# Do you stay in touch with the person you lost your virginity to? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 6, 2003, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771 "2003-11-06T20:49:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Lizard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@Lizard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lizard)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/1 "2003-11-06T20:49:16Z")
As for me, no. I never saw her again, and it’s just as well. ---
**Author:** ![Omnipresent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8c91f0/32.png) [@Omnipresent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omnipresent)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/2 "2003-11-06T20:51:01Z")
Actually, I was just trying to look her up (with no luck). Thought maybe we could do it right this time. ---
**Author:** ![In\_Conceivable](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/4bbf92/32.png) [@In\_Conceivable](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/In_Conceivable)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/3 "2003-11-06T20:52:25Z")
It was my ex-husband. I did keep in touch with him until I divorced him. ---
**Author:** ![ThatDuckIsEvil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f08c70/32.png) [@ThatDuckIsEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThatDuckIsEvil)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/4 "2003-11-06T20:56:31Z")
I work with him I also work with my current SO yay me ---
**Author:** ![MsWhatsit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eb8c5e/32.png) [@MsWhatsit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsWhatsit)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/5 "2003-11-06T20:59:46Z")
Yes. He’s currently upstairs minding our toddler. And making quiche. Had I known about his quiche-making skills eight years ago, I would have hopped into bed that much quicker. Because I am a slut for good quiche. ---
**Author:** ![cowgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8c91f0/32.png) [@cowgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cowgirl)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/6 "2003-11-06T21:02:57Z")
Nope. We dated for four years, I broke his heart, it was easier to never speak again. ---
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/7 "2003-11-06T21:07:46Z")
We remained good friends even after we weren’t sleeping together anymore. Last I heard she was living in Spain. I wish her all the best - it was a special moment. ---
**Author:** ![NurseCarmen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5daacb/32.png) [@NurseCarmen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NurseCarmen)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/8 "2003-11-06T21:14:53Z")
I see her once or more a year at various get togethers. I’ve never thanked her. Never since have I been woken up from being passed out in such a pleasant manner. ---
**Author:** ![LifeOnWry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/96bed5/32.png) [@LifeOnWry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LifeOnWry)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/9 "2003-11-06T21:26:55Z")
Well, I’ve recently gotten back in touch with the guy I _almost_ lost my virginity to. Very nice fellow, and there’s a small part of me that wishes we’d been able to make a go of things. Of course, then I would never have met the WryGuy, who I adore, so the point’s moot except for the occasional “what if?” that creeps into my brain. The guy I actually lost my virginity to? Nope. In this day and age, we would call my experience date rape - back in the unenlightened days of the early 80s, we just called it “a tease getting what she deserved.” ---
**Author:** ![angelabaca](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f05b48/32.png) [@angelabaca](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/angelabaca)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/10 "2003-11-06T21:27:45Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Lizard \* > **Do you stay in touch with the person you lost your virginity to?** Ah, **No**. It was kind of a _Hey you, come do me_ kind of situation. I was tired of being a virgin and I was 19 so I thought, _what the hell_. Afterward, he said _this is the beginning of the rest of our lives_ and I kind of looked at him and then went home. ---
**Author:** ![toadspittle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c0e974/32.png) [@toadspittle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/toadspittle)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/11 "2003-11-06T21:32:05Z")
No. Although I later learned from a mutual acquaintance that she got married, became a stripper, and was determined to break into girl-on-girl porn. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 9:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/12 "2003-11-06T21:37:10Z")
Yep. Still a very good friend. We live on opposite sides of the country, but still call each other several times a year to play catch-up. The event in question was 30 years, and several spouses ago, but we still remain in touch. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/13 "2003-11-06T21:52:39Z")
Every year or so, she and I exchange a few emails, catching up on our lives. She’s in Canada, married, bought a house, and last I heard was trying to adopt a kid. She’s a great person, but we don’t stay in touch all that much. Daniel ---
**Author:** ![Scarlett67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scarlett67/32/7387_2.png) [@Scarlett67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scarlett67)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/14 "2003-11-06T21:59:09Z")
Sure – he’s sitting right here. ---
**Author:** ![Medea\_s\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Medea\_s\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Medea_s_Child)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/15 "2003-11-06T22:01:42Z")
No. ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/16 "2003-11-06T22:15:54Z")
Nope. I can barely even picture her. It was at the shore and I was fairly young… ---
**Author:** ![badmana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@badmana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/badmana)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/17 "2003-11-06T22:26:43Z")
Yep, I’m still dating her 😃 ---
**Author:** ![vanilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/f19dbf/32.png) [@vanilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vanilla)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/18 "2003-11-06T22:31:29Z")
No. It was in March of 1985. We later becaem just friends, but after that, he did some not nice stuff and I haven’t bene in touch since and don’t want to be. ---
**Author:** ![vanilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/f19dbf/32.png) [@vanilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vanilla)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/19 "2003-11-06T22:33:12Z")
I was 26 years old actually. Last I knew, he lived in Chicago, doing some weird radio show as Uncle Redneck. Anyone heard of this? ---
**Author:** ![LifeOnWry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/96bed5/32.png) [@LifeOnWry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LifeOnWry)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2003, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/20 "2003-11-06T22:39:55Z")
Well, I’m near Chicago and I never heard of Uncle Redneck. My sister works in radio, though, I’ll ask her for you. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771.md?page=2)