# do you do the dish and other "women work" ? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 22, 2006, 1:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745 "2006-05-22T13:59:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/21 "2006-05-22T15:00:11Z")
> [@RealityChuck](#): > > What’s the point of refusing to do it? How is that helping anything? > [@Bricker](#): > > So in the Bricker household, it’s not a matter of “women’s work” or “men’s work” – it’s a matter of adults doing the work that needs to be done in a way that makes sense. Yes, exactly. When you refuse to do work, it doesn’t get done. What a concept? What do you do when you’re single? Wallow in your own filth, as \*\*Chuck \*\* said? Like the thread not too long ago, about single men? (I hope \*\*Frank \*\* made it out of his mess.) The only way I can see this attitude even remotely working is if you are the only breadwinner. Not the primary one, but the only one. And even then it behooves you to help with the children, cause you know, they’re your kids, too. Bricker’s situation makes sense to me. She works way, way less than him, so that is sensible for her to do the lion’s share of the work. Speaking of which, if you keep up with it regularly then there’s not that much to do on a day-to-day basis. A ---
**Author:** ![Minotaurus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ee59a6/32.png) [@Minotaurus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Minotaurus)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/22 "2006-05-22T15:04:42Z")
i think feminism have gone too far the last 10-20 years or so ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/23 "2006-05-22T15:06:57Z")
I think you won’t be here very long. ---
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/24 "2006-05-22T15:07:18Z")
> [@jali](#): > > Poor lonely dish. No wonder it ran away with the spoon! ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/25 "2006-05-22T15:07:22Z")
> [@Minotaurus](#): > > let’s face it - housework isn’t exactly the kind of job that men do that often, mostly because i lays in our genes Wow. I thought you couldn’t write anything dumber than the original post in this thread, and then you go and do. Showed me. I’m a single guy, so I don’t have any choice in the matter. Both of the females I’ve cohabitated with in the past were absolutely awful housekeepers, so I didn’t have much choice then either. Do the work or live in squalor. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/26 "2006-05-22T15:12:58Z")
> [@Minotaurus](#): > > i think feminism have gone too far the last 10-20 years or so If it’s not too rude, may I ask how old you are? ---
**Author:** ![Minotaurus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ee59a6/32.png) [@Minotaurus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Minotaurus)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/27 "2006-05-22T15:18:31Z")
> [@RealityChuck](#): > > It’s kind of silly and selfish for a man not to help out with things like doing dishes, washing the floors, cleaning the bathroom, vacuuming, etc. I don’t mind doing it. I even do my own laundry from time to time. > > What’s the point of refusing to do it? How is that helping anything? selfish?? wouldn’t a man have other tasks in a household? ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/28 "2006-05-22T15:20:31Z")
If my man isn’t sat on the sofa with a beer watching the football, while I clean the house and kiss his feet, I cry. ---
**Author:** ![Antigen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/848f3c/32.png) [@Antigen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antigen)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/29 "2006-05-22T15:22:55Z")
> [@AngelicGemma](#): > > If my man isn’t sat on the sofa with a beer watching the football, while I clean the house and kiss his feet, I cry. What are you doing over in the living room kissing his feet? Barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen, dammit! And start making pies! ---
**Author:** ![An\_Arky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/87869e/32.png) [@An\_Arky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/An_Arky)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/30 "2006-05-22T15:25:34Z")
It’s just truly astounding in this day and age that there are still fetid backwaters of civilization that believe that more than one half of the population is chattel and leaves them to do most of the work. Thankfully here in modern western civilization, those beliefs are considered backwards and sexist. Where they are still pervasive, in some parts of the Middle East and Africa, etc., the practical result of this is that the women have to do _everything_ while the men literally sit around and drink, get high, gamble, or just generally slack like college students with trust funds, occasionally going hunting, fishing or gathering or bartering. Nice system they got going there. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Minotaurus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ee59a6/32.png) [@Minotaurus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Minotaurus)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/31 "2006-05-22T15:27:14Z")
i’m not seeing this from a practical point of view, but more like an ideological point of view political/ideological it have been political correct for the last 15-25 years that men shall do 50% of the house work. This is an idea that have it’s root from the 1970s and came from more or less extreme feminists ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/32 "2006-05-22T15:31:07Z")
> [@Minotaurus](#): > > I can’t remember the last time i did the dish or washed a floor Well, DUH, you have 3 million dollars, remember? I’m sure your army of servants do them. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/33 "2006-05-22T15:32:43Z")
> [@Minotaurus](#): > > i’m not seeing this from a practical point of view, but more like an ideological point of view Actually, earlier in this thread you indicated you were seeing this from a genetic point of view, so, could you please make up your mind? ---
**Author:** ![vetbridge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b5e925/32.png) [@vetbridge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vetbridge)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/34 "2006-05-22T15:36:44Z")
Divorced guy here. I pay the lady who does the cleaning. Does that count? ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/35 "2006-05-22T15:36:46Z")
> [@Minotaurus](#): > > selfish?? > > wouldn’t a man have other tasks in a household? I’m only ascribing about a 15% probability to the possibility that you’re serious, but let’s play along. What’s the point of dividing household tasks by gender? ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/36 "2006-05-22T15:37:10Z")
I agree with **Bricker** on this – I had to do my own laundry, disges, cooking, dishwashing, and housekeeping when I was single. When Pwepper Mill moved in, we split the chores. Pepper Mill does more around-the-house stuff than I do, partly because she’s home more and partly because she thinks Outside stuff not related to the garden is Guy Stuff, but I stuilldo cleaning, dishwashing, etc. I was really surprised to find that my mother feels the women inside/men outside classification of work should hold. It annoys her when I do the dishes at her house (except at holidays, when the whole extended family eats over) ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/37 "2006-05-22T15:39:09Z")
> [@Minotaurus](#): > > i’m not seeing this from a practical point of view, but more like an ideological point of view Dirty dishes have an ideology? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/38 "2006-05-22T15:43:58Z")
> [@Minotaurus](#): > > i think feminism have gone too far the last 10-20 years or so Please expand further on this belief. I think it’ll go really, really well for you. ---
**Author:** ![SnakesCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4af34b/32.png) [@SnakesCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnakesCatLady)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/39 "2006-05-22T15:46:51Z")
> [@Minotaurus](#): > > i think feminism have gone too far the last 10-20 years or so Another request for your age, here. I’m also interested in your marital status (that means: are you single or married) and your educational level (that means: how far did you go in school?). While I do realize there are people who still feel this way, I admit to being suprised that you are able to get your knuckles off the floor far enough to post on the 'net. ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745/40 "2006-05-22T15:48:11Z")
> [@Antigen](#): > > What are you doing over in the living room kissing his feet? Barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen, dammit! And start making pies! I guess he made the chain too long. 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-do-the-dish-and-other-women-work/357745.md?page=3)