# Do you stay in touch with the person you lost your virginity to? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 6, 2003, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771 "2003-11-06T20:49:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 4:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/41 "2003-11-07T04:11:59Z")
Yep. In the process of divorcing him. Then who knows since he’ll get custody of the dog. I’ll miss that pup. ---
**Author:** ![Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angel_of_the_lord/32/2949_2.png) [@Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angel_of_the_Lord)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/42 "2003-11-07T04:35:46Z")
He IMs me on occaision, usually with some inane, drug-induced BS, but occaisionally with a good idea for a RP session. I stopped IMing him first after I got my DVDs back last year. ---
**Author:** ![Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angel_of_the_lord/32/2949_2.png) [@Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angel_of_the_Lord)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 4:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/43 "2003-11-07T04:41:48Z")
Oh, irony. About 10 minutes after I posted this, he IMd me sad because his girlfriend broke up with him. Funny. ---
**Author:** ![SnoopyFan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d07c76/32.png) [@SnoopyFan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnoopyFan)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/44 "2003-11-07T04:58:13Z")
No, and I never want to see him again. ---
**Author:** ![Badtz\_Maru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e36b37/32.png) [@Badtz\_Maru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Badtz_Maru)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 5:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/45 "2003-11-07T05:43:33Z")
I called her a few years ago. She ended up marrying some Chinese guy so he could get a green card. ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 12:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/46 "2003-11-07T12:21:42Z")
Up until I left home to go to uni 2 months ago yes, as we hung out with the same crowd. During the holidays when I go home and hang out with all my old friends no doubt I’ll see him again. So I guess I’m kind of in touch with him. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 12:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/47 "2003-11-07T12:25:44Z")
NOOOOOO! The horror. The horror. ---
**Author:** ![Hamadryad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6de8d8/32.png) [@Hamadryad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hamadryad)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/48 "2003-11-07T12:50:14Z")
Nope. I’ve tried to get in touch with him a couple of times because he was my first actualy boyfriend and in the final analysis our parting was relatively amicable…but I’ve had no success. He probably thinks of ME as the evil one, since when he took my virginity I also took his…and he was only 14. Oopsie. ---
**Author:** ![Gorgon\_Heap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f475e1/32.png) [@Gorgon\_Heap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gorgon_Heap)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 12:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/49 "2003-11-07T12:52:59Z")
Yup; married to her. ---
**Author:** ![Beech](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/aca169/32.png) [@Beech](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beech)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 1:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/50 "2003-11-07T13:05:10Z")
Yep… Every day… She works for me! (also married to her for 20 years before divorcing in '95) The real LOML is ok about it, cos that’s how she is & that’s why I loves her!🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 1:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/51 "2003-11-07T13:15:12Z")
No, but I wish. He was a hottie ( mental and physical, in my mind, but I was a hormonal 19 year old, so my filters then were not as stringent.) I can google him up and see one recent picture, so that is ok for me. But, he can’t do this in reverse ( assuming he’d want to, or remember me) as I have no life, married, name change. So, the upswing of that is that I will always be that 20 year old hot bodies ( and a bad perm)gal in his mind. And that is a-okay by me. ---
**Author:** ![BrotherCadfael](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@BrotherCadfael](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrotherCadfael)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 1:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/52 "2003-11-07T13:27:44Z")
We run across each other from time to time in the course of business, as she and I work for the same organization, albeit in different buildings. A couple of years ago I did take a moment to apologize to her for being such a jerk twenty years before. Her response was, “Hey, you were a 17-year old guy. It sort of comes with the territory.” Not friends, but not enemies, either. ---
**Author:** ![dwc1970](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a183cd/32.png) [@dwc1970](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dwc1970)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 1:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/53 "2003-11-07T13:37:10Z")
A few months after my first girlfriend helped me to lose my virginity (just before I turned 18) she broke up with me and went back to her old boyfriend. About three years later she called me and had me come visit her. We talked about various things and what we had been doing. She had since become married and had a child but her marriage wasn’t going well. I wasn’t seeing anyone else at the time and I was hoping to get back together with her, but that didn’t happen. I haven’t seen her nor spoken to her since then. This was back in 1991. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/54 "2003-11-07T13:39:05Z")
No, sadly. She was the daughter of a friend of my mother’s. She was a couple of years older than me, and I wasn’t interested in her romantically. She had an interest in me, though. One night she got me drunk and showed me a really great time. My first. I avoided her after that. I don’t know _what_ I was thinking… :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Ca3799](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9f8e36/32.png) [@Ca3799](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ca3799)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/55 "2003-11-07T13:46:57Z")
No. I picked him because I wanted to ‘check IT out’, and he was a convenient person for me to do so with. I know that sounds cold, but I was young. Also, I hadn’t really distilled my thoughts about it as clearly before hand. I did see him once years later, and apparantly it meant more to him than it did to me. He made kind of a fuss. I felt badly about ‘using’ him, but, hey, my experience with him was pretty poor and I didn’t care to repeat the act for a very long time so I guess we’re even! ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 1:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/56 "2003-11-07T13:47:46Z")
Married the guy. Not on purpose. Just the way things turned out. Hey, **Gorgon** another thing we have in common! ---
**Author:** ![Saintly\_Loser](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saintly_loser/32/4045_2.png) [@Saintly\_Loser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saintly_Loser)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 2:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/57 "2003-11-07T14:02:58Z")
No, although not intentionally – just worked out that way. I was a freshman in college. She was more or less the same age, but considerably more experienced and quite adventurous in the sexual arena. She lost interest after a while, perhaps because of the experience differential, although that never really bothered me. I was young, in college, and I met another girlfriend shortly thereafter (and this time the roles were reversed – I was her first). We saw each other at college for the next three and half years. Friendly enough, no problems. Haven’t seen her since. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 2:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/58 "2003-11-07T14:03:56Z")
**Spooje** , my friend, I’ve never met you or her, and **I** know what you were thinking. Daniel ---
**Author:** ![Aries28](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e36b37/32.png) [@Aries28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aries28)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/59 "2003-11-07T14:44:43Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by LifeOnWry \* > \*\*The guy I actually lost my virginity to? Nope. In this day and age, we would call my experience date rape - back in the unenlightened days of the early 80s, we just called it “a tease getting what she deserved.” \*\* I will second this story. I wouldn’t care if the first person I had sex with dropped off the face of the earth. I actually saw him from a distance at a restaurant a year or so ago and I felt physically ill. ---
**Author:** ![Dragwyr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dragwyr/32/2855_2.png) [@Dragwyr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dragwyr)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771/60 "2003-11-07T15:01:47Z")
Yes… I’ve been married to her for 9 years. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-stay-in-touch-with-the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-to/211771.md?page=4)