# Do women's breast-based orgasms exist? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 3, 2010, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289 "2010-11-03T02:34:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![The\_Weird\_One](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@The\_Weird\_One](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Weird_One)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2010, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/21 "2010-11-03T17:06:55Z")
> [@rachelellogram](#): > > I’m not a scientist or a sex therapist. However, I hypothesize that this (like female ejaculation) is the kind of thing that you’ve either got or don’t got. It may be a consciously nudge-able ability, but I sincerely doubt it’s as easy to develop/learn as multiple orgasms. Wait, it’s easy to develop the capability for multiple orgasms? I’m very rarely multi-orgasmic. Can you go into, or link to, more detail about how to develop that ability? > [@MeanOldLady](#): > > I was 26 (I think) when I discovered I could do this. When most guys play with your ladies, they’re doing it wrong. When it’s done properly, it’s like a sunny, new universe opens up for you. Could you go into more detail on the proper way? I love breast play, but I’ve never gotten close to orgasming from it. Maybe I/we’ve been doing it wrong. ---
**Author:** ![Ludy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Ludy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludy)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2010, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/22 "2010-11-03T17:22:07Z")
I get absolutely zero pleasure from boob play. Too much attention to the boob results in a very uninterested and slightly annoyed Ludy. My distaste for boob attention got worse after breast feeding, but even before that I was never a fan. ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2010, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/23 "2010-11-03T17:49:59Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Grandkids aren’t going to want to hear about Grandpa’s sexual proclivities! Oh Great, so now I have to re-write the family holiday letter? ---
**Author:** ![Yllaria](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yllaria/32/3452_2.png) [@Yllaria](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yllaria)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2010, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/24 "2010-11-03T18:00:18Z")
The book, [Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex](http://www.amazon.com/Bonk-Curious-Coupling-Science-Sex/dp/0393064646)included a woman who was able to ogasm by just sitting and fantasizing. So I totally believe that it’s possible. BTW, if you’re enjoying this thread and you haven’t read Bonk, by Mary Roach, you really ought to. Some of it is hilarious. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2010, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/25 "2010-11-03T18:24:01Z")
> [@Fried\_Dough\_Ho](#): > > You _do_ realize that EVERY guy says their women orgasm – and they honestly believe it to be true! – but here is where women lie and deceive… Yet another difference. I’ve been there, too. ETA: Yllaria is absolutely right. \*Bonk \*is a great book. ---
**Author:** ![outlierrn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/outlierrn/32/3005_2.png) [@outlierrn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/outlierrn)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2010, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/26 "2010-11-03T20:00:43Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > I was 26 (I think) when I discovered I could do this. When most guys play with your ladies, they’re doing it wrong. When it’s done properly, it’s like a sunny, new universe opens up for you. At the risk of derailing the thread, care to be more specific? I, for one, am always looking to expand my skill set. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2010, 8:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/27 "2010-11-03T20:19:57Z")
> [@StusBlues](#): > > **MeanOldLady** , if you could elaborate \*just \*a little, I think you’d make great strides in this board’s goal to fight ignorance. It’d be easier to show you. Seriously folks, um, even though it would be, I’ll try to explain with the usual disclaimers about people being different, and varying mileage, etc. Where most fail is (much like everything else people do wrong in the boudoir) they’re too fast, too much, and all over the place. I realize some people like pressure applied just short of puncturing the flesh, but for me, somewhat gently rubbing or licking the nipples will make me the happiest girl in the county. I have crossed the finish line with my pants on from my nipples being stimulated properly. Feel free to play with the whole area, and change up the activities, as I enjoy it all, but if you’re trying to make the special magic happen, slow-to-moderate speed, gentle-to-moderate pressure focused on the nipples only is the way to go. [/fake sex expert] ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2010, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/28 "2010-11-03T20:23:48Z")
I’ll be in my bunk. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2010, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/29 "2010-11-03T20:48:14Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > It’d be easier to show you. > > Seriously folks, um, even though it would be, I’ll try to explain with the usual disclaimers about people being different, and varying mileage, etc. Where most fail is (much like everything else people do wrong in the boudoir) they’re too fast, too much, and all over the place. I realize some people like pressure applied just short of puncturing the flesh, but for me, somewhat gently rubbing or licking the nipples will make me the happiest girl in the county. I have crossed the finish line with my pants on from my nipples being stimulated properly. Feel free to play with the whole area, and change up the activities, as I enjoy it all, but if you’re trying to make the special magic happen, slow-to-moderate speed, gentle-to-moderate pressure focused on the nipples only is the way to go. > > [/fake sex expert] Understood. That’s the tack I’ve been known to take, albeit with a little speed-up as the finish line, as you put it, comes into view. I could be a little more specific, but, short of segueing into full-on erotica, I can’t seem to write it without sounding ugly. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2010, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/30 "2010-11-03T21:00:31Z")
That might work for some chicks, but I’d prefer you don’t speed up toward the finish line. Slow and steady wins the race. ---
**Author:** ![Mk\_VII](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Mk\_VII](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mk_VII)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2010, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/31 "2010-11-03T21:01:31Z")
Yes. I’ve known a couple of women who could orgasm solely through having their nipples stimulated. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2010, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/32 "2010-11-03T21:05:27Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > That might work for some chicks, but I’d prefer you don’t speed up toward the finish line. Slow and steady wins the race. Hmm. That IS unique. No matter who I’ve been with or what I’ve been doing, a \*little \*extra “oomph” has always been appreciated when crossing the star-crested horizon. I’ll have to keep that in mind. ---
**Author:** ![Carol\_the\_Impaler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Carol\_the\_Impaler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carol_the_Impaler)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2010, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/33 "2010-11-03T21:22:47Z")
> [@Yllaria](#): > > The book, [Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex](http://www.amazon.com/Bonk-Curious-Coupling-Science-Sex/dp/0393064646)included a woman who was able to ogasm by just sitting and fantasizing. So I totally believe that it’s possible. Yes. Yes, it is. ---
**Author:** ![SciFiSam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/47e85d/32.png) [@SciFiSam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SciFiSam)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2010, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/34 "2010-11-03T22:28:37Z")
> [@rachelellogram](#): > > I’m not a scientist or a sex therapist. However, I hypothesize that this (like female ejaculation) is the kind of thing that you’ve either got or don’t got. It may be a consciously nudge-able ability, but I sincerely doubt it’s as easy to develop/learn as multiple orgasms. > > My breasts tend to get irritated rather quickly with even the lightest stimulation. Fine for light foreplay, but let’s get past that stage quickly please! I am not interested in pushing them further than their natural limits, and I feel sure that I am not “wired” for boobgasms. I’m ok with that. > > Yes, a large component of female orgasm is mental. But I feel fairly confident that if this ability isn’t doable by the time a woman hits sexual maturity, it’s not likely to develop even with dedicated practice. I’m with you there. I’m not sure about the hitting sexual maturity part, but if you rephrase that as ‘when you’re really comfortable with your body sexually,’ then I agree. Because I’ve had relationships where I’ve been completely comfortable sexually, trusted my partner completely, tried out lots of different things, and hell, I’m a lesbian so it’s not like my partner were unfamiliar with how boobs feel from the other direction, and still, I was like this: > [@Ludy](#): > > I get absolutely zero pleasure from boob play. Too much attention to the boob results in a very uninterested and slightly annoyed Ludy. My distaste for boob attention got worse after breast feeding, but even before that I was never a fan. It’s like I just don’t have the right nerve endings there or something. I actively dislike it. However, for someone who likes it but just never gets off on it that much, it’s worth trying different styles with a partner who listens to your needs - fast sucking with lots of pulling on the nipple, slow gentle licking all over the entire breast, rough animalistic licking and sucking, biting enough to leave a mark, etc - because hey, as long as it feels good it’s … why am I still typing? Most people will have glazed over eyes by now. 😃 I said ‘a partner who listens to your needs’ because I know that there are some people who think that just because one woman got off really well one particular way, most women will like that too. Equally, there are some women who are crap at telling their partner what they like - it took me years to get there. (The same goes the other way, genderwise, but men do not have boobs. Moobs are not the same). ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2010, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/35 "2010-11-03T23:54:39Z")
> [@Nzinga\_Seated](#): > > Well, I know there are some women who only climax through clitoral stimulation and some of these women honestly believe that clitoral stimulation is the only way to have an orgasm, scientifically speaking. For those women, I have coined the term ‘schmorgasm’. It is that feeling one gets when being stimulated in ways that doesn’t involve direct clitoral contact, but never the less brings on a feeling of euphoria and flush ecstasy complete with powerful vaginal muscle spasms. > > The breast under the skilled care of a master can bring on a schmorgasm. Oh, and by the way, schmorgasm schm-- err, wait, I’m not sure how to finish this. Anyway, how is it a “schmorgasm” if you have the ecstatic flush of euphoria, complete with the intense muscle spasmy O goodness? ---
**Author:** ![Nzinga\_Seated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5ac83/32.png) [@Nzinga\_Seated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nzinga_Seated)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2010, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/36 "2010-11-04T00:09:17Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > Oh, and by the way, schmorgasm schm-- err, wait, I’m not sure how to finish this. Anyway, how is it a “schmorgasm” if you have the ecstatic flush of euphoria, complete with the intense muscle spasmy O goodness? That’s just the name I give it. Gadder ron’ chirrun, lemme spin you a yarn… Whenever I have girl talk with women outside of my best friend, I sometimes mention how I love a good oral session but I love the kind of orgasm I get when I’m having sex even better. Feels deeper and better to me. Inevitably, someone will pipe up, “Nonsense! All orgasms are due to clitoral stimulation” or something like that. Presumably, that means that titty orgasms are out. I got tired of arguing with them, so I came up with “schmorgasm” instead. Happened on this very board. I’m sure I can find the link because only two threads should come up under ‘schmorgasm’ and that is that thread and this. [Here.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=12016264&postcount=38) From [this thread.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=12016264#post12016264) ---
**Author:** ![sunstone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunstone/32/3372_2.png) [@sunstone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sunstone)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2010, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/37 "2010-11-04T00:53:12Z")
Yes, it does happen. As a guy, I would make the following points: Try to judge where your lady is…some days slow and gentle works all the way, but other days want a certain increasing amount and concentration of stimuli. On rare occasions, a rapid increase to much more powerful stimuli is what is good. And even rarer are the times when she just isn’t into breast stimulation. Pretty much having my head in two places works for me. With one part of my brain I am really enjoying the breasts because I really like breasts, and another part of my brain is listening and judging my response to her responses. (This is about the only time I multitask!) I have to admit that I have been amazed by my wife’s ability to orgasm this way for all of our several decades together. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2010, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/38 "2010-11-04T01:10:00Z")
> [@sunstone](#): > > Try to judge where your lady is… Right. It’s always strange when someone asks for a step-by-step manual. You gotta be able to read cues, folks. Don’t be [this guy](http://xkcd.com/333/). ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2010, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/39 "2010-11-04T01:24:14Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#): > > I have been with guys with super-sensitive nipples. It’s handy to have such conveniently-placed erogenous zones. _raises hand_ I have yet to meet such a breast-schmorgasm babe, but my current GF might be able to with proper practice. For science! ---
**Author:** ![Gleena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b3f665/32.png) [@Gleena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gleena)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2010, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289/40 "2010-11-04T01:50:54Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > I was 26 (I think) when I discovered I could do this. When most guys play with your ladies, they’re doing it wrong. When it’s done properly, it’s like a sunny, new universe opens up for you. Yes, I wholeheartedly concur! 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-womens-breast-based-orgasms-exist/559289.md?page=3)