# Do you dread the day you're put in a rest home? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 23, 2007, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-dread-the-day-youre-put-in-a-rest-home/405237 "2007-05-23T16:38:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![GuyNblueJeans](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e9bcb4/32.png) [@GuyNblueJeans](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuyNblueJeans)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2007, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-dread-the-day-youre-put-in-a-rest-home/405237/1 "2007-05-23T16:38:32Z")
Imagine how it’s going to be … underpaid “oderlies” with arrest records as long as your walker whacking you silly because you drooled on yourself … stealing the pocket change you left on the nightstand … feeding their pie holes with the fruits your loved ones left you … manhandling you by yanking you out of your wheelchair and throwing your tired, old body on the bed in one motion … having to eat institutional food that a dog wouldn’t touch … peeing the bed and fermenting in it for hours because the orderly assigned to you is holding out until the next shift comes on … having some big, angry, man-hating woman-nurse jamming that urine tube thing in and out of your weenie day after agonizing day! I think you get the picture. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2007, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-dread-the-day-youre-put-in-a-rest-home/405237/2 "2007-05-23T16:43:15Z")
[QUOTE=GuyNblueJeans] … having some big, angry, man-hating woman-nurse jamming that urine tube thing in and out of your weenie day after agonizing day! [/QUOTE] Well, at least I don’t have to worry about this part. :dubious: Seriously, I have already decided to go the route of assisted suicide. And I think it’s ridiculous it’s illegal in most places in this country. I can’t even choose when I want to die? Ergh. ---
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2007, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-dread-the-day-youre-put-in-a-rest-home/405237/3 "2007-05-23T16:44:12Z")
I want to believe that workers in nusring homes are kind, caring individuals just working every day like the rest of us schmoes. Hopefully they realize that some day it will be them in that bed and they’ll conduct themselves accordingly. Yes, I know, it’s pretty behind these rose-colored glasses… ---
**Author:** ![GuyNblueJeans](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e9bcb4/32.png) [@GuyNblueJeans](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuyNblueJeans)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2007, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-dread-the-day-youre-put-in-a-rest-home/405237/4 "2007-05-23T16:56:41Z")
[QUOTE=Ruby] I want to believe that workers in nusring homes are kind, caring individuals just working every day like the rest of us schmoes. Hopefully they realize that some day it will be them in that bed and they’ll conduct themselves accordingly. Yes, I know, it’s pretty behind these rose-colored glasses… [/QUOTE] You’re right about those rose colored glasses. I saw an “undercover” investigation by Dateline (or one of those types of shows) several years ago, and it WAS disturbing as hell to see the shit that goes on in a lot of those places!! ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2007, 5:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-dread-the-day-youre-put-in-a-rest-home/405237/5 "2007-05-23T17:10:22Z")
I’m just as frightened of winding up Homeless in my old age. Even _with_ my State Pension. And, by the time I get old, the Baby Boomers will have used up the very last grain of kindness to, & pity for, the Elderly, with their usual bad behavior & self-absorbed ways. ---
**Author:** ![Miss\_Woodhouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/838e76/32.png) [@Miss\_Woodhouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miss_Woodhouse)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2007, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-dread-the-day-youre-put-in-a-rest-home/405237/6 "2007-05-23T17:18:45Z")
Mr. Woodhouse works in a nursing home. He spends his hours caring for elderly people who most of the time don’t even know who he is, although many mistake him for their sons. He says there are some who are bad, but not every long term care worker is like that and not every facility is like that either. My husband is a good man who really cares for his patients. he was sad to leave the last group when her recently transfered to another facility. I like to think of him as one reason why long term care isn’t all bad. (I have to say, every time he talks about moving out to private PT away from long term care, I talk him out of it, because he is so good with his patients.) There are many, many out there that are good places and will care for you in a respectful manner. Granted if you have to go for the cheap one, or the state one, you are likely to be in a facility that doesn’t have enough CNAs to handle the patient load. This means burn out and patients not being cared for properly. Just do your research carefully, and you’ll be fine. Spend time visiting with current patients, talk to the CNAs and ask about their job to get a feel for whether or not they are overworked, talk to family members, and staff. There are good places out there. ---
**Author:** ![nonacetone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nonacetone/32/2819_2.png) [@nonacetone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nonacetone)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2007, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-dread-the-day-youre-put-in-a-rest-home/405237/7 "2007-05-23T18:26:25Z")
As a caregiver for my 91 year old grandmother, who has Alzheimer’s , no. I do NOT dread the day I have to be put into a nursing home/assisted care/whatever. I know what I go through now, caring for my grandmother. The patience a person must have to deal with this is…I don’t know…It’s just amazing what you realize you can do when you need to do it, and you realize that you DO have much more patience than you ever dreamed you have. I do not want to burden anyone with this sort of thing. Ever. So, I’m willing to go when they tell me I need to go. ---
**Author:** ![Darryl\_Lict](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7cd45c/32.png) [@Darryl\_Lict](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darryl_Lict)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2007, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-dread-the-day-youre-put-in-a-rest-home/405237/8 "2007-05-23T18:51:30Z")
I’m all for assisted suicide to the point of Soylent Green style suicide centers. My pops has moderate dementia and lives in a super nice assisted living facility that is clean and doesn’t stink of piss. He’s burning through cash at the rate of probably $200,000 a year. His quality of life is crap, but at least it’s nothing like the hell hole rest homes that I used to deliver prescriptions to in high school. ---
**Author:** ![elucidator](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8edcca/32.png) [@elucidator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elucidator)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2007, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-dread-the-day-youre-put-in-a-rest-home/405237/9 "2007-05-23T18:59:27Z")
[QUOTE=Bosda Di’Chi of Tricor] …And, by the time I get old, the Baby Boomers will have used up the very last grain of kindness to, & pity for, the Elderly, with their usual bad behavior & self-absorbed ways. [/QUOTE] I’m gonna sneak up on Bosda and give him such a _zets!_ (I’m a stealth boomer)