# "Do you find me attractive?" **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 7, 2013, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-find-me-attractive/646368 "2013-01-07T17:44:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-find-me-attractive/646368/41 "2013-01-08T01:14:25Z")
Annoying. > [@QuickSilver](#): > > Some kind of issue there. Could be insecurity, could be narcissism. I’m not sure which of these is worse. ---
**Author:** ![you\_with\_the\_face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ecccb3/32.png) [@you\_with\_the\_face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/you_with_the_face)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-find-me-attractive/646368/42 "2013-01-08T01:14:27Z")
I don’t get the sense he wanted a pic of me to send his friends. (And for some reason that strikes me as more weird than just him wanting to look at it for his own personal pleasure.) He asked for a pic so that he can “learn more about me”. Of course, the more I go into detail about this, the odder it’s gonna sound, but that’s what he said. All he’s going to learn by looking at pics of me is that I’m not photogenic. Seriously, his pic request did not bother me. I don’t relate to it, but that’s not necessarily a problem. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-find-me-attractive/646368/43 "2013-01-08T02:42:44Z")
If a chick says “Do you find me attractive?”, it’s hot. 'Cause it’s a come on. If a guy says “Do you find me attractive?”, you should run away. It’s weak. ---
**Author:** ![sisu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@sisu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sisu)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-find-me-attractive/646368/44 "2013-01-08T02:48:45Z")
> [@Typo\_Negative](#): > > If a chick says “Do you find me attractive?”, it’s hot. 'Cause it’s a come on. > > If a guy says “Do you find me attractive?”, you should run away. It’s weak. Yeah I agree cause that conforms with gender stereotypes… > [@you\_with\_the\_face](#): > > He asked for a pic so that he can “learn more about me”. hmmm this sounds odd, but hey some of my best friends are a bit odd, but I’m sticking with the boob scenario. It’s amazing what people send! Seriously if he is a nice guy he just might be a bit clueless and well he is just a man. ---
**Author:** ![Trinopus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/2bfe46/32.png) [@Trinopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trinopus)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-find-me-attractive/646368/45 "2013-01-08T02:52:37Z")
Of course, but I am far more impressed by the vigor of your struggle for social autonomy. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-find-me-attractive/646368/46 "2013-01-08T03:51:21Z")
> [@jsgoddess](#): > > If someone made me extremely uncomfortable, I’d never go on a second date. Well, that’s why you’re married, and I’m…let’s just go with “not married”, to be kind. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-find-me-attractive/646368/47 "2013-01-08T03:53:27Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > Well, that’s why you’re married, and I’m…let’s just go with “not married”, to be kind. Ha! But seriously, DON’T DO THAT! You get to have boundaries. ---
**Author:** ![WordMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e8c25b/32.png) [@WordMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WordMan)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 1:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-find-me-attractive/646368/48 "2013-01-08T13:04:06Z")
> [@colander](#): > > He sent you a glamour shot? My guess is that if your response had been a more enthusiastic “yes,” the next pictures he sent you would have been of his dong. It’s certainly more considerate than straight up cold dick-pic sending, but you guys are probably not right for each other. I have nothing to add other than: I could never have possibly conceived of this, but hearing it, realize that it \*is \*a possible explanation in this day and age. And that there’s comedic truth in the concept of needing a Miss Manners of sexting. “Uh, should I ask her if she finds me attractive before I sext her a shot of my heat-seeking moisture missle?” Now, get off my lawn. And don’t sext me a nekkid pic of yourself doing it, either. 😉 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-find-me-attractive/646368.md?page=2)