# Do you like to be spanked? Maybe TMI **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 13, 2008, 12:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284 "2008-07-13T00:55:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![freekalette](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/50afbb/32.png) [@freekalette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freekalette)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2008, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/21 "2008-07-14T04:10:02Z")
[QUOTE=nd\_n8] Well… In my experience it means that, during certain oppertune moments, a solid whack on the ass is appreciated. It could be a playful flirt. It could be during foreplay. Sometimes it’s nice during oral (giving and receiving) but one has to be careful not to suprise one’s SO while sharp teeth are near something sensitive. Sometimes (quite often really) it means taking someone from behind, grabbing their hair and yanking their head backwards so their back arches in just that certain way and slappin’ that padunkadunk on the back stroke until it is glowing red, rubbing it back down then slappin’ it back up again. Make them cry, make them moan - beg you to stop, beg you for more. A tweek here, a pinch there, some more tuggy tuggy then an earth shattering smack. Never let up, never stop, never surrender until the job is done or until she starts screaming “Watermelon, Watermelon, Oh for the love of God stop, Watermelon, I need a break!” Safewords, don’t leave reality without them 😉 [/QUOTE] Honey, is that you?? _notices mention of watermelon safeword_ Ah, nope. Guess not. 'Scuse me, all, I gotta run to my bunk for just a minute or two… ---
**Author:** ![Hockey\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a183cd/32.png) [@Hockey\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hockey_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2008, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/22 "2008-07-14T04:31:01Z")
[QUOTE=nd\_n8] Sometimes (quite often really) it means taking someone from behind, grabbing their hair and yanking their head backwards so their back arches in just that certain way and slappin’ that padunkadunk on the back stroke until it is glowing red, rubbing it back down then slappin’ it back up again. [/QUOTE] Making a note to show this to my boyfriend. This describes what I like perfectly. ---
**Author:** ![Fir\_na\_tine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a587f6/32.png) [@Fir\_na\_tine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fir_na_tine)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2008, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/23 "2008-07-14T15:45:29Z")
[QUOTE=Orual] Eh, it’s not my thing. I don’t go for humiliation. Of course, I’ve got my own little laundry list of kinks, which I’m sure are just as odd (that is to say, not very). [/QUOTE] None of the various partners that enjoyed spanking ever thought they were being humiliated. They indicated they enjoyed the physical stimulation of having a rosy red ass, followed by a very gentle licking of the wounds. Penis ensued and everyone went home happy. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2008, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/24 "2008-07-14T15:54:05Z")
[QUOTE=Rhythmdvl] Fortunately, the shortened attention spans lead to other fun adventures, \*\*because I was chagrined at the thought of hitting her. \*\* Oh man, I can’t believe I’m asking all this… but the Dope is great for intelligent, frank, non-lascivious illumination. [/QUOTE] That bit right there (that I bolded above) is what took me a while to get into it. I was terrified that I was going to hurt my partner and getting past the stigma that I was hitting them…even though they wanted me to. The way I got over it was to be with someone who was more than willing to be patient and would tell me when it was too much, reassure me when I thought I had gone too far but really hadn’t and teach me new things to do to them. ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2008, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/25 "2008-07-14T15:54:15Z")
Me? No. Partners? Yes. More have than haven’t. ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2008, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/26 "2008-07-14T16:06:41Z")
I’m guessing most people that like to be spanked will be answering, so just for balance, I’m chiming in with my “no.” It has never occurred to me, nor have I ever fantasized about it in the abstract. Also, I’ve read some of Anne Rice’s erotica which was all about spanking and it never raised a spark in me! So, no. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2008, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/27 "2008-07-14T16:23:53Z")
What he (Cervaise) said. ---
**Author:** ![Hypno-Toad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b2d939/32.png) [@Hypno-Toad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hypno-Toad)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2008, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/28 "2008-07-14T17:44:43Z")
Don’t like to do it and don’t want it done to me. Pain is not my thang. ---
**Author:** ![Caricci](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/85f322/32.png) [@Caricci](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Caricci)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2008, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/29 "2008-07-14T18:17:26Z")
For me it helps if there’s a scenario involved. Let’s just say I blush every time I see the manager of my local supermarket because, you know, he had a word with my husband about me stealing an eyeliner and told my husband that if he didn’t take care of it, the police would be brought in. Not really, of course. But that was a lot of fun. ---
**Author:** ![pbbth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f9ae1b/32.png) [@pbbth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pbbth)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2008, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/30 "2008-07-14T18:44:49Z")
No. I am not the least bit interested in that stuff. My kink is exhibitionism though, so to each their own I guess. ---
**Author:** ![Orual](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/779978/32.png) [@Orual](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orual)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2008, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/31 "2008-07-14T19:31:42Z")
[QUOTE=Fir na tine] None of the various partners that enjoyed spanking ever thought they were being humiliated. They indicated they enjoyed the physical stimulation of having a rosy red ass, followed by a very gentle licking of the wounds. [/QUOTE] I probably should have been more clear: spanking is something _I, inside my own head_ associate with infantilization and humiliation, which is why it’s not a sexual turn-on _for me_. I didn’t mean to imply that my impressions were the same as those who enjoy the practice. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2008, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/32 "2008-07-15T01:14:30Z")
[QUOTE=nd\_n8] Sometimes (quite often really) it means taking someone from behind, grabbing their hair and yanking their head backwards so their back arches in just that certain way and slappin’ that padunkadunk on the back stroke until it is glowing red, rubbing it back down then slappin’ it back up again. Make them cry, make them moan - beg you to stop, beg you for more. A tweek here, a pinch there, some more tuggy tuggy then an earth shattering smack. Never let up, never stop, never surrender until the job is done or until she starts screaming “Watermelon, Watermelon, Oh for the love of God stop, Watermelon, I need a break!” [/QUOTE] Dude … dude. I’m so queer for you! Huh? Oh. Ahem. Um. Never been spanqed, but right now I’d just like the attention! The ex liked the occasional. ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2008, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/33 "2008-07-15T01:32:15Z")
[QUOTE=Hypno-Toad] Don’t like to do it and don’t want it done to me. Pain is not my thang. [/QUOTE] This is the part I don’t understand. I mean, spankings ceased to be _pain_ for most of us somewhere around 10 or 11 years of age. Back in the day when spanking was what parents did to misbehaving kids, that was the age it stopped due to sheer lack of effectiveness. So unless you’re thinking about ‘spanking’ with paddles or rods or something, I just don’t see the mental connection between spankings and pain. ---
**Author:** ![Most\_Creative\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Most\_Creative\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Most_Creative_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2008, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/34 "2008-07-15T01:50:07Z")
I’m in the camp of liking it as well. _makes notes of secret handshake_ ---
**Author:** ![gravitycrash](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/977dab/32.png) [@gravitycrash](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gravitycrash)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2008, 4:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/35 "2008-07-15T04:20:00Z")
I had no idea that so many female dopers enjoyed an ass tap. I want to be clear that anything more than pink cheeks is a complete turn off for me. I guess I should have known since most of you are well read and understand that the missionary position can get get boring after awhile. ---
**Author:** ![melodyharmonius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/melodyharmonius/32/21310_2.png) [@melodyharmonius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/melodyharmonius)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2008, 5:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/36 "2008-07-15T05:01:38Z")
Spanking? Yes, please. But it’s not about the pain - it’s about the surprise, the unexpected jolt that gets your adrenaline running. The recognition that the thing you are doing is perhaps not as vanilla as usual - that you’ve been naughty - or that you need a little heat on your sweet meat. If I could term this delicately, hmmm, I suppose my best analysis is that you guys, when you are, umm - going solo - you grab and squeeze and pull - right? And that’s not about pain - that’s about pleasure - about getting the blood flowing, and the proper stimulation happening. For some of us, getting us rosy red on the posterior has the same effect. gravitycrash: that is not my definition of an ass tap. But I like those too - as my bf will attest. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2008, 12:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/37 "2008-07-15T12:17:31Z")
In theory/fantasy, absolutely. I have a submissive streak a mile wide. In reality, it’s a little awkward. But that has more to do with the personality of my mate than anything else. He’s a very gentle, not very dominant sort. [QUOTE=nd\_n8] Sometimes (quite often really) it means taking someone from behind, grabbing their hair and yanking their head backwards so their back arches in just that certain way and slappin’ that padunkadunk on the back stroke until it is glowing red, rubbing it back down then slappin’ it back up again. [/QUOTE] :eek: 😃 ---
**Author:** ![LurkMeister](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/3da27b/32.png) [@LurkMeister](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LurkMeister)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2008, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/38 "2008-07-16T01:08:15Z")
I was at a party once where there were a number of “items” auctioned off to reimburse the host for some of his expenses. One of the female guests volunteered to auction off the right to spank her. I bid $5 just to get things started, and no one else bid, so I won! There was some discussion about the terms of the spanking…fully dressed, pants down, or bare-bottom…public or private… When I was finished and the young lady was able to breath normally again 😉 she took my hand and held it palm up, stroked it, and said that I had “a great hand for spanking”. ---
**Author:** ![AngryIrishLass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/bbce88/32.png) [@AngryIrishLass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngryIrishLass)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2008, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/39 "2008-07-16T01:35:42Z")
[QUOTE=nd\_n8] Well… In my experience it means that, during certain oppertune moments, a solid whack on the ass is appreciated. It could be a playful flirt. It could be during foreplay. Sometimes it’s nice during oral (giving and receiving) but one has to be careful not to suprise one’s SO while sharp teeth are near something sensitive. Sometimes (quite often really) it means taking someone from behind, grabbing their hair and yanking their head backwards so their back arches in just that certain way and slappin’ that padunkadunk on the back stroke until it is glowing red, rubbing it back down then slappin’ it back up again. Make them cry, make them moan - beg you to stop, beg you for more. A tweek here, a pinch there, some more tuggy tuggy then an earth shattering smack. Never let up, never stop, never surrender until the job is done or until she starts screaming “Watermelon, Watermelon, Oh for the love of God stop, Watermelon, I need a break!” Safewords, don’t leave reality without them 😉 [/QUOTE] ^^^^^ that with a little firm, but not breaking the skin biting. Soccor moms have to let loose somewhere. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![kjangel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ee7513/32.png) [@kjangel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kjangel)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2008, 4:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284/40 "2008-07-16T04:47:54Z")
🙂 [QUOTE=nd\_n8] Well… In my experience it means that, during certain oppertune moments, a solid whack on the ass is appreciated. It could be a playful flirt. It could be during foreplay. Sometimes it’s nice during oral (giving and receiving) but one has to be careful not to suprise one’s SO while sharp teeth are near something sensitive. Sometimes (quite often really) it means taking someone from behind, grabbing their hair and yanking their head backwards so their back arches in just that certain way and slappin’ that padunkadunk on the back stroke until it is glowing red, rubbing it back down then slappin’ it back up again. Make them cry, make them moan - beg you to stop, beg you for more. A tweek here, a pinch there, some more tuggy tuggy then an earth shattering smack. Never let up, never stop, never surrender until the job is done or until she starts screaming “Watermelon, Watermelon, Oh for the love of God stop, Watermelon, I need a break!” Safewords, don’t leave reality without them 😉 [/QUOTE] Hes all mine ladies (and men) hes all mine …hmmmmm I want some watermelon 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-like-to-be-spanked-maybe-tmi/456284.md?page=3)