# Do you mind being woken up for sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 30, 2005, 1:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190 "2005-09-30T13:15:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![YaWanna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/bbce88/32.png) [@YaWanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YaWanna)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2005, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/21 "2005-09-30T17:34:36Z")
> [@taxi78cab](#): > > Unless the house is on fire, DO NOT wake me up. My kitty has even been banned from my bedroom because she cannot make it through the entire night without walking up to me and going MEEEEEOW. So no kitty. The SO would probably meet with a similar fate if he woke me up. Ditto that (although the kitty’s been dead a few years). I love sleep waaaaaay more than sex, or food, or anything else I can think of. I’ve told my spouse that fondling me when I’m sleeping or trying to sleep will just about **guarantee** no sex. Unfortunately, I’m dealing with someone who’s either a very, very slow learner, or the world’s greatest optimist. ---
**Author:** ![Askia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/96bed5/32.png) [@Askia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askia)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2005, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/22 "2005-09-30T17:36:37Z")
Come to think of it, I’d hate to be woken up for someone else to have sex. That happened with me in a roommate situation once back in high school. “C’mon, man… she won’t do it with you in the room!” ---
**Author:** ![Hung\_Mung](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a88e4f/32.png) [@Hung\_Mung](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hung_Mung)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2005, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/23 "2005-09-30T17:51:46Z")
> [@Asimovian](#): > > Somebody back me up here! She promised!! Oh yeah. I’m with you, but you just can’t trust a sleepy partner. My woman is usually less than coherent after she wakes up, but as soon as she’s out of the shower she has no excuses. 😃 I don’t mind being woken up for sex but Lady Mung can be hard to wake up. Besides, once I’m out I don’t get up except to blow my nose, go to the bathroom, grab an extra blanket or get some water. ---
**Author:** ![ShibbOleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@ShibbOleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShibbOleth)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2005, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/24 "2005-09-30T17:53:28Z")
I don’t mind being woken up, as long as the proper “waking method” is employed. Ideally a nice soft, warm pair of lips applied to the correct body part. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2005, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/25 "2005-09-30T18:03:47Z")
I can’t say that I _mind_, per se; it just doesn’t tend to _work…_ I’m a fairly heavy sleeper, and my wife has pretty much given up on the idea. She says I tend to grumble, roll over, and take the blankets with me, so for her it’s a lose-lose situation… ---
**Author:** ![Flutterby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Flutterby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flutterby)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2005, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/26 "2005-09-30T19:12:52Z")
I don’t mind… if it’s an occasional thing. I once broke up with a guy for this (it wasn’t the only reason, but it did figure fairly big). At first it was fun, then he would do it _every night_ we spent together, which was almost every night for most of the time I dated him. So no, I don’t mind being woken up for sex with the caveat that it’s not all the time or at a time when I really need the sleep. ---
**Author:** ![Aangelica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b2d939/32.png) [@Aangelica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aangelica)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2005, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/27 "2005-09-30T19:51:07Z")
Generally I don’t mind at all. But, I also dated a fella who did something similar to what Flutterby describes. I was a full-time student and working three jobs. My rest was at a priority. If I was lucky, I was getting 6 hours in which to sleep on any given night. It takes me a minimum of 15 - 20 minutes to fall back to sleep if someone wakes me up in the night. I was dating a guy who would wake me up between an hour and two hours _after_ I’d fallen asleep for sex. _Every. Single. Night._ The first time it was romantic and cute. The third time it was slightly less cute. After three weeks, I was ready to kill him. After two months, I was not only denying him sex, I was plotting his untimely demise. Before someone rushes to his defense let me point out the following: 1. We lived together. 2. He knew when I was going to bed to sleep - because I would inform him of it and give him a kiss goodnight. 3. He was aware of my schedule, my sleeping habits, and my going-back-to-sleep quirk. He bitched about the schedule often and vehemently. 4. The only thing stopping him from getting his loving at the time I headed to bed was his urge to play 2 more hours of EverQuest. (Not that I minded - I played, too.) When, after some weeks of this little pattern, I became really and truly surly about being woken up for sex, he bitched about how I never wanted to have sex with him. The fact that I just wanted to get more than 3 straight hours of sleep in a row didn’t seem to make a difference :rolleyes: I pointed out that merely rescheduling his loving to a time when I wasn’t sleeping the sleep of the Holy-Jesus-I’m-Exhausted would result in a) more sex and b) less aggravated girlfriend, but to no avail. So let that be a lesson to you! If your desire to wake up your sweetie for some loving causes them sleep deprivation, might want to rethink. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2005, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/28 "2005-09-30T20:20:48Z")
I wake up needing to pee, usually with a slight headache, barely able to think or focus my eyes, and feeling less than sparkling clean. Do not touch me. Now, if you wish to stay awake past bedtime, I can do that. ---
**Author:** ![SnakesCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4af34b/32.png) [@SnakesCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnakesCatLady)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2005, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/29 "2005-09-30T20:42:59Z")
Waking me up for anything less than the house being on fire is grounds for instant, painful death. I have a very hard time getting to sleep, and I’m not at my best when I first wake up under the best of circumstances. ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2005, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/30 "2005-09-30T20:45:39Z")
> [@Aangelica](#): > > 1. The only thing stopping him from getting his loving at the time I headed to bed was his urge to play 2 more hours of EverQuest. (Not that I minded - I played, too.) Sounds like my first ex. Did you play on Terris Thule, by any chance? ---
**Author:** ![kidchameleon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/898d66/32.png) [@kidchameleon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kidchameleon)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2005, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/31 "2005-09-30T21:08:19Z")
I have no problems with it. Of course, when the twins were born, neither of us was up for it. Just don’t let my initial subcontious refusals dissuade you, when I really do wake up I’m all for it. ---
**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2005, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/32 "2005-09-30T22:20:41Z")
I think I’d mind, but it’s never happened. I haven’t been sleeping all that well lately and while I’m all for the sex, I’d rather wait until morning. I wake up too much as it is. That being said, the thought of my SO wanting sex with me so badly that he wakes me up is kinda hot. ---
**Author:** ![SusanStoHelit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7ab992/32.png) [@SusanStoHelit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SusanStoHelit)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2005, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/33 "2005-09-30T22:35:09Z")
> [@kidchameleon](#): > > I have no problems with it. Of course, when the twins were born, neither of us was up for it. Just don’t let my initial subcontious refusals dissuade you, when I really do wake up I’m all for it. Heh. My SO does this, especially if he is really sleep-deprived. He’ll twitch away and snap “Don’t touch me!” without waking (or remembering the incident in the morning). Luckily I’ve found that **ShibbOleth’s** method works like a charm. A wet, sloppy charm. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![ShibbOleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@ShibbOleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShibbOleth)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2005, 11:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/34 "2005-10-01T11:59:59Z")
> [@SusanStoHelit](#): > > Luckily I’ve found that **ShibbOleth’s** method works like a charm. A wet, sloppy charm. 😃 I’m trying to figure out how I’d feel if this came to be known as “The ShibbOleth Method”. I think we need more data points before a full decision is taken. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2005, 12:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/35 "2005-10-01T12:48:28Z")
I’m a total crab when I’m woken up before morning (if you can even manage to get me fully awake before morning). And **supervenusfreak** takes at least 20 minutes on a good day to become a fully-functioning human being after waking up. So the wake-me-up-for-sex thing doesn’t work in either direction here. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2005, 1:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/36 "2005-10-01T13:28:18Z")
Apparently, it’s impossible to wake me for sex. My ex-boyfriend said he tried it a couple of times and swore that I fought him like a woman possessed. My husband has never admitted trying it, and I wouldn’t remember in any case as I sleep like the dead. ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2005, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/37 "2005-10-01T13:36:34Z")
I absolutely hate it. I have told my husband right from the start that waking me up for sex will never, ever get him the desired result. ---
**Author:** ![Giant\_Spongess](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/94ad74/32.png) [@Giant\_Spongess](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giant_Spongess)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2005, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/38 "2005-10-01T18:55:42Z")
Yes, I mind! For one, I hate being awakened for any reason (I’ve made my SO sleep on the floor just so I can get a full night’s sleep). Secondly, my sex drive is at its lowest in the morning, then slowly ramps up over the day. Waking me up just doesn’t work, and only makes me grouchy. ---
**Author:** ![Wakinyan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wakinyan/32/352_2.png) [@Wakinyan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wakinyan)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2005, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/39 "2005-10-01T19:59:11Z")
When I was a teenager, I woke up while having sex with a girl I’d been seeing for some weeks. I sort of stared at her, thinking: “What on earth am I doing…?” At that point she woke up, and stared at me. Being somewhat of a gentleman, or perhaps only a bit shy, I said: “I’m sorry…” She said: “Oh, don’t be… I can’t imagine a better way to wake up.” ---
**Author:** ![Johanna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johanna/32/8318_2.png) [@Johanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johanna)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2005, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-mind-being-woken-up-for-sex/324190/40 "2005-10-01T20:33:10Z")
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