# Do you hate anyone you don't know? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 3, 2013, 12:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168 "2013-02-03T00:20:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2013, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/21 "2013-02-04T18:36:04Z")
> [@sandra\_nz](#): > > I don’t even hate anyone I _do_ know. Hate takes a lot of time and effort, I just can’t be bothered and I’m lucky enough to have never been put in a situation where I could understandably hate someone. +1. OTOH, many people have done _somthing(s)_ that I hate(d), but I do try to separate the action from the person. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2013, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/22 "2013-02-04T18:59:14Z")
Tom Cruise, but he is the one that started it. ---
**Author:** ![EmilyG](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/emilyg/32/364_2.png) [@EmilyG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmilyG)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2013, 7:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/23 "2013-02-04T19:29:39Z")
Many, many people who do annoying things on public transit. Also, my prime minister. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2013, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/24 "2013-02-04T20:18:08Z")
Sean Hannity. I will give him SUCH a thumping. ---
**Author:** ![Barkis\_is\_Willin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a183cd/32.png) [@Barkis\_is\_Willin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Barkis_is_Willin)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2013, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/25 "2013-02-04T21:29:53Z")
Hate is probably strong, but I can be quick to judge. I recently saw a guy loudly berate his ~10 year old son at a restaurant because he didn’t eat all his food. I had strong feelings for that guy. ---
**Author:** ![R3d\_Anonymous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/aeb1de/32.png) [@R3d\_Anonymous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R3d_Anonymous)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2013, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/26 "2013-02-04T22:03:30Z")
I don’t really hate any people I don’t know. Even on the SDMB, I don’t really “know” people here, and I don’t hate anyone here either. But I’m pretty sure that I’m “hated” a lot here by various people. So I am not the hater, but the one being hated. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2013, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/27 "2013-02-04T22:22:11Z")
**AU** , don’t take this the wrong way, but I seriously doubt if anyone even gives you a second thought, let alone enough consideration to “hate” you. That’s just how the internet works for all of us. We’re just not that important. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Blaster\_Master](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/cab0a1/32.png) [@Blaster\_Master](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blaster_Master)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2013, 10:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/28 "2013-02-04T22:40:34Z")
> [@Enkel](#): > > For me, it is the actor who plays “Mayhem” for the Allstate commercials. If I see him playing other roles, I want to see him beaten to a bloody pulp. After years of those awful commercials (that often have loud crashing horrible noises)… if I were to meet him face-to-face, it would be hard to not hit him as a reflex reaction. If they don’t quit those commercials soon, I may just start hunting down and kicking Allstate agents as a substitute. Funny, I think he’s awesome, but I loved him as Ryan O’Reilly on Oz and thought, in light of that character, that casting him as mayhem was apropos. As far as hate, no. There’s a few people I like to fun hate on, particularly when it comes to sports. Sure, some of them I still don’t like, but I wouldn’t show them any less courtesy than a stranger. Really, I don’t even think it’s possible to really have feelings that strong about someone I don’t know unless it were somekind of blanket hatred against a whole class of people, which I just don’t do. But I have had the misfortune of knowing people that I think most others would say that I should hate because they’ve done horrible things to me or loved ones, but I just don’t. With the effort it takes to hate someone, I could just apply that energy to healing, and moving on. In each case that comes to mind, while I certainly don’t agree with their actions, I at least have some understanding of why they did the things they did, so I just see their humanity. I certainly don’t want those people in my life, but I don’t hate them. If anything, I think emotions that strong because of people hurt just goes to show that a person hasn’t done the work to heal and move on. This might be different if I had been exposed to someone I see, at least at the level I’ve been exposed to them, as evil, but short of having that greater exposure to them, at which point I might know enough about them and be affected enough by them to justifiably feel that way, it just doesn’t make sense. ---
**Author:** ![Purd\_Werfect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e47c2d/32.png) [@Purd\_Werfect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Purd_Werfect)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2013, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/29 "2013-02-04T22:54:51Z")
I don’t hate anyone that I can think of, though there’s loads of people I can’t stand to be around for any length of time. There are traits that I hate in people though - cruelty being chief among them. ---
**Author:** ![DCnDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dcndc/32/2842_2.png) [@DCnDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DCnDC)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2013, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/30 "2013-02-04T22:58:35Z")
No. Ignoring is a much better expenditure of time and effort for everyone involved. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2013, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/31 "2013-02-04T23:08:10Z")
> [@Anonymous User](#): > > But I’m pretty sure that I’m “hated” a lot here by various people. Stealth brag? Who are you, exactly?:dubious: IOW, cite? ---
**Author:** ![Max\_the\_Immortal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/6de8d8/32.png) [@Max\_the\_Immortal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_the_Immortal)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2013, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/32 "2013-02-04T23:10:59Z")
I suppose that if I were to meet Andrew Wakefield I’d be tempted to punch him in the mouth. Does that count? ---
**Author:** ![Richard\_E.Nixon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/8491ac/32.png) [@Richard\_E.Nixon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Richard_E.Nixon)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 7:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/33 "2013-02-06T07:29:33Z")
David Spade. I’ll be glad when he dies. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 7:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/34 "2013-02-06T07:47:06Z")
> [@Anonymous User](#): > > But I’m pretty sure that I’m “hated” a lot here by various people. > > So I am not the hater, but the one being hated. It’s called **E-N-V-Y** and it’s a bitch. Get used to it, young buck. Greatness carries a heavy burden…☹ ---
**Author:** ![GreenElf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9de053/32.png) [@GreenElf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GreenElf)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 8:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/35 "2013-02-06T08:08:44Z")
Yeah, I hate this internet website poster that goes by “Blackberry”. Just who do they think are, really? :mad: ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 8:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/36 "2013-02-06T08:14:28Z")
> [@GreenElf](#): > > Yeah, I hate this internet website poster that goes by “Blackberry”. Impossible! ---
**Author:** ![GreenElf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9de053/32.png) [@GreenElf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GreenElf)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 8:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/37 "2013-02-06T08:38:04Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > Impossible! Yeah, they’re just impossible to deal with. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Other\_Dreams](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Other\_Dreams](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Other_Dreams)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 10:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/38 "2013-02-06T10:08:00Z")
Yes, I do, and it is rather odd, I suppose, but one day I was walking with my cute little niece through our complex when out of a door came a man and his dog. Now, this is normally a perfectly cromulent action, but it was the next thing he did that bothered me: While the dog feverishly barked, slobbered, and fought against the leash it was attached to in desire for my charge, the owner occupied himself with a lovely chat halfway through his door, paying his dog no heed. It probably wouldn’t have attacked my niece, but the way it looked at her, and the nonchalant manner he carried himself in regards to his dog suddenly made me hate him, and I wanted him away from my family, because he was dangerous and reckless and almost got my niecey killed (at least, those were the absurd thoughts that went through my head at the time). I know it’s silly and I shake my head at myself about it, but I was immensely relieved when he moved out last week. ---
**Author:** ![steviep24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5f9b8f/32.png) [@steviep24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/steviep24)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 11:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/39 "2013-02-06T11:19:55Z")
The talking baby in the e-trade commercials. And the guy who does his voice. ---
**Author:** ![Enright3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/enright3/32/2897_2.png) [@Enright3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enright3)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168/40 "2013-02-06T16:25:19Z")
It’s easier to hate people I don’t know. 🙂 It happens at work all the time. I’ll be sifting through someone’s old code and despise the way they did something. Then I get to know them; and I more forgiving; because I found out they’re still an OK person… just not the type of programmer I am. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-hate-anyone-you-dont-know/649168.md?page=3)