# Do you let your significant other in the bathroom while you're on the toilet? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 12, 2006, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709 "2006-01-12T20:23:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![YaWanna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/bbce88/32.png) [@YaWanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YaWanna)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/21 "2006-01-12T21:31:06Z")
Yes, I usually don’t mind. But it does bother me to use the toilet while I’m talking on the phone, which is the opposite of Mr. Wanna - he put phones in both bathrooms so he can talk to his buddies & family on the throne. Don’t know why, but that bothers me. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 9:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/22 "2006-01-12T21:37:11Z")
We stopped caring about that stuff a long time ago. After you’ve seen a woman give birth, there aren’t any secrets anymore. ---
**Author:** ![Anne\_Neville](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Anne\_Neville](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anne_Neville)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 9:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/23 "2006-01-12T21:43:29Z")
We stopped caring about that kind of thing a long time ago, too, even though we don’t have any kids yet. Though I might warn him away if the stink is too bad. ---
**Author:** ![stpauler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@stpauler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stpauler)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/24 "2006-01-12T22:04:17Z")
Me? Never. I did date someone waaaaaaaaaay back when. Went up to his family’s farm in Ashland, WI. They would ask a member of the family to go keep ‘em company and chat while they pooped. It was the weirdest f\*\*\*in’ thing, made even more weird by the uncomfortableness I noticed as I slowly closed the bathroom door which was right by the kitchen table as everyone looked back at me going in solo. Shudder. Some things you never forget. ---
**Author:** ![NurseCarmen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5daacb/32.png) [@NurseCarmen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NurseCarmen)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/25 "2006-01-12T22:12:58Z")
She often comes in. Then tells me I stink. The dog demands he be let in too. But I could never stink to him. ---
**Author:** ![Cerri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/3bc359/32.png) [@Cerri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cerri)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 10:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/26 "2006-01-12T22:13:20Z")
Eh…hubby prefers to be alone, but will let me in if I need something in there. Me, I usually don’t even bother closing the door. (Our bathroom is off our master bedroom, I’ll close the bedroom door if the kids are home, but still usually leave the bathroom door open. ---
**Author:** ![elfbabe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b782af/32.png) [@elfbabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfbabe)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/27 "2006-01-12T22:26:31Z")
If it’s necessary for some reason, sure. Otherwise, no no no. One has to maintain SOME mystique. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/28 "2006-01-12T22:26:55Z")
Previous long-term relationship: yes to everything, but we’d seen each other in some pretty bad situations travelling in the third world, so nothing was sacred - then again maybe that’s where we went wrong. This relationship: wee wee is OK, poo poo, no. I like it that way. The British comedian Lenny Henry had a sketch where he speculated on whether it would be possible to skip the dating and flowers part of a relationship and go straight into the long-term bit. He suggested approaching a hot woman in a bar and asking her: “Do you want to come round to my bathroom and have a dump while I brush my teeth?” ---
**Author:** ![lisacurl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/41988e/32.png) [@lisacurl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lisacurl)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/29 "2006-01-12T22:30:53Z")
> [@Anne Neville](#): > > We stopped caring about that kind of thing a long time ago, too, even though we don’t have any kids yet. Though I might warn him away if the stink is too bad. Exactly. Mr. Lisa tends to close the door and spray half a can of Oust, though, if he’s really stinky. ---
**Author:** ![Cunctator](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/43a26b/32.png) [@Cunctator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cunctator)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/30 "2006-01-12T22:36:56Z")
This is the point at which having the toilet in a separate room from the bathroom comes into its own. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/31 "2006-01-12T23:05:09Z")
I don’t know that Jakeline and I have ever specifically discussed this, but I’m a freak for bathroom privacy, and the idea of me walking in on someone or someone walking in on me while I’m doing my business (standing or sitting) is horrifying to me. I don’t know that it particularly interests her, either. I don’t even like the idea of someone walking near the outside of the bathroom if I’m doing something that might have an audible results. It took me quite some time to even be comfortable with her coming in the bathroom to do girly stuff\* while I was brushing my teeth or in the shower. To me, “bathroom” has always been equal to “private.” \*_“ **girly stuff** ” is a technical term associated with doing make-up, blow-drying hair, or just about anything else she would do in the bathroom that doesn’t involve actually using the toilet_ ---
**Author:** ![scout1222](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/34f0e0/32.png) [@scout1222](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scout1222)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 11:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/32 "2006-01-12T23:18:35Z")
I don’t want to be seen pooping, or inserting/removing a tampon. Anything else I don’t mind, though we usually don’t hang out with each other when we’re on the toilet. ---
**Author:** ![Rhiannon8404](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rhiannon8404/32/17929_2.png) [@Rhiannon8404](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhiannon8404)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/33 "2006-01-12T23:20:53Z")
Oh, no! It’s absolutely privacy for me. No one is allowed, not my husband, kid, the dog, not even the cat. Don’t come in…you can’t any, it’s locked! Hah! Don’t knock…you know where I am! Do not speak to me or attempt to carry on any sort of conversation. You may shout, if it’s an emergency like fire or something. Somethings are just meant to be done alone. ---
**Author:** ![Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helen_s_Eidolon)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/34 "2006-01-12T23:48:02Z")
No, with an exception - if one of us is in the shower and the curtain is drawn. It’s a figurative barrier that we need, I guess. ---
**Author:** ![delphica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e9a140/32.png) [@delphica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/delphica)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/35 "2006-01-12T23:57:55Z")
Oh goodness no. NO. I’m in the camp of people who see the bathroom as a little oasis of privacy, whether it’s using the toilet or flossing one’s teeth. Exceptions: 1. Romantic bathing 2. Illness/injury that requires assistance 3. Bathing the cat, not to be confused with #1 ---
**Author:** ![DirkGntly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d9b06d/32.png) [@DirkGntly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DirkGntly)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2006, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/36 "2006-01-13T00:33:07Z")
> [@delphica](#): > > Oh goodness no. NO. I’m in the camp of people who see the bathroom as a little oasis of privacy, whether it’s using the toilet or flossing one’s teeth. > > Exceptions: > > 1. Romantic bathing > 2. Illness/injury that requires assistance > 3. Bathing the cat, not to be confused with #1 But point 1 above is synonymous with point 3, if you re-phrase it to be “cleaning the kitty.” …what?? ---
**Author:** ![D.E.S.K.Top668](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f07891/32.png) [@D.E.S.K.Top668](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D.E.S.K.Top668)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2006, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/37 "2006-01-13T00:35:58Z")
#1, I don’t even bother closing the door. #2, the door is closed but I’ll probably b interupped by "daaaad, I gotta go pottyyyyy! or I’m going to hop in the shower to get ready for work. Door locked, I’m just trying to get five minutes to myself and ANYBODY knocking better have a damn good reason for disturbing me. 1 bathroom for four people, three of them female (two under seven) and privacy pretty much goes out the window. Peace - DESK ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Griffin-Kentzel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_griffin-kentzel/32/14787_2.png) [@Larry\_Griffin-Kentzel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Griffin-Kentzel)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2006, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/38 "2006-01-13T00:40:16Z")
Since this is basically a poll, I’ll move it to **IMHO** for you. **Cajun Man** for the SDMB ---
**Author:** ![enipla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/54ee81/32.png) [@enipla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enipla)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2006, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/39 "2006-01-13T00:40:27Z")
> [@delphica](#): > > Oh goodness no. NO. I’m in the camp of people who see the bathroom as a little oasis of privacy, whether it’s using the toilet or flossing one’s teeth. > > Exceptions: > > 1. Romantic bathing > 2. Illness/injury that requires assistance > 3. Bathing the cat, not to be confused with #1 Well, you would never want to bath the cat with a #2. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2006, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709/40 "2006-01-13T00:48:42Z")
What **fishbicycle** said. We have separate bathrooms for a reason. She can stick her head in to ask me a question or bring me the phone, but that’s it. Private time. That, and my gas is classed as a borderline violation of any number of international treaties. 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-let-your-significant-other-in-the-bathroom-while-youre-on-the-toilet/339709.md?page=3)