# Do women experience sexual appetite only during certain time of the month (ovulation)? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 9, 2018, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282 "2018-03-09T15:16:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2018, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/41 "2018-03-09T22:22:00Z")
Sexual tension ( the good kind) starts well before the act. If you are receptive to a partner, you will make the thing possible. For women ( maybe men too ) a hand touch, a kiss good morning can be foreplay. Sweet words ( and jewelry;)) can really go far. ---
**Author:** ![Lemur866](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lemur866/32/434_2.png) [@Lemur866](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lemur866)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2018, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/42 "2018-03-09T22:41:43Z")
> [@Fotheringay-Phipps](#): > > I’m not sure I understand you. Do you have sex 100% of the times when it’s an option? Uh…yes? I suppose there have been times where I’ve been sick, and I haven’t bothered trying to make anything happen. But if my wife wanted something to happen, I sure wouldn’t refuse. However the issue has never come up, because when I’m sick I’m apparently sufficiently repulsive that the matter has never been tested. ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2018, 10:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/43 "2018-03-09T22:42:04Z")
> [@Fotheringay-Phipps](#): > > I’m not sure I understand you. Do you have sex 100% of the times when it’s an option? If not, then there are obviously things which influence whether you decide to go for it on a given occasion. There are things which factor into my decision about whether I “decide to go for it on a given occasion.” Do we have enough time, for example. Usually, however, it’s my perception of my wife’s likely response. If I think she’s up for it, there aren’t many (any?) things that come to mind that would cause me to forgo a good romp in the hay. > [@](#): > > Are you saying that sleep, financial anxiety, and a stomach ache would not factor into your mindset on such occasions? Yes, unless it was quite a serious stomach ache. I’ve had plenty of financial anxiety over the years, and I can confidently state it does not effect my sex drive. ---
**Author:** ![Renee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/renee/32/287_2.png) [@Renee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renee)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2018, 10:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/44 "2018-03-09T22:43:20Z")
Dude. Get a new hobby. ---
**Author:** ![Lemur866](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lemur866/32/434_2.png) [@Lemur866](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lemur866)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2018, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/45 "2018-03-09T22:52:08Z")
> [@Renee](#): > > Dude. Get a new hobby. Hey, I’ve tried to teach my wife “Settlers of Catan” but she just isn’t up for that kind of freaky shit. ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2018, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/46 "2018-03-09T23:24:16Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > Your cite is the definitely-not-impartial _The Rational Male_, and the first quote in the article is from Joe Rogan-“Booty is so strong that there are dudes willing to blow themselves up for the highly unlikely possibility of booty in an other dimension. There are no chicks willing to blow themselves up for a penis.” > Can you do better? In fairness, that quote is pretty accurate. Terrorist groups would have a hard time recruiting female suicide bombers with a promise of “72 virgin men awaiting them in paradise.” ---
**Author:** ![The\_Other\_Waldo\_Pepper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_other_waldo_pepper/32/12370_2.png) [@The\_Other\_Waldo\_Pepper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Other_Waldo_Pepper)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2018, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/47 "2018-03-09T23:40:02Z")
> [@gisaaanr](#): > > It’s not a generalization because most of our friends feel like it. I just wanted this to get singled out for a moment. ---
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2018, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/48 "2018-03-10T00:16:43Z")
It’s my understanding that while women may not\* consciously\* feel hornier, during their time of maximum fertility they tend to seek out the company of men, wear revealing clothing and more jewelry and so on. > [@gisaaanr](#): > > But men sex drive is quite random. The longer they will go their sex drive get more intense. Male sexual desire tends to _increase_ the longer they go without sex. Female sexual desire tends to \*decrease \*the longer they’ve gone without sex. However, once they _have_ sex men’s sex drive tends to drop drastically, while that of women increases. The more sex women have, the more they want; the more sex men have, the less they want more of it. This all basically sounds to me like some prehistoric genetic engineer wanted to make men and women to be as frustrating to each other as possible. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2018, 12:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/49 "2018-03-10T00:41:05Z")
> [@Fotheringay-Phipps](#): > > I completely disagree with that. I think sleep, financial anxiety, and a stomach ache would be factors for men as well as women. The others apply mostly to women. And they do. Men sometimes don’t feel like sex because they are ill or anxious or just tired. But for women (warning, generalization), sex is a much more mental process than it is for men, so mental distractions affect them much more (many women can reach orgasm from fantasy alone - its really rare a guy can do that outside the wet dream - your perception of our lack of libido may have something to do with our active sexual fantasy lives reducing the need for physical coitus). And those mental cues for desire or “oh, God, not tonight” are probably FAR more important than what time of the month it is. ---
**Author:** ![Tee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/73ab20/32.png) [@Tee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tee)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2018, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/50 "2018-03-10T03:05:07Z")
All I know is, Mr. Wonderful tries to be around just before menstruation starts, like the day before, because I’ll be looking for him. The rest of the time could very well be like the OP describes, I’m really not sure, my libido has never been the sole deciding factor in these activities. Sometimes tending to someone else’s libido is a good enough reason. ---
**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2018, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/51 "2018-03-10T04:36:38Z")
> [@Velocity](#): > > In fairness, that quote is pretty accurate. Terrorist groups would have a hard time recruiting female suicide bombers with a promise of “72 virgin men awaiting them in paradise.” They’d do better if they offered 72 virgin men who would do the dishes, the cleaning, the laundry and the ironing and otherwise leave them alone. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2018, 2:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/52 "2018-03-10T14:14:32Z")
> [@Renee](#): > > Dude. Get a new hobby. This _is_ his hobby. To rationalize why he doesn’t get laid and blame it on women and their nature. > [@gisaaanr](#): > > It’s not a generalization because most of our friends feel like it. He’s even got friends with whom to share it. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2018, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/53 "2018-03-10T14:22:45Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > Your cite is the definitely-not-impartial _The Rational Male_, and the first quote in the article is from Joe Rogan-“Booty is so strong that there are dudes willing to blow themselves up for the highly unlikely possibility of booty in an other dimension. There are no chicks willing to blow themselves up for a penis.” > Can you do better? “My mommy told me that with one of these I can get as many of those as I want.” Plus, we don’t need a penis to orgasm and even if we like them they may not be the best way to achieve that particular result; the amount of ego-stroking required to make its handle happy can make things really difficult. I should bookmark one of those articles about the amount of women who come much easier by themselves than with their man, next time I see a decent one. ---
**Author:** ![MonkeyCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e99b99/32.png) [@MonkeyCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MonkeyCat)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2018, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/54 "2018-03-10T15:53:53Z")
> [@running\_coach](#): > > Yes, they do. The rest of the time they just get horny. > > As for men, “All the time” is not random. Funny. And accurate. ---
**Author:** ![Helena330](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/helena330/32/531_2.png) [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2018, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/55 "2018-03-10T18:42:05Z")
> [@Der\_Trihs](#): > > It’s my understanding that while women may not\* consciously\* feel hornier, during their time of maximum fertility they tend to seek out the company of men, wear revealing clothing and more jewelry and so on. False. > [@](#): > > Male sexual desire tends to _increase_ the longer they go without sex. \*\*Female sexual desire tends to _decrease the longer they’ve gone without sex._ EXTREMELY false. > [@](#): > > However, once they _have_ sex men’s sex drive tends to drop drastically, while that of women increases. The more sex women have, the more they want; the more sex men have, the less they want more of it. Where did you get this?? > [@](#): > > This all basically sounds to me like some prehistoric genetic engineer wanted to make men and women to be as frustrating to each other as possible. We’re more alike than different. ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2018, 4:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/56 "2018-03-12T04:24:41Z")
I’m older and my period is more erratic but I can tell when I’m about to start because I start feeling the need to masturbate and I’ll have an occasional sex dream. I’m not the least bit interested in sex; I guess I’d be called “demisexual” if not asexual. I don’t really feel sexual attraction but I do have some physical need to orgasm about three or four times a year. And inevitably a day or two later my period will arrive. Just thought I’d share. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2018, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/57 "2018-03-12T04:35:00Z")
So I think the take away is that we can’t be reduced to a hormonal chart of libido. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2018, 4:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/58 "2018-03-12T04:39:41Z")
> [@gisaaanr](#): > > - During menstruation (7 days) no libido Just a btw: most women’s periods are neither like clockwork nor 7 days long. And a lot of males (I’m including teens) would have more… companionable sex lifes if they didn’t confuse us with some sort of mechanical contraptions. ---
**Author:** ![x-ray\_vision](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/x-ray_vision/32/351_2.png) [@x-ray\_vision](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/x-ray_vision)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2018, 4:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/59 "2018-03-12T04:55:18Z")
> [@der trihs](#): > > it’s my understanding that while women may not\* consciously\* feel hornier, during their time of maximum fertility they tend to seek out the company of men, wear revealing clothing and more jewelry and so on. > > > [@helena330](#): > > > > false. > [@](#): > > male sexual desire tends to increase the longer they go without sex. **Female sexual desire tends to decrease the longer they’ve gone without sex.** > > > [@](#): > > > > extremely false. I notice you aren’t asking Der Trihs for cites; you’re just claiming his statements are false. Are you going by your own experiences, or do you know that what he’s claiming isn’t true? Regarding his first claim, CBS News has reported on a study that backs it up: > [@](#): > > Move over, _The Devil Wears Prada_. Make way for _The Egg Goes Glam_. > A new study shows that young women in relationships may dress a bit more enticingly as they reach the ovulation phase of their monthly fertility cycle — the time when they are most fertile. > > The 30 college women studied were more likely to wear lace-trimmed tops, skirts instead of pants, and more revealing (though still appropriate) clothes as they neared ovulation, when an egg is released from the ovary. > > … > > “They tend to put on skirts instead of pants, show more skin, and generally dress more fashionably,” Haselton adds. > **[Women's Dress-To-Impress Runs In Cycles](https://www.cbsnews.com/news/womens-dress-to-impress-runs-in-cycles/)** > > Study Finds Women In Relationships Dress More Enticingly Near Ovulation ---
**Author:** ![buddha\_david](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ee7513/32.png) [@buddha\_david](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/buddha_david)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2018, 6:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282/60 "2018-03-12T06:00:18Z")
> [@gisaaanr](#): > > [From internet](https://therationalmale.com/2011/10/page/3/), class mates, books and from scientific magazine I get some ideas about female sex drive. All of they claim that female have much weaker sex drive and their sex drive has a routine. > > - During menstruation (7 days) no libido > > - After menstruation to ovualtion (7 days) libido slowly slowly increase > > - After ovulation to before period (14 days) again they return to non sexual phase > > In a month (30 days) their sexual appetite lasts for 5 days and rest of the month it’s almost nonexistent. Based on the hormonal routine their body performs different works in different days. Some days are fixed for sexual appetite and other days are fixed for non sexual things. > > But men sex drive is quite random. The longer they will go their sex drive get more intense. It’s not a generalization because most of our friends feel like it. If they don’t masturbate on a regular basis they get extra sexual energy and can’t concentrate to things except sex. This cycle begin from in the time of ejaculation. > > According to hormonal logic. Men produce almost same level of testosterone each day every day. That’s why their sex drive always exist. But for women, they don’t produce same hormone everyday and also amount varies too much. > > Women only feel sexual sensation internally during ovulation. Except this time they don’t feel this sexual sensation internally and every thing they see in non sexual way. External stimuli also can’t arouse them because sexual hormone is not available. it seems like a refractory period of sexual impulse. Except this hormonal phase women become unresponsive to “sexual” thing internally or externally. > > Logically women actually don’t have to have sex or masturbate because their body automatically dismisses horniness by reducing Libido hormone Testosterone. But men body automatically doesn’t dismiss horniness by reducing Libido hormone Testosterone. Testes constantly produce this hormone so that they experience sexual urge most of the time because of available hormone. > > From the day of period to before ovulation their libido become disappear, they suddenly it born. Then after ovulation its again die and again born during ovulation (next) month. > > For most guys sexual urge/sex drive depends on amount of sex and ejaculation. If they go longer without it their sexual urge become more stronger and they get more sexual energy. And this energy automatically doesn’t go away until they have sex or ejaculate. > It’s said that female sexual urge is totally depends on their menstruation cycle. Their body produces sexual stimuli date wise. It automatically increases sexual urge when it is the time and it automatically vanishes sexual urge when it is not the time. Abstain from sexual relief and amount of sex do not have any effect on their sex drive. > > I ask this kind of question because I feel guilty about it. Why don’t God give me a schedule for sex. Why do I feel sexual urge randomly? Why do I feel urge for my opposite sex 24/7 but my opposite sex only feel urge for me only 7 days a month because of God’s given fixed time for sexual appetite. > > Amount of sex and absence from sex or masturbation does it has any effect or their libido is totally separate from sexual release? Dude…she’s just not that into you. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-experience-sexual-appetite-only-during-certain-time-of-the-month-ovulation/810282.md?page=4)