# Do you google your ex's ? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 27, 2006, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148 "2006-03-27T20:54:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![BiblioCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ed8c4c/32.png) [@BiblioCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BiblioCat)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2006, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/21 "2006-03-27T23:08:29Z")
**nyctea scandiaca** , that sounds like the plot of a Meg Ryan movie. šŸ˜ƒ Glad it worked out. I never thought to do it, but after a quickie with Google, I found nothing about a high school boyfriend, and some interesting stuff about my ex-husband. There was always this ā€œBig Family Secretā€ that Was Not To Be Talked About. We were married for three years and I never did find out what it was. When I looked him up, I found his sister looking for a brother who was given up for adoption at what must have been the time his parents divorced. Iā€™m guessing his mom got pregnant and then they separated, or she found out she was pregnant after they separated, or maybe she was pregnant by someone elseā€¦ who knows? I guess she figured two kids was all she could handle alone and decided to give up this third one. Anyway, from the stuff I found, the baby had both of my exā€™s (and his sisterā€™s) parents listed on his original birth certificate, but that would have been changed after his adoption. Sheā€™d posted on a couple of Adoption MBs with her name and email looking for him. I guess that was the Big Family Secret. Iā€™ll have to look up some others later. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Bird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Little\_Bird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Bird)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2006, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/22 "2006-03-27T23:35:06Z")
Just did. That felt totally creepy and stalkerish and I will never do it again. _shudder_ ---
**Author:** ![Mrs\_Johnson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7cd45c/32.png) [@Mrs\_Johnson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mrs_Johnson)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/23 "2006-03-28T00:28:45Z")
My ex boyfriends all have common last namesā€¦ Brown, Jackson, Walker, Smith. No luck on google. However, I did find 2 of their mugshots on the local court records website. :rolleyes: I googled my own name and found my name mentioned on an old friendā€™s Xanga site. Thatā€™s a bit odd. ---
**Author:** ![Ludy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Ludy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludy)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/24 "2006-03-28T00:45:22Z")
I just Googled my High School Sweetheart and the only possible hit for him came from the IMDB site. He always wanted to go into film and the only movie on his filmography was filmed in Vancouver, so it is in his area too. Well if it is in fact him, good going. Iā€™m glad he is doing what he loved to do. ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/25 "2006-03-28T01:11:49Z")
I donā€™t think about my exes much, but a while ago I _did_ Google my first serious boyfriend ā€“ and found him, complete with pictures! No idea what he does for a living, but heā€™s the drummer for a band in Green Bay, Wisconsin. Heā€™s gained a ton of weight, and is married (I saw a wedding band in one of the photos). One day last year I was on the phone with my old college roomate, and we were doing some serious reminiscing about the men we dated. Iā€™ve always regretted the way things ended with that guy, so I looked him up while we were talking. Iā€™d never contact him or anything, but it was interesting to find him. Thatā€™s the first (and so far, only) time Iā€™ve ever looked up an ex. ---
**Author:** ![mrald](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3da27b/32.png) [@mrald](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mrald)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/26 "2006-03-28T01:29:21Z")
Found one, he is in a bandā€¦here. How did I miss that? ---
**Author:** ![groo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecd19e/32.png) [@groo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/groo)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/27 "2006-03-28T01:39:33Z")
Holy F\*\*\*! I just googled my last three girlfriends and got them as the first hit on their first Google pages! Granted, they have uncommon names and interests (e.g., Marjorie Benipoot playing the harmonium), but top of the page! Double Holy S\*\*\*!!! I just googled the woman who devirginated me and sheā€™s on the top of the first Google page, too! Me? My name is the Hispanic version of ā€œBob Smith.ā€ Even though I have a vanity website (_myfirstnamelastname_.com), I donā€™t show up AT ALL. Too much chaff; Iā€™m all but a cipher. (But apparently Iā€™ve dated rather exceptional women!) Now, on with the stalking. ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/28 "2006-03-28T01:53:09Z")
Wow, I just Googled myself! Apparantly Iā€™m from Australia, living in New Zealand; from Yorkshire, living in Turin; from New Zealand, living in the USA; Iā€™m a top fuel dragster racer, am working on a post doctorate in some social science, am a counselor for a major university, am a real estate lawyer for a major firm, I kayak, hang glide, like punk rock revival, recently shaved my beard, and I finally divorced the bitch (yeay me). I havenā€™t used my real name much on the net. Went to page 10 and still hadnā€™t found the right me. ---
**Author:** ![Gozu\_Tashoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7993a0/32.png) [@Gozu\_Tashoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gozu_Tashoya)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 3:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/29 "2006-03-28T03:09:29Z")
> [@Inigo Montoya](#): > > Yeahā€¦but seeing her on [BangBus.com](http://BangBus.com) just got too depressingā€¦ Bwahahahaha! Well played, sir. Well played. I have the LJ username of one of my exes and the Xanga of another (the only ex that really matters), and the one is a verifiable loser (I mean, it was verifiable when I stopped going out with her, but itā€™s even more obvious now), and the other is married and happy, and Iā€™m happy for her (she could update her Xanga more often, though). ---
**Author:** ![raz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9f8e36/32.png) [@raz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raz)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 5:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/30 "2006-03-28T05:14:17Z")
I just googled my first exā€™s username and they all came up with car websites. He was obsessed with his car. Then I googled his real name and it came up with a bunch of license plates websites. He had like a million license plates, he collected them as a hobby. I used ot read his Xanga until I realized that his Xanga was pretty much just like his life. Filled with boring talk about Celicas and Texas and the south shall rise again. Yeah. I broke up with him for a reason. Funny to see that he hasnā€™t changed a bit in over three years. ---
**Author:** ![elmwood](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/elmwood/32/3060_2.png) [@elmwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elmwood)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/31 "2006-03-28T05:21:58Z")
Saw this thread, and did it with one that I no longer keep in touch with. Sheā€™s got her own Web site, with with talent agency portfolio-style photos. Another site has her voiceover and video demos, and even more portfolio photos. Feeling eerily stalkerish, I hit the back button and got out of there. ---
**Author:** ![Corrvin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bbce88/32.png) [@Corrvin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Corrvin)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 5:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/32 "2006-03-28T05:35:40Z")
I just googled my ex-husband and found a beautifully evocative comment to a blog, written about polyfidelity, defending his relationship with his girlfriends. Iā€™m all warm and fuzzy now; Iā€™m glad to know that heā€™s not just telling _me_ that heā€™s deliriously happy-- he _is_ deliriously happy. Corr ---
**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 5:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/33 "2006-03-28T05:37:59Z")
Didnā€™t google, but on Okcupid looked her up, just to see if she still had a profile. She did, and looked like she had lost 30 lbs since we broke up. I guess the best kind of diet was the break-up diet. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 5:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/34 "2006-03-28T05:45:35Z")
I googled one, because he is pretty easy to find. The last time I did it, I found heā€™d taken any mention of me out of the little autobiography he keeps up on his site. It hurt for about a minute, till I thought about the fact that I am completely blameless in our break-up. I do wonder a little about how he feels about it, since he bothered to remove me. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 9:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/35 "2006-03-28T09:08:14Z")
Heh. Just found one. She seems to be the only one on the web, thanks to double-barrelling her already unusual surname when she got married. Has a book or two to her name on the subject of SSADM (itā€™s much less exciting than youā€™re thinking) thanks to HMSO. And also the Cheatinā€™ Ex, no less, under her married name - just an entry on a registry of antiques dealers. Otherwise - hey, I donā€™t _have_ that many exes in the first place. ---
**Author:** ![Askia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/96bed5/32.png) [@Askia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askia)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 9:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/36 "2006-03-28T09:13:50Z")
One. I periodically Google her name (I used to have better luck with Ixquick), almost always to no avail. We broke up under shitty circumstances, and Iā€™m probably better off without her in my life. I must admit I never did find a girl who kissed like she did, or got my humor, or was willing to endure the silliest things just to spend time with me. On the other hand it underscored two major failings of mine: I donā€™t deal with ultimatums well and I will almost always choose my ego over swallowing my pride. ---
**Author:** ![Scissorjack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c67d28/32.png) [@Scissorjack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scissorjack)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 9:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/37 "2006-03-28T09:45:26Z")
Yes. Man, that psychic has them digging in _completely_ the wrong place. ---
**Author:** ![Dorjan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dorjan/32/12440_2.png) [@Dorjan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dorjan)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/38 "2006-03-28T16:04:20Z")
Iā€™ve googled exes (or found info from other sources) just to see what they have been up to. Nothing stalkerish about that, unless you are doing it obsessively. One ex-gf appears to be making quite a name for herself in the nuclear science field. She was a nuke engineering student at U of M when we dated, so itā€™s good to see that her career path is working out. I did hear that she might now have sickle cell and is quite sick ā˜¹ Another ex got a job w/ the Chicago DOT as a traffic analyst, but she appears to have left that job recently and has dropped off the radar. One ex married a guy old near old enough to be her father. Her mother died of a heart attack AT her wedding :eek: and according to court records they filed for a divorce just 3 years later. There are more, but those are the more interesting ones. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/39 "2006-03-28T16:27:25Z")
> [@Little Bird](#): > > Just did. That felt totally creepy and stalkerish and I will never do it again. _shudder_ Yeah, I didnā€™t like it either butā€¦I was glad to see heā€™s happy at least. We didnā€™t part on that good terms, but we had a good run while it lasted. So hey, heā€™s doing great and I wonā€™t check on him again. But man, he has thousands of pics on his webpage. Thousands! ---
**Author:** ![YaWanna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/bbce88/32.png) [@YaWanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YaWanna)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2006, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148/40 "2006-03-28T16:35:50Z")
I did it a few weeks ago on my first boyfriend, because of an email I got from Classmates that said heā€™d recently been ā€œfound.ā€ He seems to have headed in the general direction in life that he intended back in high school. And he seems, from the one magazine interview I read, to still be insufferably arrogant. Actually, the high-tech company he started appears to have fizzled, and thereā€™s no recent information about him. I hadnā€™t thought about googling my ex-husband, or any other ex-boyfriends, actually. Iā€™d be surprised if I found anything on any of them. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-google-your-exs/350148.md?page=3)