# Do you OkCupid? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 5, 2005, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956 "2005-10-05T21:51:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2005, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/41 "2005-10-12T03:46:39Z")
> [@kimera](#): > > I’m on there and I’ve meet some great local friends that way. No one I’m really interested in dating, 'cept maybe for one of the three dopers who messaged me off of it. 🙂 Oooh!Oooh! Please let it be me… 😉 -foxy ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2005, 3:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/42 "2005-10-12T03:58:39Z")
> [@bouv](#): > > Hmmm…after trying to get back into OKCupid (sicne I haven’t ben in a few months and figures maybe someone new joined) there is something that I am fed up with. > > Their local search system…SUCKS! Indeed. I did find some amusement, however, in the fact that I know some of the people I was matched with. One guy looked extremely familiar but I didn’t think I saw him that often–and then after discussing him with a friend, I sent her a link to his picture. Turns out I met him at a party I went to with her. She said not to message him under any circumstances. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Sengkelat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e36b37/32.png) [@Sengkelat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sengkelat)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2005, 5:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/43 "2005-10-12T05:41:20Z")
> [@Misnomer](#): > > I keep getting “arranged” with guys who are 25 or younger … despite the fact that my search specifies a 30-45 age range. :dubious: That figures. Their matching is a bit lame. I got an email from the site listing “matches near me.” Like in Seattle. A mere 800 miles away. Gosh, arranging a lunch date will be really convenient. > [@](#): > > Funny, I came across that question mere hours before seeing your post, and that was almost exactly my reaction to it – I say “almost” because I wanted an option D: “Hell, I’m not even sure if _humans_ have souls.” I skipped it, too. 🙂 I like your answer too. I suppose for completeness they ought to also have an option “Yes, animals have souls, but humans don’t.” I’m not sure what kind of wacky philosophy that would be. > [@](#): > > Frankly, I have more respect for people who hold back the crazy until you’ve gotten to know them a little. The ones who are crazy right up front are the ones who make me worry for the future of the species. 😉 I don’t intend to breed, so the fact that I’ve managed to drive people off after their initial interest probably has no implications for the health of the gene pool. But man, it really stinks when the emails change from “You sound really cool” to “Yikes, no longer interested.” > [@ladyfoxfyre](#): > > Oooh!Oooh! Please let it be me… Ladyfoxfyre…with kimera… … I’ll be in my bunk. ---
**Author:** ![BraheSilver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecccb3/32.png) [@BraheSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BraheSilver)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2005, 8:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/44 "2005-10-12T08:34:47Z")
> [@kimera](#): > > I’m on there and I’ve meet some great local friends that way. No one I’m really interested in dating, 'cept maybe for one of the three dopers who messaged me off of it. 🙂[My profile](http://www.okcupid.com/profile?tuid=3499927568037733526). Irvine? Star Wars geek? Indiana Jones fan? Video games?! Steady, old bean… Ok, I need to sign up for this, because hitting on you here would be unseemly. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![ShibbOleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@ShibbOleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShibbOleth)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2005, 11:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/45 "2005-10-12T11:39:10Z")
I signed up on a lark when **Foxy** told me about it. I find some of the tests amusing. But the funny part was right after I signed up it “matched” me to one of her best friends in North Carolina. _It’s a Small World, afterall…_ Also, in what is hopefully just an eerie coincidence most of the other folks it showed as strong matches for me were likely wiped out by Katrina. ---
**Author:** ![CrankyAsAnOldMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crankyasanoldman/32/11670_2.png) [@CrankyAsAnOldMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrankyAsAnOldMan)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2005, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/46 "2005-10-12T15:09:34Z")
I am a member (joined after taking an interesting test) but I’m not in the market for a “perfect match” like they’re selling. Oh, I’d welcome a penpal or meeting some other women with common interests who live near me, but I’m not looking for romance. The site seems to be skewed towards the romance and hookups. ---
**Author:** ![Gozu\_Tashoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7993a0/32.png) [@Gozu\_Tashoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gozu_Tashoya)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2005, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/47 "2005-10-12T19:02:11Z")
> [@ladyfoxfyre](#): > > Oooh!Oooh! Please let it be me… > > 😉 > -foxy I was going to pray that it was I, but I find myself willing to abdicate the position…provided I get to watch. 😉 With regards to the Stranger Rearranger (as I like to think of it for no particular reason), I’ve gotten people \>100 miles away and people whose profiles weren’t even active. _sigh_ (Or maybe they were active _before_ they got arranged with me, and I scared 'em off? :eek: ) ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2005, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/48 "2005-10-12T19:34:53Z")
> [@Sengkelat](#): > > But man, it really stinks when the emails change from “You sound really cool” to “Yikes, no longer interested.” I never get the latter kind of e-mail: “you have 0 new message(s)” is always what tips me off that I might have crossed a line. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Gozu\_Tashoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7993a0/32.png) [@Gozu\_Tashoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gozu_Tashoya)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/49 "2005-10-13T01:40:59Z")
One thing I’ve been wondering about good ol’ OKCupid that maybe someone who’s read farther into their FAQ than I have can answer: Why are match percentages generally higher than friend percentages? (Or maybe it’s just me?) Much like how hybrid cars get better mileage in the city than on the highway, I’d rather expect those numbers to be the other way around… ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/50 "2005-10-13T02:50:38Z")
> [@KKBattousai](#): > > Why are match percentages generally higher than friend percentages? (Or maybe it’s just me?) I’ve noticed the opposite:[ul][li]Guy who most recently wrote to me - 69% Match, 75% Friend[/li][li]Guy I most recently wrote to - 67% Match, 73% Friend[/li][li]Guy I dated for a few months earlier this year - 77% Match, 82% Friend[/li][li]Guy I went on a couple of dates with last year - 82% Match, 82% Friend[/ul][/li]Maybe you’re the norm and I’m not, though. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 3:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/51 "2005-10-13T03:14:01Z")
Ok, I’m just bored enough to look up the match percentages of the Dopers who have revealed their profiles in this thread: **ladyfoxfyre** - Match: 68% Friend: 76% **ultrafilter** - Match: 80% Friend: 81% **AntaresJB** - Match: 85% Friend: 83% **LoganDear** - Match: 79% Friend: 73% **Kimera** - Match: 82% Friend: 79% **Sengkelat** - Match: 86% Friend: 84% Hmm, my top 3 matches are a guy who lives clear across the country and two chicks. Figures. 😉 (This was kind of fun!) ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/52 "2005-10-13T03:20:39Z")
77% and 82% for you and I, **Misnomer**. ---
**Author:** ![Antigen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/848f3c/32.png) [@Antigen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antigen)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 4:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/53 "2005-10-13T04:05:47Z")
I met my man on OKCupid. We talked for a few months over MSN and Skype, and then I did the craziest thing ever, four months ago - flew 500 miles to meet him. We clicked immediately. A month after meeting him, we went to Europe together for 3 weeks. We’ve managed a few visits since then, and we talk over Skype for at least an hour every night. When I graduate from school next summer, I’m looking for a job in his area so we can finally be together _properly_. The wait is killing us, but what can we do? So yeah, OkCupid definitely did a good job matching me up. I’ve never been happier in my life - he’s amazing. I can’t even describe it. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![soulmurk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b782af/32.png) [@soulmurk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/soulmurk)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 4:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/54 "2005-10-13T04:39:45Z")
> [@KKBattousai](#): > > One thing I’ve been wondering about good ol’ OKCupid that maybe someone who’s read farther into their FAQ than I have can answer: Why are match percentages generally higher than friend percentages? (Or maybe it’s just me?) > > Much like how hybrid cars get better mileage in the city than on the highway, I’d rather expect those numbers to be the other way around… Like **Misnomer** , I’ve also found the opposite to be true. I’m very skeptical of Cupid’s rating system. My standard method is to divide their given rating score by 1/2 to get a better idea of how compatible I might be with someone. And even with that division, I’m still 40%+ compatible with some of the other Dopers 😛 ---
**Author:** ![bouv](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bc8723/32.png) [@bouv](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bouv)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 4:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/55 "2005-10-13T04:47:09Z")
> [@KKBattousai](#): > > One thing I’ve been wondering about good ol’ OKCupid that maybe someone who’s read farther into their FAQ than I have can answer: Why are match percentages generally higher than friend percentages? (Or maybe it’s just me?) > > Much like how hybrid cars get better mileage in the city than on the highway, I’d rather expect those numbers to be the other way around… Well, I don’t know about the matching system, but hybrids get better city mileage because the electric engine is used a lot more (most are set up so that at low speeds and starting from a stop it’s all electric) and from recursive breaking. ---
**Author:** ![Gamaliel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b487fb/32.png) [@Gamaliel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gamaliel)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 7:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/56 "2005-10-13T07:39:06Z")
It’s painfully slow and I hate that the inbox doesn’t keep track of which messages you’ve replied to, but it’s quirky and I like that. The people I’ve chatted with seem on the whole more interesting than people on other dating sites, and hey, it’s free. I’m more interested in how someone answers, say, a question about evolution vs. creationism than some arbitrary level of compatibility. (Wow, you value a “sense of humor”…how unusual…) ---
**Author:** ![ShibbOleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@ShibbOleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShibbOleth)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 11:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/57 "2005-10-13T11:36:16Z")
> [@Misnomer](#): > > Ok, I’m just bored enough to look up the match percentages of the Dopers who have revealed their profiles in this thread: > > **ladyfoxfyre** - Match: 68% Friend: 76% > **ultrafilter** - Match: 80% Friend: 81% > **AntaresJB** - Match: 85% Friend: 83% > **LoganDear** - Match: 79% Friend: 73% > **Kimera** - Match: 82% Friend: 79% > **Sengkelat** - Match: 86% Friend: 84% > > Hmm, my top 3 matches are a guy who lives clear across the country and two chicks. Figures. 😉 > > (This was kind of fun!) I’m only 71/70 with you! Has anyone ever seen a match of 90% or higher? Wouldn’t that be _too_ close? ---
**Author:** ![Antigen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/848f3c/32.png) [@Antigen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antigen)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/58 "2005-10-13T13:39:01Z")
> [@ShibbOleth](#): > > I’m only 71/70 with you! Has anyone ever seen a match of 90% or higher? Wouldn’t that be _too_ close? My guy came up as a 90% match, so I wooed him for fun, despite the distance between us. So far, so good. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Gozu\_Tashoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7993a0/32.png) [@Gozu\_Tashoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gozu_Tashoya)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/59 "2005-10-13T18:00:22Z")
> [@Misnomer](#): > > I’ve noticed the opposite:[ul][li]Guy who most recently wrote to me - 69% Match, 75% Friend[/li][li]Guy I most recently wrote to - 67% Match, 73% Friend[/li][li]Guy I dated for a few months earlier this year - 77% Match, 82% Friend[/li][li]Guy I went on a couple of dates with last year - 82% Match, 82% Friend[/ul][/li]Maybe you’re the norm and I’m not, though. 🙂 The day I’m the norm, for _anything_, is the day I despair for humanity. Oh, and I knew the regenerative braking thing, which makes me think that there should be some logical reason behind the match-friend differential, but I don’t remember reading any explaination for it. Maybe I’m just a bad friend? ☹ And as for fellow Dopers and I: **Aesiron** - Match: 81% Friend: 78% **AntaresJB** - Match: 89% Friend: 81% **Kimera** - Match: 76% Friend: 70% \*\*ladyfoxfyre \*\* - Match: 83% Friend: 76% **LoganDear** - Match: 83% Friend: 73% **Misnomer** - Match: 84% Friend: 79% **Sengkelat** - Match: 87% Friend: 84% **ultrafilter** - Match: 87% Friend: 80% I think I’ve seen one 91% match, but she was “seeing someone” so oh well. ---
**Author:** ![Jennyrosity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@Jennyrosity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jennyrosity)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956/60 "2005-10-13T19:16:58Z")
I signed up recently after taking a quiz someone mentioned in a thread here - it seemed as good a way as any to make some new friends. I’ve actually chatted to a couple of really cool people - but my god, I seem to get my fair share of creeps, too. As for how I match up with my fellow Dopers: **Aesiron** - Match: 57% Friend: 71% **AntaresJB** - Match: 67% Friend: 72% **Kimera** - Match: 53% Friend: 63% **ladyfoxfyre** - Match: 60% Friend: 70% **LoganDear** - Match: 59% Friend: 64% **Misnomer** - Match: 67% Friend: 74% **Sengkelat** - Match: 68% Friend: 75% **ultrafilter** - Match: 64% Friend: 70% [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-okcupid/324956.md?page=4)