# Do women turn into their mothers??

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-turn-into-their-mothers/355031>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [May 2, 2006, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-turn-into-their-mothers/355031 "2006-05-02T01:26:13Z")\
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**Author:** ![conurepete](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e57/32.png) [@conurepete](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/conurepete)\
**Post date:** [May 2, 2006, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-turn-into-their-mothers/355031/41 "2006-05-02T23:07:25Z")

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My husband has asked me to kill him if he turns into his father.

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**Author:** ![Rubystreak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e5b9ba/32.png) [@Rubystreak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rubystreak)\
**Post date:** [May 3, 2006, 12:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-turn-into-their-mothers/355031/42 "2006-05-03T00:29:36Z")

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I am a sufficient melding of my mother and father that I’ve become some sort of neurotic Italian/Jewish hybrid that only resembles the sources in a few specific ways. However, I tend to date men whose personalities eerily resemble one parent or the other, with predictably frustrating and occasionally horrifying results. My ex-fiancee was like a male version of my mother (personality-wise; looks-wise, two white people could not be more different). It ended in tears, of course.

I need to date someone who’s more like me… :dubious: Or not.

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**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\
**Post date:** [May 3, 2006, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-turn-into-their-mothers/355031/43 "2006-05-03T00:38:47Z")

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> [@Rubystreak](#):
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> I need to date someone who’s more like me… Or not.

No, what you need is to date someone who has _parents_ that you like. 😛

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**Author:** ![Cub\_Mistress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea666f/32.png) [@Cub\_Mistress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cub_Mistress)\
**Post date:** [May 3, 2006, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-turn-into-their-mothers/355031/44 "2006-05-03T00:58:05Z")

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I used to fear turning into my mom, especially since I look like her (like **Snakescatlady,** people who knew my mother when she was young don’t even **ask** me who I am, they already **know** who I am.) Now I don’t fear it so much, since I’ve learned that I can gracefully take the good parts, and leave the rotten parts behind.

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**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\
**Post date:** [May 3, 2006, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-women-turn-into-their-mothers/355031/45 "2006-05-03T01:24:14Z")

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If I may interject some thing here.  
Being adopted, I have to say there are certain things that I do that my mom does because it is a learned thing. Yanno, hang out with the chimps one eventually learns to fling poo and all that.  
However, I am also so unlike here it is in a way comforting as any daughter with a good mom with a few annoying habits ( mental, not bad-bad things) has. It’s like an anthropological thing to watch.  
Alas I will admit a certain savage glee in watching one by-marriage family member morph into her mother in a phyiscal manner. It’s like slowly watching a parade float blow up. I am sure other women out there understand my schadenfreude.

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