# Do you still make out with your SO? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 15, 2010, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788 "2010-07-15T15:25:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![My\_Darn\_Snake\_Legs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f14d63/32.png) [@My\_Darn\_Snake\_Legs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/My_Darn_Snake_Legs)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2010, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/21 "2010-07-15T19:39:28Z")
3 years (ish) here. Nope. We don’t do that anymore. I miss it, too. ---
**Author:** ![SkeptiJess](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@SkeptiJess](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkeptiJess)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2010, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/22 "2010-07-15T19:40:19Z")
We kiss and hug quite frequently, but making out for a lengthy period? No, not really. It’s always as a prelude to sex. In fact, we never did much of just making out. We were grownups when we started dating; had sex on our 2nd date; and have been having sex ever since. I can’t think of a circumstance ever where we’d have time to make out (with tongue and groping), but not time to go ahead and have sex. ---
**Author:** ![dangermom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e274bd/32.png) [@dangermom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dangermom)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2010, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/23 "2010-07-15T19:41:27Z")
14 years. Sure do. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2010, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/24 "2010-07-15T19:44:25Z")
> [@nicole1912](#): > > 7 years here, but yeah. We used to make out (assuming this means snogging and groping) frequently, and at some point over the last few years, this has almost disappeared; I’m not sure when, or why. > > Do you think it’s something that can be resurrected once gone? Of course. It’s not some animal that’s been run over or something, ferchrissakes. Just go make out! Wait, do you mean … that the _desire_ is gone? Is that what you’re asking about resurrecting? Cuz that’s a whole nother thread. \ I’m gonna get my dad a reserrenemurection! \ ---
**Author:** ![Gagundathar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a183cd/32.png) [@Gagundathar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gagundathar)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2010, 7:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/25 "2010-07-15T19:47:52Z")
I’ve been married longer than some of y’all have been alive, and my lovely bride and I still ‘make out’. It is much easier now that the offspring have all sprung off. However, our canine masters DO get jealous when we are kissing on the couch. It is quite odd to have a terrier push her way in between you and your spouse in the middle of a kiss. But we still stroke each other in passing, and I NEVER leave home without kissing her goodbye in a manner that reminds her that she is married and loved. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2010, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/26 "2010-07-15T20:02:45Z")
Interesting that some of the more “physical” relationships are also some of the longest. Cause and effect? ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2010, 8:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/27 "2010-07-15T20:04:02Z")
I don’t get the comments about it seeming immature. I think making out is fun in and of itself. I’ve only been with a girl for 2 years at most but we never stopped. It seemed like two years of making out punctuated by fighting. ---
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2010, 8:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/28 "2010-07-15T20:57:54Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > Of course. It’s not some animal that’s been run over or something, ferchrissakes. Just go make out! > > Wait, do you mean … that the _desire_ is gone? Is that what you’re asking about resurrecting? Cuz that’s a whole nother thread. > \ > I’m gonna get my dad a reserrenemurection! > \ Cause if I plant my lips on him he’s gonna expect a visit to the bedroom, is why. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2010, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/29 "2010-07-15T21:01:15Z")
> [@kanicbird](#): > > Not ‘normal’, but unfortunately pretty common. It should be a concern that one person is feeling a unmet need. Any unmet need will hurt the relationship, so yes you should be concerned, though it does not mean that you have to give in and always do something you don’t want to, as that is also not going to work, though a compromise for a short time might be helpful to him and in that both of you, but it’s a issue you have to explore in both of your pasts, why he has this need as part of what a relationship should be, and why you don’t have such a need for a relationship. It’s not an “unmet need” I assure you - it’s just something he noted jokingly a few days ago. We still grope each other all the time and kiss often and hold hands and have wonderful sex - he just thought it was a bit odd that we don’t “kiss with tongue” for extended periods like we used to. Or that if we do, it seems a little awkward, like we’re teenagers again. 🙂 To be fair, in our “making out” phase we were usually fairly tipsy, so maybe it seems easier when you’re a bit drunk. We tried practicing but ended up giggling too hard to get anywhere. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2010, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/30 "2010-07-15T21:09:52Z")
> [@HazelNutCoffee](#): > > It’s not an “unmet need” I assure you - it’s just something he noted jokingly a few days ago. We still grope each other all the time and kiss often and hold hands and have wonderful sex - he just thought it was a bit odd that we don’t “kiss with tongue” for extended periods like we used to. Or that if we do, it seems a little awkward, like we’re teenagers again. 🙂 > > To be fair, in our “making out” phase we were usually fairly tipsy, so maybe it seems easier when you’re a bit drunk. > > We tried practicing but ended up giggling too hard to get anywhere. :smack: If you are talking specifically about tongue kissing–we don’t really do that. But we never did much of that, except maybe very early in the relationship when we were finding out what each other like. ---
**Author:** ![Palo\_Verde](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/65b543/32.png) [@Palo\_Verde](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Palo_Verde)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2010, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/31 "2010-07-15T22:03:02Z")
I’ve been married 14 years and we don’t. It is one of several (ok, many) problems the marriage has. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2010, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/32 "2010-07-15T22:20:28Z")
> [@Zsofia](#): > > Been together five years, and no, we don’t really make out anymore. It’s either kiss on the cheek or hot dirty sex. I miss the happy medium. 🙂 This. TMI: We only make out while she’s coming. ---
**Author:** ![Hari\_Seldon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hari_seldon/32/5173_2.png) [@Hari\_Seldon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hari_Seldon)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2010, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/33 "2010-07-15T23:16:58Z")
Yup. After 46 years of marriage, we often start the day by “making out” before getting out of bed. Less commonly late at night. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2010, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/34 "2010-07-15T23:23:25Z")
I don’t really enjoy extended makeout sessions that much. Don’t get me wrong, I still like kissing and kissing several times in a row can be enjoyable but 5-10 minutes? At that point it just gets wet and sloppy. Bleh. ---
**Author:** ![Tamerlane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tamerlane/32/7602_2.png) [@Tamerlane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tamerlane)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2010, 11:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/35 "2010-07-15T23:42:13Z")
> [@Rigamarole](#): > > I don’t really enjoy extended makeout sessions that much. Don’t get me wrong, I still like kissing and kissing several times in a row can be enjoyable but 5-10 minutes? At that point it just gets wet and sloppy. Bleh. “Like a dog eating spaghetti.” 😃 Line from a recent _This American Life_ about the young introduction to making out. ---
**Author:** ![Eva\_Luna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e495f1/32.png) [@Eva\_Luna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eva_Luna)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/36 "2010-07-16T00:36:05Z")
3 years together, going on 1 year married. And hell yes, though maybe not as often as when we were long-distance and had lost time to make up for. I’d be very sad if we didn’t. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Superhal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Superhal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superhal)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/37 "2010-07-16T00:40:29Z")
On the lips? No. ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/38 "2010-07-16T01:05:44Z")
We rarely make out without sex because once we get started it’s hard to stop. Sometimes I actively avoid making out because I’m not in the mood to finish the act and he’ll pout if we don’t. I sure do miss it. It’s always been this way with us though, from the beginning as soon as we had sex for the first time. He’s insatiable. ---
**Author:** ![pbbth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f9ae1b/32.png) [@pbbth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pbbth)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/39 "2010-07-16T02:54:43Z")
> [@HazelNutCoffee](#): > > We tried practicing but ended up giggling too hard to get anywhere. :smack: That can be fun too! We make out every now and again but not on a regular basis. Our make out sessions are much more humorous. For instance, my new thing is to stand about 10 feet away from him and start humming the Jaws theme, slowly getting closer and closer as the song speeds up until I yell “NOM!” and start kissing and nomming his neck. Then we spend 10 or 15 minutes laughing and giggling and kissing and tickling and…well, you get the idea. This rarely leads to sex but there is always a lot of affectionate kissing and physical contact. We also have a standing rule that whenever one of us feels the need for snuggles the other one stops whatever they are doing and we go lay down and snuggle together for 5 or 10 minutes. ---
**Author:** ![Rand\_Rover](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/db5fbb/32.png) [@Rand\_Rover](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rand_Rover)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 3:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/40 "2010-07-16T03:09:23Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > No time. Too many kids hanging about. > > Plus, it strikes me as kind of immature and silly at our age. > > We hug a lot and hold hands and stuff, but the high school necking…bleh. This is how I feel exactly. My wife and I snuggle and smooch and touch each other and have sex. No in between “making out,” which does seem kinda immature and bleh to me. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788.md?page=3)