# Do you love yourself? What's it like? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 2, 2003, 12:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-love-yourself-whats-it-like/216379 "2003-12-02T00:47:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Jervoise](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/d2c977/32.png) [@Jervoise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jervoise)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2003, 1:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-love-yourself-whats-it-like/216379/41 "2003-12-03T01:44:43Z")
… put it this way: if I met my exact clone, I’d do him. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![SanguineSpider](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@SanguineSpider](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanguineSpider)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2003, 4:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-love-yourself-whats-it-like/216379/42 "2003-12-03T04:03:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by SHAKES \* > \*\*Sometimes, when I’m admiring myself in the mirror; I start to think about the people who are less fortunate than me. You know, the one who aren’t as hansom as I am? Then it makes me sad… > > Then I remember the reason why I’m more hansom, is becuase God loves me more… > > Then I’m happy again. \*\* You’re a riot!! You made me smile, you sick son-of-a-biped! ---
**Author:** ![Urban\_Ranger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Urban\_Ranger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urban_Ranger)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2003, 8:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-love-yourself-whats-it-like/216379/43 "2003-12-03T08:02:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by spogga \* > Hitler was quite fond of himself y’know, likewise Stalin. > > Couple of real nice guys, allegedly Ah! Godwin was here. Not only once, but twice. In the same post, too. Imagine that. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![wendyrules](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/85e7bf/32.png) [@wendyrules](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wendyrules)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2003, 9:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-love-yourself-whats-it-like/216379/44 "2003-12-03T09:15:23Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by AussieGuy \* > \*\*WOW wendy, sounds like your " **current**" ( are you planning on another after him?) partner really does love you. > > I’ve never really loved myself, but then I’ve never really hated myself either. I am what I am, I can’t change that. I am however happy with the person I am. (there’s a lot of I ams here and it makes me feel uncomfortable:o ) I guess that could be described as a downfall. But I’ve always said “Take me as I am or forget it”, because what you see is what you get. \*\* Sorry AussieGuy, for my delay in responding, but _shrugs_ you know how it is at times?!! 😉 But to answer your comments, YES, my partner really DOES love me, as I love him. (Just as well, hey?!!) The only reason I made mention of the word **“current”** was to disassociate him from my critical ex, and to answer your question, NO I’m definately NOT planning on another one after him… in fact, I didn’t know he was going anywhere!!! :dubious: 😃 ---
**Author:** ![ParentalAdvisory](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/53a042/32.png) [@ParentalAdvisory](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ParentalAdvisory)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2003, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-love-yourself-whats-it-like/216379/45 "2003-12-05T19:45:39Z")
Nice post **neutron star**. ---
**Author:** ![JohnBckWLD](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/d6d6ee/32.png) [@JohnBckWLD](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnBckWLD)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2003, 11:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-love-yourself-whats-it-like/216379/46 "2003-12-05T23:28:47Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by neutron star \* > \*\*…I’d also like to thank **JohnBckWLD** and the others for basically telling me that I don’t _really_ love my wife of five years. Thanks, guys. Have you considered that perhaps human emotion is too variable and complex to sum up in your ridiculous absolutes? \*\* Actually, I was responding to **devilsknew** ’s post, which had more absolutes in it than mine did. Just to clarify, I didn’t exactly say anything that lead directly to your conclusion: that you _"don’t really love (your) wife of five years_. What I did say is that without self-love, a relationship is based on need…hence it not _truly_ as deep or meaningful. It is, in my opinion, unhealthy. For me, it would be fruitless to try and love someone who didn’t love themselves first. The fact that you’re not healthy, and that your wife may be a stabilizing force may be all the both of you need to remain happy. All I’m saying is, some people need more than that - at every level of a relationship. Even though I’ve never met someone with the true ability to love their partner more than themselves, I’m sure there are some out there. To take it to the extreme, even someone so down on themselves to the point of being suicidal may have the ability to love - I just don’t consider it something I’d ever want. You & the Mrs. are probably very happy together. If that’s the case, I say: Saluda, Prost, Congrats, Mazel Tov. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-love-yourself-whats-it-like/216379.md?page=2)