# Do you feel accepted? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 7, 2015, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-feel-accepted/736873 "2015-11-07T04:13:40Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2015, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-feel-accepted/736873/41 "2015-11-09T16:58:56Z")
I have to admit that in my senior years I have put myself out there in ways I would have never done when I was younger. Many of my old buddies will now say hello and politley go about what they were doing while I have developed a whole new set of friendships that I enjoy much more anyway. ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2015, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-feel-accepted/736873/42 "2015-11-11T00:43:44Z")
People who get to know me accept that I’m off-putting, does that count? As I’ve aged I’ve learned to apply humor and charm to being odd and negative, and generally people seem to like me, they just don’t understand where I’m coming from, unless they are also depressed and weird. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2015, 1:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-feel-accepted/736873/43 "2015-11-12T13:47:31Z")
I don’t know when I became so grown up and mature, but here I am. My office reviews regularly rate me as the calm one, that never gets stressed out. My coworkers come to me for advice and assistance. But I like maintaining a small distance between them. I like being a little aloof. The only person I show my authentic self to, all the time, without filters, is my SO. Everyone else gets pieces of me. That being said, yes, I feel accepted. ---
**Author:** ![Lowdown](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c57346/32.png) [@Lowdown](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lowdown)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2015, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-feel-accepted/736873/44 "2015-11-12T18:27:43Z")
> [@WF\_Tomba](#): > > Do you feel that the people you interact with regularly accept you for who and what you are? > > Speaking for myself, I do feel accepted, but I am always afraid of being rejected by anyone I am meeting for the first time. This fear does not seem to be grounded in reality. It’s honestly not something I ever think about, so, I guess so? I mean, I get the question, but I don’t get it. I’m gonna do me, you do whatever you want. It’s not like I could alter the facts of my being to suit your tastes, even if I were willing, and I am very not willing. What is the fear of, exactly? Especially for people you meet for the first time? Who cares? That person was not in your life before today! Maybe they’re in your life tomorrow, maybe not. There are other people. ---
**Author:** ![Pabitel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bbce88/32.png) [@Pabitel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pabitel)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2015, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-feel-accepted/736873/45 "2015-11-12T19:13:27Z")
Absolutely not. I’m not sure I would want to feel that way. It sounds kind of creepy. I expect to be treated completely neutrally unless there is some sort of extraordinary circumstance. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2015, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-feel-accepted/736873/46 "2015-11-12T22:39:43Z")
> [@scootergirl](#): > > I feel accepted by my peers and most people at this point in my life. It wasn’t always like that. When I first arrived in Canada (1976) there was a group of punk kids that did not like me at all. It didn’t feel good; luckily it was short lived. How does that work? Did they come up to you like “what are you some kind of hoser…eh?” and then apologize? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-feel-accepted/736873.md?page=2)