# Do You Flirt on the Boards? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 10, 2000, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147 "2000-07-10T21:46:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Talkinsquirrel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f6c823/32.png) [@Talkinsquirrel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Talkinsquirrel)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 7:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/41 "2000-07-11T07:36:05Z")
I never ever ever ever flirt! Prolly cuz I’m not good at it. I’d probally say something like hey thats a nice sock you got there. Wal Mart? Huh Oh you have to go now? You think your house is on fire and you have 4 orphan kids trapped inside? Well okay can I call ya? Itd have to be collect though cuz I dont have a phone in my house and I really need my quarters. Oh okay. Then talk to ya later. Hope the burning house thing works out. Bye ---
**Author:** ![SmoothOperator](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3bc359/32.png) [@SmoothOperator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmoothOperator)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 9:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/42 "2000-07-11T09:30:56Z")
Ok, so having established that you (all of you) flirt, have you ever met another doper IRL and they expected you to act like that IRL, or took you seriously? Brunetter, I don’t swing that way, but I’ll be glad to compare back rubs. I give a mean massage myself. :a real massage: ---
**Author:** ![NothingMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b77776/32.png) [@NothingMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NothingMan)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 9:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/43 "2000-07-11T09:35:40Z")
T’wasn’t so very long ago we had an entire thread devoted to nothing but flirting (started by yours truly). Try a search for it. Although I warn you . . . **purplebear** had at least half the replies. Where do you get the energy PB ? Love ya ! As for me, I never flirt. Well almost never. I mean I don’t flirt unless your name is **SwimmingRiddles**. What ? Oh. I’ll stop. Sorry. Continue . . . . 😉 - **NM** ---
**Author:** ![TroubleAgain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e480ec/32.png) [@TroubleAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroubleAgain)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 9:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/44 "2000-07-11T09:38:53Z")
I flirt a little here on the board. (Mostly with DRY.) IRL I only flirt just a very little, and only with people I know well enough to know they aren’t going to take it seriously. I’m very happily married, but I ain’t dead. Neither is my husband. We both flirt in a light-hearted, don’t-get-your-hopes-up kinda way. We both know where to draw the line. Of course, we flirt outrageously with each other. 😉 So, no, I guess if I met anyone from SDMB IRL, they wouldn’t be too surprised at my REAL behavior compared to my board behavior. ---
**Author:** ![SmoothOperator](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3bc359/32.png) [@SmoothOperator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmoothOperator)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 11:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/45 "2000-07-11T11:52:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by NothingMan \* > \*\*T’wasn’t so very long ago we had an entire thread devoted to nothing but flirting (started by yours truly). Try a search for it. - **NM** \*\* NothingMan. Yep, I saw that thread. But I didn’t necessarily want to flirt, just wanted to know why dopers did so and if they did, were they concerned about the possible consequences. So to the rest of you. You’re saying that none of the other posters take you seriously enough to be a threat and that everyone knows that it is all in fun. So, what happens when you flirt with a poster that doesn’t normally flirt? ---
**Author:** ![lurkernomore](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d6d6ee/32.png) [@lurkernomore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lurkernomore)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 12:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/46 "2000-07-11T12:24:28Z")
Hey, as was noted, some of us can’t flirt worth a darn IRL, so we practice…or try to…ain’t any good at it here either… Seriously, it’s just a game. Play around, have some fun making believe like a kid. The day the little child in you dies is a sad day. ---
**Author:** ![Formerly\_Bandersnatch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e36b37/32.png) [@Formerly\_Bandersnatch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Formerly_Bandersnatch)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 12:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/47 "2000-07-11T12:24:47Z")
I’ve never ever flirted on the message boards. But then… I’m new… ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 12:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/48 "2000-07-11T12:28:05Z")
> [@](#): > > (By the way, was that “just get the damned cat out of the way” thing an urban legend?) **Yes.** ---
**Author:** ![Tally-Ho](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e495f1/32.png) [@Tally-Ho](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tally-Ho)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 12:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/49 "2000-07-11T12:30:06Z")
I like to flirt on the board because I can’t in real life. (shyness, not just marriedness) I’m very happily married and plan on staying that way. I will admit that I’m likely to blush a very bright shade of pink if I meet anyone I’ve flirted here IRL. 😉 chrisbar ---
**Author:** ![Mr\_Bear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecc23a/32.png) [@Mr\_Bear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr_Bear)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 12:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/50 "2000-07-11T12:39:03Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by pLt \* > _ **sidles up to PurpleBear all the while keeping an eye out for Mr Bear** _ > > _attempts to look innocent_ > > _fails_ > > Who Me? You a very smart man, pLt!!! :rolleyes: Collins English Dictionary: _flirt v behave as if sexually attracted to someone._ The only one I would flirt with is PB but according to the dictionary it is not flirting because I AM sexually attracted so I guess that would make it foreplay, and as such I’ll do it privatley thank you very much! btw PB looking forwad to our next video conference!!!😃 :o ---
**Author:** ![Milossarian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Milossarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Milossarian)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/51 "2000-07-11T13:20:40Z")
I’m dabbling in it. There’s a fine art to flirting. Too much and it quickly becomes incredibly annoying (though perhaps not to the flirter and flirtee); too little and it’s unnoticed. Some of our flirters are absolute pros, and I stand in awe of their skills. ---
**Author:** ![SwimmingRiddles](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/43a26b/32.png) [@SwimmingRiddles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SwimmingRiddles)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/52 "2000-07-11T14:19:06Z")
::blinks three times wide-eyed?:: Flirting? On THIS board? Why, fiddle-dee-dee. Hell, when the majority of your close friends are of the opposite sex, you learn quite quickly the art that is involved in flirting. Compared to my IRL friends, I’m way more subdued here. I have been told, however, that I do a KILLER “How YOU doin’?” ---
**Author:** ![pLt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/eb9ed0/32.png) [@pLt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pLt)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/53 "2000-07-11T14:29:04Z")
Come on … no one does a How YOU doin … like I do a How YOU doin … ---
**Author:** ![Crunchy\_Frog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ebca7d/32.png) [@Crunchy\_Frog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crunchy_Frog)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/54 "2000-07-11T14:57:12Z")
I never flirt. I find it abhorrant and childish. There is no point in flirting with someone you will never meet IRL anyway. It detracts from the OPs in most cases and is truly annoying. Is anyone buying this BS from me? Oh, hi, purplebear, Nika, Swiddles, so what are YOU lovely ladies up to? Oh that? Ummm . . . that’s a roll of quarters in my pocket. Honestly. I was going to play some video games at an arcade later. ---
**Author:** ![ChrisP\_One\_Kenobe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e19b73/32.png) [@ChrisP\_One\_Kenobe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ChrisP_One_Kenobe)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/55 "2000-07-11T15:59:36Z")
Because I am recently married and was dating the same girl for 5 years, my skills may be rusty but I’ll do my best to flirt like a madman on the sdmb. ---
**Author:** ![Hamadryad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6de8d8/32.png) [@Hamadryad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hamadryad)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/56 "2000-07-11T16:06:58Z")
Why does everyone make excuses for their flirting? “I’m married, but I flirt…” “I flirt, but I’m never serious…” “I flirt, but it’s only on the boards and only because I know I’ll never meet/go to lunch/have sex with any of the people I’m flirting with…” I mean, COME ON. If you’re flirting, FLIRT. If you only flirt on the boards, you’re STILL a flirt. And if you’re going to be a flirt, BE ONE. Don’t hide behind reasons and excuses. Honestly. ---
**Author:** ![Vestal\_Blue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/5e9695/32.png) [@Vestal\_Blue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vestal_Blue)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/57 "2000-07-11T17:34:23Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by SmoothOperator \* > \*\*So, what happens when you flirt with a poster that doesn’t normally flirt? > > \*\* They either flirt back, or it’s like talking into a dead telephone, and you move on. ( VB wiggles eyebrows suggestively) ::Musically:: “Oh Hamadarling, How YOU doin’, toots?” ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/58 "2000-07-11T18:04:47Z")
Actually I was referring to “Gladiator” . . . some rather obvious incestuous scenes. But yeah, I do flirt online. I have been known to flirt offline, but it’s been a while. I don’t remember when the last time was. Online, however, I do so frequently because I don’t have to worry about not being able to think. ---
**Author:** ![SmoothOperator](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3bc359/32.png) [@SmoothOperator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmoothOperator)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/59 "2000-07-11T20:34:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by iampunha \* > \*\*But yeah, I do flirt online. I have been known to flirt offline, but it’s been a while. I don’t remember when the last time was. Online, however, I do so frequently because I don’t have to worry about not being able to think. \*\* Huh? Can you explain about the thinking part? ---
**Author:** ![Hamadryad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6de8d8/32.png) [@Hamadryad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hamadryad)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2000, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147/60 "2000-07-11T20:44:52Z")
Why, Vestal…I’m doing just fine, thank you. So kind of you to inquire. I can flirt in the chat rooms but on on the boards; never remember which the hell thread I was in, you know? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-flirt-on-the-boards/25147.md?page=4)