# Do you kiss on your first date? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 7, 2013, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407 "2013-01-07T22:39:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 5:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/41 "2013-01-08T05:43:55Z")
I just don’t enjoy kissing. ---
**Author:** ![InternetLegend](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/internetlegend/32/13154_2.png) [@InternetLegend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InternetLegend)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 5:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/42 "2013-01-08T05:48:45Z")
Good Lord. I just realized that _I don’t know_! My last “first date” was in 1979 or so. We did indeed kiss, among other activities, but it was the seventies and I was a teenager. I have absolutely no idea at all what I would or would not do on a date nowadays. Good thing it’s not likely to come up, eh? ---
**Author:** ![jackdavinci](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackdavinci/32/3259_2.png) [@jackdavinci](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackdavinci)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 5:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/43 "2013-01-08T05:54:03Z")
I have no idea. I think if it’s a coffee date or other less formal date like a picnic or whatever, there’s no expectations. If it’s a dinner date it’s ok if there’s no kiss, but I would then at least want some verbal confirmation that I wasn’t being put in the friend zone. ---
**Author:** ![jackdavinci](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackdavinci/32/3259_2.png) [@jackdavinci](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackdavinci)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 6:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/44 "2013-01-08T06:02:29Z")
> [@Cub\_Mistress](#): > > Now, another question. I am the only person who asks for ID on a first date that I met through a dating website? one or two have been a bit surprised but complied, others seemed to think it perfetly normal. This seems a little odd to me - what information are you hoping to confirm with an ID? I did ask to see a date’s ID once, just because we were waiting for our order and I thought it would be fun to see his ID photo. I was just being playful and just looked at the photo, but my date then felt the need to apologize for lying about his age, which I hadn’t even noticed. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 6:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/45 "2013-01-08T06:03:30Z")
> [@colander](#): > > I just don’t enjoy kissing. Are you a dude? If so, should we like get married or something? ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/46 "2013-01-08T20:10:15Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > Are you a dude? If so, should we like get married or something? You may want to rethink the minimal criteria by which you choose your relationship partners. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/47 "2013-01-08T20:47:42Z")
I’ll call the burn unit… ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/48 "2013-01-08T21:24:17Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > Most of the time I’m getting blown or having sex on the first date. > [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > Right, but you could still Pretty Woman it and not kiss them. 😉 A gentleman doesn’t kiss and tell. ---
**Author:** ![Weeping\_Wyvern](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/858c86/32.png) [@Weeping\_Wyvern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Weeping_Wyvern)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/49 "2013-01-08T21:35:55Z")
> [@Chronos](#): > > I expect that for a lot of first dates, one or both of the participants aren’t actually sure whether it was really a date or not until after the fact. In such a situation, there probably isn’t a kiss at the end of the date. Indeed. I’m still not sure which, if any, of my various encounters with females have actually qualified as “dates”. But I can say that none of them have involved kissing, so there you go. ---
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/50 "2013-01-08T21:50:14Z")
I never kissed on a first date back when I was single. It usually took me a few dates to really figure out if I liked the guy. Plus kissing strangers just makes me think about how easy that makes it to pass around The Herp. Now, of course, I know that oral and genital herpes are so common in the general population that it’s not really that big of a deal, but still, kind of gross to think that just because someone buys you dinner you need to share cold sores with them. ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2013, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/51 "2013-01-08T22:06:20Z")
Yep. Life is short, and I don’t want to spend a week or even a couple days mooning over someone I’m not sure I’ll be compatible with. Besides, I’ve never been on a first date with someone I didn’t already feel affection and at least a small amount of lust for, so I see no reason to wait. To the non-masters: don’t you want to know what the guy or girl you’re hoping to see again smells and tastes like? Or is the unknown part of the fun? Maybe my answer shouldn’t count because I’ve never been on a blind date or an internet date. I’ve never had any kind of romantic encounter with someone I didn’t already know fairly well. ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2013, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/52 "2013-01-09T00:58:51Z")
I probably wouldn’t, but the first kisses I can recall weren’t on dates anyway. With Mig we were at work when we first kissed. The guy before that we were at a campground with a bunch of friends for a few days when we kissed. My first husband we hadn’t known each other an hour before we were making out in a breezeway on Beale Street. ---
**Author:** ![Balance](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ccd318/32.png) [@Balance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Balance)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2013, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/53 "2013-01-09T02:07:34Z")
I said “First”, since I’m perfectly happy to do so, but my dating life (such as it is) has been all over the map. One particularly memorable First ended with a very romantic kiss (seriously, there was applause) even though we had not exchanged a single word since we met. It was a strange, wild, and beautiful evening. ---
**Author:** ![Musicat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/musicat/32/20189_2.png) [@Musicat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Musicat)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2013, 2:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/54 "2013-01-09T02:15:56Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > Most of the time I’m getting blown or having sex on the first date. Why wait that long? ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2013, 7:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/55 "2013-01-09T07:26:48Z")
> [@colander](#): > > You may want to rethink the minimal criteria by which you choose your relationship partners. That’s not very nice. Proposal rescinded. ---
**Author:** ![drewtwo99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@drewtwo99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewtwo99)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2013, 7:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/56 "2013-01-09T07:33:15Z")
Shipoopi, shipoopi, shipoopi, the girl is hard to get! Haha, I just watched the episode of family guy where he sang that song as a victory celebration after scoring a touchdown. So good. But yeah, I’m no shipoopi. I always kiss on the very first date. ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2013, 7:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/57 "2013-01-09T07:39:43Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > Kissing is nothing. I don’t particularly want to kiss anyone, like I don’t particularly want to shake anyone’s hand, but I WILL. Who cares. Remind me why we broke up!? 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2013, 7:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/58 "2013-01-09T07:44:28Z")
> [@Isamu](#): > > Remind me why we broke up!? 😛 Because we still loved each other but just weren’t IN love with each other. ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2013, 8:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/59 "2013-01-09T08:08:41Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > Because we still loved each other but just weren’t IN love with each other. But baby, it’s 2013. So how you like me _now_? ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2013, 8:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407/60 "2013-01-09T08:39:12Z")
> [@Isamu](#): > > But baby, it’s 2013. > > So how you like me _now_? A lot better than I like most of my exes! Really starting to regret our hasty, public breakup. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-kiss-on-your-first-date/646407.md?page=4)