# Do Women/Men Get Sexual Pleasure from Providing Blow Jobs? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 2, 2007, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-men-get-sexual-pleasure-from-providing-blow-jobs/390606 "2007-02-02T21:52:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Roboto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b77776/32.png) [@Roboto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roboto)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2007, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-men-get-sexual-pleasure-from-providing-blow-jobs/390606/41 "2007-02-06T00:11:37Z")
[QUOTE=Waverly] So the girl is quite comfortable going to town… but you can’t screw up the courage to ask her a personal question? That’s weird. [/QUOTE] Pleasure, but no orgasms. I asked. ---
**Author:** ![Valgard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/7feea3/32.png) [@Valgard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Valgard)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2007, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-men-get-sexual-pleasure-from-providing-blow-jobs/390606/42 "2007-02-06T02:41:12Z")
[QUOTE=Magiver] Yes but it also causes jaw pain. Maybe I’m doing something wrong. There’s certainly some Gene Simmons envy in there somewhere. [/QUOTE] Well start by changing some angles, either by putting a pillow under her butt or having her on top. Your neck will be in a much more comfortable position and your jaw will be able to relax. There’s also fun techniques you can do that don’t require cranking your jaws open like a python swallowing a pig 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2007, 6:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-men-get-sexual-pleasure-from-providing-blow-jobs/390606/43 "2007-02-06T06:45:36Z")
[QUOTE=Roboto] \I’m sure that if things work out and I fall in love, I’ll start stressing over the sources of all this knowledge . . . [/QUOTE] Not to create too much of a hijack, but that’s a pretty immature attitude. I’m assuming you had sex before you met her; she had sex before she met you; what’s the big deal here? Besides, you’re the one benefitting from her knowledge; isn’t that enough for you? (Interesting book, **maastricht**. I think I might buy a version for me and one for my husband. Not that we aren’t having fun now, but how much _more_ fun could we be having? 😉 ) ---
**Author:** ![lee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lee/32/7455_2.png) [@lee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lee)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2007, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-men-get-sexual-pleasure-from-providing-blow-jobs/390606/44 "2007-02-06T15:52:16Z")
[QUOTE=fetus] Actually, I’ll have her. **lee** , how _you_ doin’? [/QUOTE] Quite well! I am about 5 months along right now. I do orgasm fairly easily, but bjs are especially fun. I grind my hips and that helps trigger it, but if I were not giving a bj or otherwise doing something that really aroused me, the hip movement alone would not be enough to do it for me. ---
**Author:** ![Grey\_area](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Grey\_area](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grey_area)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 1:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-men-get-sexual-pleasure-from-providing-blow-jobs/390606/45 "2007-02-07T01:33:22Z")
I’m surprised to find that so many women tend to aroused by the sense of power from giving a blowjob. I always assumed in that situation it’s usually the man who’s “in control” (at least that’s the way I feel when receiving). If I had guessed, I would’ve said women would be aroused the the sense of submission. Could someone go into further detail about the sense of power? ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-men-get-sexual-pleasure-from-providing-blow-jobs/390606/46 "2007-02-07T01:56:07Z")
[QUOTE=r4nd0mNumb3rs] I’m surprised to find that so many women tend to aroused by the sense of power from giving a blowjob. I always assumed in that situation it’s usually the man who’s “in control” (at least that’s the way I feel when receiving). If I had guessed, I would’ve said women would be aroused the the sense of submission. Could someone go into further detail about the sense of power? [/QUOTE] Really? You have your balls in someone else’s hands and you don’t think they have power over you? 😉 Seriously, though, the power thing: the person with control of all the action is the one in power, the person laying back and receiving is passive, and really the only control they have is to tell what feels good and what doesn’t - otherwise, just lay back and enjoy the ride. Same thing in reverse, when the woman is receiving. You are at the mercy of the other person. You’re trusting that person to, you know, not be a psycho and wreck your junk. ---
**Author:** ![nashiitashii](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7c8e57/32.png) [@nashiitashii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nashiitashii)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-men-get-sexual-pleasure-from-providing-blow-jobs/390606/47 "2007-02-07T02:25:36Z")
[QUOTE=dahfisheroo] My God, wouldn’t that be great to have an orgasm while giving a blow job? I mean really, that’d be great. [/QUOTE] Give simultaneous oral sex a try. You will be amazed at how much fun an orgasm while giving a blow job can be. Now, while giving a blow job and not being otherwise stimulated, I get aroused. Someone else had mentioned it as “like the feeling you get when making out.” I guess I’m an anomaly because I’ve orgasmed from making out, but not from giving BJs. ---
**Author:** ![Grey\_area](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Grey\_area](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grey_area)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-men-get-sexual-pleasure-from-providing-blow-jobs/390606/48 "2007-02-07T02:27:13Z")
**Anastasaeon** , the thing is though, I don’t really feel any of that while (ahem) orally pleasuring my SO. I don’t feel that I’m in power, but only aroused by the fact I’m making her feel good. But if I’m on the receiving end, I feel I’m in control since she’s the one pleasuring me for no tangible reward. To put it rather crudely, that she’s “my bitch”. Also just the positioning of the bodies during this act also seems to suggest that the man is in control(especially if he’s stand up rather than laying down). But I guess everybody interprets things differently. Plus, I’m sure your SO wouldn’t be too happy if I kept trying to diminish your motivations for giving head. ---
**Author:** ![fisha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/da6949/32.png) [@fisha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fisha)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-men-get-sexual-pleasure-from-providing-blow-jobs/390606/49 "2007-02-07T02:41:35Z")
[QUOTE=nashiitashii] Give simultaneous oral sex a try. You will be amazed at how much fun an orgasm while giving a blow job can be. Now, while giving a blow job and not being otherwise stimulated, I get aroused. Someone else had mentioned it as “like the feeling you get when making out.” I guess I’m an anomaly because I’ve orgasmed from making out, but not from giving BJs. [/QUOTE] Yeah, 69, never thought of that before… No, too much multitasking. And for the feeling of power while giving head, that’s a big part, in fact I’m amazed that men would think differently, that they were in power. But like it or not boys, my teeth around your dick =power. Oh, sure I guess if it’s like a porno, and you’re being brutal, slamming her head maybe, but that isn’t reality too often. Or I’m a prude, flip a coin. But the power thing isn’t teeth, it’s the ability to control the tempo, the ability to make the toes curl, to reduce to incoherence, a good kind of power. ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 3:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-men-get-sexual-pleasure-from-providing-blow-jobs/390606/50 "2007-02-07T03:02:21Z")
[QUOTE=r4nd0mNumb3rs] **Anastasaeon** , the thing is though, I don’t really feel any of that while (ahem) orally pleasuring my SO. I don’t feel that I’m in power, but only aroused by the fact I’m making her feel good. But if I’m on the receiving end, I feel I’m in control since she’s the one pleasuring me for no tangible reward. To put it rather crudely, that she’s “my bitch”. Also just the positioning of the bodies during this act also seems to suggest that the man is in control(especially if he’s stand up rather than laying down). But I guess everybody interprets things differently. Plus, I’m sure your SO wouldn’t be too happy if I kept trying to diminish your motivations for giving head. [/QUOTE] Well, the beauty of sex and sexuality is that everyone is going to have their own interpretation. Truth be told, I’m a sub, so technically, I see your point of view, but I certainly see how many find it a position of power, so to speak. No worries about \*diminishing motivations \* here, to be sure. 😃😉 ---
**Author:** ![Grey\_area](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Grey\_area](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grey_area)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-men-get-sexual-pleasure-from-providing-blow-jobs/390606/51 "2007-02-07T04:25:16Z")
I’m definitely gonna think of BJs a little differently now that I know that women think they’re holding my junk hostage. ---
**Author:** ![pokey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ebca7d/32.png) [@pokey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pokey)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2007, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-men-get-sexual-pleasure-from-providing-blow-jobs/390606/52 "2007-02-07T05:16:45Z")
[QUOTE=r4nd0mNumb3rs] I’m definitely gonna think of BJs a little differently now that I know that women think they’re holding my junk hostage. [/QUOTE] You should put that on a t-shirt or something, it’s very catchy. I actually think that there’s a dynamic in bed where some couples can do that and others can’t. Like there’s no way for me to feel powerful, my boyfriend knows that’s the one time when I’m never going to suddenly turn on him. I think he does kind of secretly think he’s pacified me with his magical dick but it’s okay with me because I do feel very devoted to him at that time. It’s probably one of the few ways I can really show him how I feel without it turning into a big ego clash. ---
**Author:** ![Q62301](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/a587f6/32.png) [@Q62301](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Q62301)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2020, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-men-get-sexual-pleasure-from-providing-blow-jobs/390606/53 "2020-07-12T01:48:06Z")
Don’t know about men, but my wife surely does. She is 63 in 2020 and has been experiencing spontaneous orgasms since her early 20s in a number of varying situations. Giving a blowjob is just one of them. We define her SOs as a mild orgasm causing her to whimper audibily and contract her abdominal and pelvic region. It’s really hot to watch her have one. If you didn’t know her, you might assume this woman may have just had a gas pain, muscle cramp, or something like that. These SOs are not to be confused with her full blown, gut wrenching, back arching, toe curling, multiple orgasms she enjoys during regular sex, whatever that might be. She’s a very lucky woman in that respect. She’s admitted to me to having SOs when she’s near to or touches someone she considers “hot” and she was not experiencing any genital stimulation of any kind at the time. Basically, whatever is going on in her mind, coupled with a strongly sexual visual and/or sexual audio and/or sexual tactile input was sufficient to trigger an SO. She has experienced in excess of a thousand SOs in her lifetime. She has dozens of them a year. Probably 8 out of 10 times she gives me a blowjob to completion will she have one to three SOs while giving me head. Even if she only has one SO, it will most likely be while I’m cumming. Very rarely has she had an SO while giving me head and then not have another one when I start cumming. She’s admitted to me many times that making a guy cum orally and/or by hand and watching the cum shoot out of a cock, is one of the hottest acts she can imagine partaking in. Her blowjob SOs are so regular that we are actually disappointed if she didn’t have at least one. So yes, my wife gets sexual pleasure from providing blow jobs. Never met anyone like her! ---
**Author:** ![leswax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/85f322/32.png) [@leswax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/leswax)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2020, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-men-get-sexual-pleasure-from-providing-blow-jobs/390606/54 "2020-07-12T01:58:19Z")
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