# Do you "prepare" for sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 24, 2014, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433 "2014-09-24T14:43:13Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/21 "2014-09-24T17:25:46Z")
The only prep I can think of is if one or the other of us really needs to take a piss first. Otherwise, you go with the moment. ---
**Author:** ![Renee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/renee/32/287_2.png) [@Renee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renee)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/22 "2014-09-24T17:41:32Z")
God, that would kill our frequency. How does one get anything else done, if sex takes an hour+ every time? No. As long as we aren’t\* too\* disgusting, we’re good to go. ---
**Author:** ![dracoi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/90db22/32.png) [@dracoi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dracoi)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/23 "2014-09-24T17:53:09Z")
Maybe I’m unusual, but I actually think sex is best when we’re not right out of the shower. If we showered that morning, then sex that evening is perfect in my mind. If either of us has to use the bathroom, then we’ll head off to do that before things proceed, but we don’t do any real prep. ---
**Author:** ![Stringbean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Stringbean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stringbean)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/24 "2014-09-24T17:58:57Z")
Well, a couple dabs of lube, give the downloads a couple minutes to finish, and I’m ready to roll. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/25 "2014-09-24T18:01:15Z")
We shower before bed every night so we’re good to go whenever. Unfortunately, with two small kids that isn’t nearly as frequently as when we were trying to make said children. ---
**Author:** ![fachverwirrt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/94ad74/32.png) [@fachverwirrt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fachverwirrt)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/26 "2014-09-24T18:02:25Z")
If I’m particularly gross, I’ll jump in the shower. Regular day dirtiness? No problem. I can’t imagine why I’d need to shave. ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/27 "2014-09-24T18:23:51Z")
Holy moly, what is the OP’s spouse _doing_ in that shower? I couldn’t make a shower and shave last 45 minutes even if you paid me to do it! Generally, I’m with the “unless totally gross just get down to it” camp. Even then, basic clean up shouldn’t take more than 10 minutes unless maybe you have remove roofing tar or something. Come to think of it, we usually clean up _after_ sex, not so much before. ---
**Author:** ![Shoeless](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shoeless/32/7099_2.png) [@Shoeless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shoeless)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/28 "2014-09-24T18:25:52Z")
Take a pill, wait half an hour or so for it to kick in… ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/29 "2014-09-24T18:29:04Z")
Oh, he cleans up afterwards, too (with another mini-shower). ---
**Author:** ![Cheesesteak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheesesteak/32/3694_2.png) [@Cheesesteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheesesteak)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/30 "2014-09-24T18:31:50Z")
We’ll shower for sex only if we’re really gross, but we tend to try and get those showers out of the way earlier in the evening, not right before sexy time. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/31 "2014-09-24T18:34:54Z")
I sometimes prepare for sex by masturbating. Clearing that first, sometimes premature, ejaculation out beforehand makes the sex much more satisfying and enjoyable. For both of us. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/32 "2014-09-24T18:50:46Z")
Our preparation typically involves my wife reaching over to put her hand inside my shorts while we’re sitting on the couch watching TV. If we have time in the morning, it involves me rolling over to spoon her and nestling myself between her cheeks. But during morning sex, no kissing since we haven’t brushed yet. A 45 minute shower and shave? The only times I’ve taken a 45 minute shower were when we’re both in there and it’s part showering, part fucking. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 6:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/33 "2014-09-24T18:52:39Z")
> [@Inner\_Stickler](#): > > If anal is on the table, someone needs to have been eating salad for meals that day. Can’t you just move the dishes out of the way? ---
**Author:** ![Lanzy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/74df32/32.png) [@Lanzy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lanzy)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/34 "2014-09-24T19:30:22Z")
The Viagra takes about an hour to kick in so we have to do something. Showers and walking the dogs works for us. ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/35 "2014-09-24T19:44:38Z")
> [@Lanzy](#): > > The Viagra takes about an hour to kick in so we have to do something. Showers and walking the dogs works for us. Maybe this is why the OP’s husband is stalling. ---
**Author:** ![Trinopus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/2bfe46/32.png) [@Trinopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trinopus)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/36 "2014-09-24T21:06:29Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > I sometimes prepare for sex by masturbating. . . . There’s more? (Sigh… For a fair many of us, that’s all we got!) I prepare by opening the file-folder of really good porn… ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2014, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/37 "2014-09-24T22:09:06Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > I sometimes prepare for sex by masturbating. Clearing that first, sometimes premature, ejaculation out beforehand makes the sex much more satisfying and enjoyable. For both of us. 😛 Makes me think of Gilbert Gottfried’s routine where he talks about being in a hotel room with a prostitute. She goes to the bathroom to change, and when she comes out, he’s masturbating furiously. She asks him what the hell he’s doing, and he says “For $300, you think I’m gonna give you the easy one?” 😃 ---
**Author:** ![RickJay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bb73d2/32.png) [@RickJay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RickJay)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/38 "2014-09-25T00:12:10Z")
We basically just say “Let’s have sex,” get somewhere alone, and go. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 2:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/39 "2014-09-25T02:21:51Z")
“Sex,” to my partner and me, can mean just about anything, and usually needs no preparation, except to pee if one needs to. We’re used to each other’s smell, and that adds to the experience. So all we have to do is cuddle for a while, wherever that may lead, or go up to the attic dungeon, and see whether something inspires us. ---
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 2:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433/40 "2014-09-25T02:28:35Z")
Ok seriously I don’t do anything to prepare, but my wife if it isn’t spontaneous sex goes and takes a shower and uh washes downstairs with soap. This is horrible both for oral sex taste wise, and makes natural lubrication harder, I wish she wouldn’t do it but she wants to. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-prepare-for-sex/699433.md?page=3)