# Do you get ready in the bathroom at the same time time as your SO? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 12, 2013, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113 "2013-05-12T00:12:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![R.P.McMurphy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7993a0/32.png) [@R.P.McMurphy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R.P.McMurphy)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2013, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/21 "2013-05-12T18:50:16Z")
> [@aruvqan](#): > > Hm, 2 sides to the med cabinet, his side is the left, my side is the right. Counter, his side of the sink is left, his crap sits on the left side of the sink area, mine sits on the right side of the sink area. > > How hard is it to look either to the left side of the sink or the right side, and to sort ones crap left or right as appropriate? > > I think double sinks are the stupidest idea for spending money with a builder there is. Unless you have an issue like one 6foot6 + guy and a lady in a wheelchair, there is no need for double sinks. And as to getting ready simultaneously, christ on a crutch, take turns. It can’t be so difficult for someone to get up 15 minutes earlier than the partner, or to simply do things at slightly different times. One person can get the damned coffee started and get into the bathroom 10 minutes later. Why go to all that hassle when you can just have a bathroom with two sinks and enjoy the convenience? It’s not like there are ongoing costs or extra energy demands. But hey, whatever floats your boat. ---
**Author:** ![Lynn\_Bodoni](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e47c2d/32.png) [@Lynn\_Bodoni](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lynn_Bodoni)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2013, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/22 "2013-05-12T23:49:18Z")
> [@Ellen\_Cherry](#): > > I have a large master bathroom with two sinks and enjoy getting ready with my husband in the morning. We talk about a lot of things and I still have plenty of romance in my life, even though I’ve seen him trim his nose hairs. You’re a bad wife. Don’t you know that you’re supposed to pluck his nose (and ear) hairs for him? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2013, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/23 "2013-05-13T00:13:39Z")
> [@Lynn\_Bodoni](#): > > You’re a bad wife. Don’t you know that you’re supposed to pluck his nose (and ear) hairs for him? 😃 I just puked in my mouth a little 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Labrador\_Deceiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7c8e57/32.png) [@Labrador\_Deceiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Labrador_Deceiver)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2013, 12:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/24 "2013-05-13T00:18:26Z")
> [@aruvqan](#): > > I think double sinks are the stupidest idea for spending money with a builder there is. It’s not nearly as stupid as thinking that one extra sink will result in any kind of appreciable extra expense. In all the years I built houses for a living, nobody once said to me “We’re trying to cut costs. Please remove that $78 dollar drop-in bathroom sink and subtract the savings from our 6-figure building costs. Yes, it only amounts to 8 dollars per year for an enormous amount of convenience, but I’d like to get indignant on the Internet later this week.” ---
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2013, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/25 "2013-05-13T00:33:10Z")
It’s not an absolute must have, but it would be a definite plus. Hubby and I get up and leave for work at the same time, so we are generally wanting to be around the bathroom at the same time. We don’t really fight about it or get in to each other’s way as it is right now, but it would be nice to be able to do our things side-by-side. Neither one of us are early risers, so getting ready together is often our only chance to have some togetherness until we finish work. Plus, the separate counter space would be nice. Our sink is a little crowded right now. But the best part is that his shaved off whiskers could stay on his side! ---
**Author:** ![Lynn\_Bodoni](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e47c2d/32.png) [@Lynn\_Bodoni](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lynn_Bodoni)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2013, 7:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/26 "2013-05-13T07:28:12Z")
> [@Lynn\_Bodoni](#): > > You’re a bad wife. Don’t you know that you’re supposed to pluck his nose (and ear) hairs for him? 😃 > [@April\_R](#): > > I just puked in my mouth a little 😛 I hope, for your sake and your husband’s, that he never gets a [pilonidal cyst](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pilonidal_cyst). Because those things have to be cleaned and packed while they heal. And guess who gets to do that? ---
**Author:** ![Snnipe\_70E](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b5a626/32.png) [@Snnipe\_70E](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snnipe_70E)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2013, 8:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/27 "2013-05-13T08:47:10Z")
We can’t. Bathroom is just too small. There is room for only one person to stand at a time. We car pool to work normally so we keave at the sme time. It takes her a lot more time to get ready in the morning so she goes in first. I get up as she is comming out of the bathroom to dress. I get into the shower right away. She then comes back in after she is dressed and finishes her hair. She is out before I finish my shower. Normally no problem. Problem comes if I take the bus to work. I have to leave 20 minutes earlier. Which means she would have to get up 20 minutes earlier, 5:10 rather than 5:30. She is going to be in a bad frame of mind if she has to get up early. We are not morning people. It can be a real problem when I have to go in an hour early. Either I get up an hour before her two hours early for me or I get up an hur early and she leaves a little late for work. ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2013, 1:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/28 "2013-05-13T13:21:11Z")
> [@Lynn\_Bodoni](#): > > I hope, for your sake and your husband’s, that he never gets a [pilonidal cyst](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pilonidal_cyst). Because those things have to be cleaned and packed while they heal. And guess who gets to do that? :eek: This link is not about a nose cyst. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2013, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/29 "2013-05-13T13:23:01Z")
We sometimes get ready for bed at the same time, but our morning schedules are different. Our first house had a master bath that was tiny; two people could fit in there at the same time but if one of them wanted to open the (swing out) shower door to step in, the other had to leave the room until the door swung closed again. When we were house hunting we weren’t specifically looking for a master bath with two sinks, but one that had a little larger bathroom. As it turns out, we got both. And now that we’ve lived with them for a few years, if I ever had to move I’d probably look for a master bath with double sinks. Maybe that makes me crazy, but I’d rather not shave in the kitchen sink. As far as losing the magic after seeing each other tend to our daily ablutions, that hasn’t really been an issue. It’s still magical. ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2013, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/30 "2013-05-13T13:34:18Z")
> [@Lynn\_Bodoni](#): > > I hope, for your sake and your husband’s, that he never gets a [pilonidal cyst](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pilonidal_cyst). Because those things have to be cleaned and packed while they heal. And guess who gets to do that? :eek:And there goes breakfast _flush_☹ ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2013, 1:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/31 "2013-05-13T13:45:46Z")
We have separate schedules. I have no problem sharing the bathroom with him. What I don’t want to do is share the morning with him. He wants to chat. I don’t. ---
**Author:** ![Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/96bed5/32.png) [@Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Patty_O_Furniture)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2013, 1:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/32 "2013-05-13T13:56:37Z")
I guess I’m the first one to not understand the whole ‘getting ready in the bathroom’ thing. Why do you need to stand over a sink to get ready for work? Brushing teeth? That takes all of two minutes. My dressing table is and always has been in the bedroom, which is mighty convenient because that’s also where my clothes are. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2013, 2:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/33 "2013-05-13T14:06:40Z")
Separate bathrooms. My gf’s bathroom has a double bowl sink, two medicine cabinets, a huge towel cupboard, bathtub and separate shower. But she needs/uses it all. ---
**Author:** ![SmellMyWort](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea5d25/32.png) [@SmellMyWort](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmellMyWort)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2013, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/34 "2013-05-13T17:51:38Z")
We leave for work at the same time and like having the duo sinks. We’ve done it with one, too, and it wasn’t a big deal, but it’s a nice feature. ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2013, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/35 "2013-05-13T17:55:59Z")
We have never had that issue, except when travelling. Both houses we have owned over the over our 25 years of marriage have had at least 2 bathrooms. I keep my stuff in one, she keeps hers in the other. We do not question it, for it has always been such. Besides, there are tools in her bathroom that scare me. If I saw them everyday I would be tempted to try one and end up putting out an eye. Since I seldom learn from my first mistake, I would end up blind. When we stay in a hotel room with one bath, we make it work. I just wear safety glasses. ---
**Author:** ![Antigen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/848f3c/32.png) [@Antigen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antigen)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2013, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/36 "2013-05-13T22:08:18Z")
> [@April\_R](#): > > Its not moronic to not want to fight over the sink in the morning when we both need to brush our teeth and having our own counter space is great. I guess maybe we brush our teeth differently. I don’t need to hang over a sink to do it. I usually sit on the edge of the tub while I brush, then move to the sink to spit. It was never, ever a problem when my husband and I shared a small bathroom with a single sink. We have a double sink setup in our current home, but it wouldn’t have been a dealbreaker if it had only been a single. We also don’t really leave anything on the sides of the sink except the hand soap and sometimes the toothpaste. We have a medicine cabinet and some drawers for the rest of it. We don’t tend to get ready for work at the same time, though, so maybe we’re not the best data points for the sink-sharing argument. Our work schedules are offset by about 3 hours. ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_R.Mortiss](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tim_r.mortiss/32/142_2.png) [@Tim\_R.Mortiss](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_R.Mortiss)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2013, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/37 "2013-05-13T22:15:54Z")
I \*wish \*we had a big enough bathroom for a double sink! As it is, we frequently “get ready” together, and just deal with the fact that it is crowded. But if the bathroom were big enough, I’d get a double sink in a heartbeat. I’ve considered separate bathrooms (we do have room for that), but that wouldn’t work. She’d never want to clean mine! ---
**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2013, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/38 "2013-05-13T22:27:29Z")
Clearly many bathrooms are designed for multiple people. The one in the house we rented in Louisiana was immense - you could lay on the floor comfortably. At a party we had our undergrad RA and the landlord’s daughter disappeared into it for what seemed like hours, which proves my point. When we were house hunting one place had a beautiful and immense master bath, with a spa and a shower you could drive a truck into. Alas, the rest of the place was trashed. There was one SF story from Galaxy in the 1950s, the slipcover upholstery era, where the house was so protected from use that most people talked to company in the bathroom. ---
**Author:** ![suranyi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e36b37/32.png) [@suranyi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/suranyi)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/39 "2013-05-14T00:22:09Z")
> [@ThelmaLou](#): > > \*Disclaimer: I’m not talking about using the toilet–if you share this experience with your SO, I don’t particularly want to hear about it. \* > > This is always an issue that comes up on House Hunters. “We’ve got to have double sinks!” “Both of us can’t get in the bathroom to get dressed at the same time!” > > Even when I lived in a house/apartment with only one bathroom, I never wanted to get in there to wash, shower, dry my hair, put on my makeup, or anything else with my husband/live-in/boyfriend/etc. I don’t want anyone watching me brush my teeth or shaving my legs. Or putting on makeup. When faced with a one-bathroom situation, I would just get up earlier or later or do makeup at a separate table in a corner of the bedroom or something (with my Clairol makeup mirror), and do the other stuff when I had the bathroom to myself. > > Personally, I think being privy to each other’s \*toilette \*routines is one of the things that kills mystery and romance, but that’s just MHO. I mean, who wants to watch her boyfriend trim his nose hairs? > > Anyway, do you share space with your SO at the same time while performing your personal grooming routines? In our case, it’s not that we want to use the bathroom at the same time, it’s that sometimes we have to. When we’re both running late for morning meetings, for example. ---
**Author:** ![Rhiannon8404](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rhiannon8404/32/17929_2.png) [@Rhiannon8404](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhiannon8404)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113/40 "2013-05-14T00:28:01Z")
Mostly our schedules are such that we’re not getting ready at the same time, but sometimes we do. We do have double sinks in the vanity area of the master bedroom, but it wasn’t a must-have when we were looking at houses. It’s a nice touch. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-get-ready-in-the-bathroom-at-the-same-time-time-as-your-so/658113.md?page=3)