It’s cool how you incorrectly limit the definition of *gender *in attempting to correct a post in which neither the terms *gender *nor *sex *were used. *Gender *was correctly used in the thread title, which you failed to quote.
Hey, how come you’re not spelling out Fucking and Pussy? Are you too modest? 
As for people who have bonus points for sexual words when playing with friends, I think that’s great (although I guess how would you implement that in an app? Are there scrabble/wwf apps that have this feature?). I wouldn’t have a problem doing this with close friends, but I guess it’s a bit different with acquaintances. To each their own.
Points is points. I’ve even used “adult” words when playing against my mother, and she’s done the same against me.
I tend to shy away from derogatory words just not to offend anyone or make them feel uncomfortable. There are millions of words to chose from in the English language. Plus, with WWF, when playing around with the letters, one can almost always ‘create’ a new word. I find that to be the fun part of playing…discovering new words that I did not know existed.
I’d only play them if I had no choice or if the score was going to be much higher than any other word. And I’d make that apologetic face while doing it. I just don’t hang around with people who curse very often.
Which is just as well, as WWF doesn’t recognize cunt. Or fag. Or Jew. Or, I think, slut. Again, not that I would use these words in speech, but they are legitimate words, and as such should be playable.
“Jew” especially seems odd. Is that a slur?
Obligatory xkcd link. (Someday I need to start a thread about “Websites that have lots of obligatory links”. )
I have absolutely no idea why he has a problem with “clitoris”. I can understand things like “hooha” or “poontang” (“cunt” as well, obviously) being off limits, but not the actual proper correct freaking name for that particular body part. For crying out loud, if just the word for a piece of genitalia is dirty dirty dirty to you, your problems go way deeper than not being any good at board games, pal.
And about that…in my (admittedly limited) experience Scrabble is one of those games that simply will not let you get away with shackling yourself for no good reason. You have a limited amount of letters, determined entirely by pure dumb luck, and a number of other letters on the board, also largely a matter of luck. If you get a chance to use that K or that X or that Q, or to clear the rack, or to nail a triple word score, you’d damn well better take it. It’s like fighting games. If you’re using El Fuerte, your choices are 1. learn how to use his dashes and tricky throws or 2. hear “No waaaay!” a lot.
Of course, it would depend on the degree of competition, what kind of house rules there are, that sorta thing. Frankly, I think giving a 5-point bonus would lead to bigger arguments about what constitutes an “obscene” word.
Proper nouns have never been legit in scrabble. The verb “jew” means try to bargain down. It was among those words banished as “offensive” for the third (I think) edition of the Official Scrabble Players Dictionary. Tournament scrabble players cried out, and a compromise was offered whereby the excised words (which included “fart” and sillier examples yet) were restored to the scrabble Official Word List (OWL), but no definitions were listed in the book (which is fine, because the only useful purpose of a scrabble dictionary is to the determine what plays are legitimate*).
By the way, I have never been a tournament player, but I have played an awful lot online, using the OWL as the source. If I were playing a friendly game, I would play whatever I felt to be the strongest play. On the other hand, the List is available only to Association members, one of which I am not, and neither, in all probability, is my friendly opponent. Anyway, I would play whatever I felt to be strongest, because “friendly” simply modifies “opponent”, i.e. “enemy”. If my rack includes “FCUK” then some variant of “fuck” is almost certainly not only my best play, but also the only decent one, or I’ll be crippling myself for at least one extra turn.
- A popular misconception is that scrabble** play is a fun way to improve your vocabulary. No, it isn’t. Most scrabble words are things, for one thing, and there are an awful, awful lot of things out there, the vast majority of which will never come up in your conversation.
** I’m supposed to capitalize “scrabble”, also add the copyright sign, and append the words “crossword game” to the end. Otherwise, I’m undermining the value of their copyright. But there’s always been a bit of the rebel in me.
Addendum: If you are chided for playing “niggers” when “gingers” could be spelled with the same letters, inform your opponent that “ginger” is an offensive term for a homosexual (from Cockney rhyming slang; an abbreviation of “ginger beer” for "queer*). Should “snigger” or “serging” be suggested, well, just cop to the fact that you have some racist issues. Admitting a problem is the first step toward solving it.
- Source–David Niven’s The Moon’s a Balloon.
Melchior, the time when nouns have gender and people have sex has, unfortunately, passed.
Now people have genders and married people can be celibate.
Sad, but true.
If you have a problem with CLITORIS, just play COISTRIL!
Here’s the “poo list” of “adult” words that are acceptable in Scrabble in the US.
The OP didn’t mention the word “gender” at all, and simply said he played with his female friends.
Oh, and I play the words, even when playing with my elderly Aunt.
You might want to refer to the title.
When you play other games that have phrases like:
“Rush Limbaugh’s naked, soft, shitty body”
“Kids with ass cancer”
“Fucking a corpse back to life”,
WITH your parents in the same game…then I guess “SLUT” in Scrabble would be a step back in the right direction.
But jew isn’t a proper noun. Is American also banned? Israeli? Hispanic? Christian?
The only time I won’t play dirty words is if I’m playing with kids.
The idea that there’d be something weird about playing them with somebody that sexual attraction is a possibility (which seems to be what the OP is getting at) is weird is…well, weird.
Yes, I realize the lower-case verb is not a proper noun, and I think my post pretty plainly explained that. I was responding to a post where “Jew” was capitalized mid-sentence, though, and I thought perhaps the previous poster was unaware of the convention regarding proper nouns.
A woman I know from the pub started a WWF game with me the other day. On my first word I could have used WATT. Remembering that she said she plays rude words all the time I changed it to TWAT. She thought it was funny.
I guess it depends on three factors:
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How well do I know this person? If it’s a stranger I’m playing against online for the first time? Go ahead and play the naughty word! What do I care if she’s offended?
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If I’m playing with a female friend or relative, how prudish is she? Based on my knowledge of her, do I think she’d laugh or get offended?
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How badly do I need the points? I wanna WIN, damn it! If making a naughty word will help me win, my prudish opponent will have to cope somehow.
Sure, why not ? I mostly play with my mother, but neither of us has a problem with sexual stuff, curses, what have you. When I put DICK on the board, it’s not like I’m putting mine. It’s just a word.
Actually, now that I think about it she takes a lot more issue with me pulling obscure foreign loanwords or medieval terms out of my ass. Triple-score ASHIGARU caused quite a bit of grumbling 
I’ll allow a possible exception for playing with or around kids whose parents are hoity toity “think of the children !!1” types. But I’m not friends with nor work with any, so.