTE=Sublight] That’s kind of what I was wondering. What the attraction of anal sex (on the giving end) for guys? Just isn’t a turn-on for me. [/QUOTE] As I said, I’ve never tried it, but there are several possible answers: 1. The old “forbidden fruit” angle. Doing the naughtiest (not entirely disgusting) form of sex imaginable. 2. A sense of domination and violation of the woman. 3. The anus is a lot tighter than the vagina. (In most women; I’m sure there may be exceptions). 4. Pleasing the woman, if she is the kind who actually enjoys anal. 5. A way for a latent gay-in-denial to pretend he’s doing a guy. ---
**Author:** ![BrainGlutton](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/82dd89/32.png) [@BrainGlutton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrainGlutton)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/31 "2007-02-07T21:03:06Z")
[QUOTE=Anastasaeon] I just prefer the feeling of being close to my partner for as long as I can. The longer I can hold off orgasm, the longer I get to.. hmm… _play_! [/quote] If more people of both sexes had that attitude about sex, the world would be a happier place! 🙂 [QUOTE=Anastasaeon] Also, sometimes an orgasm makes me get all _weird_, and pensive, and sometimes once it’s over, I’m more thinking about what’s on tv, or what to make for dinner. [/QUOTE] It’s that way with guys. One moment sex is the most important thing in your whole universe, and the next moment you’ve almost completely lost interest. Most guys have to wait a while (“a while” could be anywhere from 20 minutes to 24 hours or more, varying with the individual and with the guy’s age) to get aroused again. But I always thought it was different for women, whose orgasmic capacity is not so suddenly and decisively **exhausted** as a man’s. ---
**Author:** ![DragonAsh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/db5fbb/32.png) [@DragonAsh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DragonAsh)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/32 "2007-02-07T23:10:25Z")
[QUOTE=WhyNot] Have you never taken a really good dump? [/QUOTE] Whatever curiosity I _might_ have had about anal sex was pretty much cleanly erased with that analogy… anal…ogy. snicker snort ---
**Author:** ![Chotii](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/71e660/32.png) [@Chotii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chotii)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/33 "2007-02-07T23:40:02Z")
I remember reading somewhere - I can’t remember where, and I’m sorry, I’d rather offer a cite - where young women in the Sudan were interviewed about sex. They described it as being pleasureable, like a bowel movement. This was intended as a positive statement. Of course, if they were from the tribes where ‘dry sex’ is practiced (women dry their vaginas up with herbal poultices and other methods, which makes them much more vulnerable to HIV and other infection from microlacerations to tissues not intended to be dry in the first place), and if their partners were circumcised, meaning the glans penis would be dry from exposure…given my choice between the hypothetical two, I think I might rather have the BM. ---
**Author:** ![Chotii](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/71e660/32.png) [@Chotii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chotii)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/34 "2007-02-07T23:57:37Z")
[QUOTE=BrainGlutton] It’s that way with guys. One moment sex is the most important thing in your whole universe, and the next moment you’ve almost completely lost interest. … But I always thought it was different for women, whose orgasmic capacity is not so suddenly and decisively **exhausted** as a man’s. [/QUOTE] Oh, I don’t know. I have to be very highly aroused before I can shut out the intrusive thoughts (which is something I deal with all the time anyway). Perhaps this is one reason I enjoy anal - it is so overwhelming that I quite literally can think of nothing else, just for a little while. After I reach orgasm, the thoughts come back, wham, and suddenly I’m plotting tomorrow’s trips to appointments, just that fast. ---
**Author:** ![Lionne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Lionne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lionne)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2007, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/35 "2007-02-08T00:40:33Z")
Count me in the “some don’t” category. ---
**Author:** ![Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/96bed5/32.png) [@Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Patty_O_Furniture)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2007, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/36 "2007-02-08T01:20:36Z")
Who was it that said the brain is the largest sex organ? There is a huge psychological and emotional stimulation that results from being penetrated, whether it be via the mouth or poop chute\*, so you might just as well ask [how anybody can get excited about giving a blow job](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=406785). \*Because we don’t have enough silly euphamisms for “anus” in this thread yet. ---
**Author:** ![Yorikke](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yorikke/32/4335_2.png) [@Yorikke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yorikke)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2007, 9:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/37 "2007-02-08T09:55:17Z")
[QUOTE=BrainGlutton] What pleasure I get out of that, I attribute to the relief of uncomfortable pressure (like lancing a bruised fingernail to let out the blood); which doesn’t make it an experience for which I would go out of my way. Nor is banging your head against a wall because it feels so good when you stop. [/QUOTE] Never recieved anal sex. But I’ve had some REALLY deep itches in my rectum, and it feels NICE to scratch them… Joe ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2007, 1:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/38 "2007-02-08T13:14:52Z")
As for why guys even want to think about giving the ol’ anal, I point out tenet number two in the three-part series that is “How A Man Works”. That rule is: “if there’s a hole, something’s going in it”. It’s the same reason guys climb Everest, explore, and curious. ---
**Author:** ![Ranchoth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ranchoth/32/1066_2.png) [@Ranchoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranchoth)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2007, 1:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/39 "2007-02-08T13:26:47Z")
[QUOTE=BrainGlutton] It’s that way with guys. One moment sex is the most important thing in your whole universe, and the next moment you’ve almost completely lost interest. Most guys have to wait a while (“a while” could be anywhere from 20 minutes to 24 hours or more, varying with the individual and with the guy’s age) to get aroused again. But I always thought it was different for women, whose orgasmic capacity is not so suddenly and decisively **exhausted** as a man’s. [/QUOTE] Grigory Rasputin described something along those lines he called “Holy Passionlessness”—a state when one was nearest to God, and best acheived through sheer sexual exhaustion. Sounds a lot faster, easier, and more fun to acheive than an asexual life of celibacy and monastic living, to be sure. Like the Liposuction approach to Nirvana. ---
**Author:** ![BrainGlutton](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/82dd89/32.png) [@BrainGlutton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrainGlutton)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2007, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146/40 "2007-02-08T15:33:12Z")
[QUOTE=Chotii] Of course, if they were from the tribes where ‘dry sex’ is practiced (women dry their vaginas up with herbal poultices and other methods . . . [/QUOTE] 😕 Why? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-enjoy-anal-sex/391146.md?page=3)