# Do you still make out with your SO? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 15, 2010, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788 "2010-07-15T15:25:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Scarlett67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scarlett67/32/7387_2.png) [@Scarlett67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scarlett67)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 8:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/41 "2010-07-16T08:35:35Z")
Married 20 years next Tuesday, no kids. No, we don’t really “make out.” But we do a lot of other little things like touching as we pass each other in the house, stealing smooches, little knowing looks, etc. It all adds up. ---
**Author:** ![SanVito](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sanvito/32/2805_2.png) [@SanVito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanVito)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 11:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/42 "2010-07-16T11:19:31Z")
> [@Rand\_Rover](#): > > This is how I feel exactly. My wife and I snuggle and **smooch** and touch each other and have sex. No in between “making out,” which does seem kinda immature and bleh to me. Can someone help this foreigner out with some of this weird American dialect of which you all speak? Can you give me definitions for: 1. Making out. What ‘precisely’ are we talking about here? 2. Smooch (that sounds like slow dancing to me) Thank you. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 12:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/43 "2010-07-16T12:41:13Z")
> [@Hari\_Seldon](#): > > Yup. After 46 years of marriage, we often start the day by “making out” before getting out of bed. Less commonly late at night. Morning-breath make-out? Ick. SanVito: 1. Making out- sloppy tongue kissing. 2. Smooch- similar, but (IMO) less sloppy and less tongue, more acceptable in public. More “sweet” than “hot & heavy”. ---
**Author:** ![shiftless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9c0ed/32.png) [@shiftless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shiftless)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/44 "2010-07-16T12:44:49Z")
Together over 25 years, we haven’t made out in years. A lot of touching but we don’t mash our faces together anymore. ---
**Author:** ![SanVito](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sanvito/32/2805_2.png) [@SanVito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanVito)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 1:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/45 "2010-07-16T13:05:20Z")
> [@corkboard](#): > > Morning-breath make-out? Ick. > > SanVito: > > 1. Making out- sloppy tongue kissing. > 2. Smooch- similar, but (IMO) less sloppy and less tongue, more acceptable in public. More “sweet” than “hot & heavy”. Right, gotcha, making out is snogging, and smooching is…kinda snogging too. Maybe a lingering kiss? ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/46 "2010-07-16T13:34:34Z")
Together 26 years. Hadn’t really thought much about it until I started reading this, but hubby and I haven’t ‘made out’ in quite a while. Now I really want to, and he’ll be home next weekend. Yep. We’ll make out. But no, it’s been a good while. Can’t say how long. When he comes home (only on weekends, he works out of town), we always have a nice, long, full-body hug and hearty kiss. We touch a lot. Of course we have sex. But I do miss the making out, and didn’t even realize it until just now. Just for the record, he’s 50, I’m close to his age (but I’m younger than him; a fact I _never_ let him forget! 😛 ) ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 1:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/47 "2010-07-16T13:57:21Z")
> [@CalMeacham](#): > > Just wait 'til you have kids. > > You’ll learn what “…you can’t have sex (at that moment), you gotta touch, kiss, grpope, etc.” is all about. 😕😕 I’ve got three kids. We touch plenty. We’re plenty physically affectionate. I thought we were talking about back-seat of the car, tongues down the throat hot-and-heavy type making out here. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/48 "2010-07-16T15:26:11Z")
The problem is that before sex was a given, we’d make out and “neck” for hours. I miss that. Once you start having sex it seems like making out is always a precursor for intercourse instead of a goal all on its own. So I’m more reluctant to make out now because I know why he’s kissing me. ---
**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/49 "2010-07-16T15:29:54Z")
> [@corkboard](#): > > Morning-breath make-out? Ick. > > SanVito: > > 1. Making out- sloppy tongue kissing. > 2. Smooch- similar, but (IMO) less sloppy and less tongue, more acceptable in public. More “sweet” than “hot & heavy”. So what if we are watching TV on the couch and I give him half a hand job while he nibbles on my ear but we never go actually have sex? I don’t think tongue kissing is a requirement for making out. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/50 "2010-07-16T15:33:33Z")
> [@SanVito](#): > > Right, gotcha, making out is snogging, and smooching is…kinda snogging too. Maybe a lingering kiss? Smooching is specifically kissing - mouth-to-mouth contact. Making out involves hands wandering all over the place, groping and grabbing and such. I never heard the word “snogging” before this thread. I like it. It sounds like [snu-snu](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Snu_snu) but even funnier. Is it a Britishism specifically? ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/51 "2010-07-16T15:42:59Z")
> [@MandaJo](#): > > So what if we are watching TV on the couch and I give him half a hand job while he nibbles on my ear but we never go actually have sex? Hold on a minute- “\*half \*a hand job”? Sorry, does not compute. > [@MandaJO](#): > > I don’t think tongue kissing is a requirement for making out. I’ve never heard of “making out” that did not involve tongue kissing. What you’re doing is “foolin’ around”, “hanky panky” or “gettin’ some”. It’s not “making out”. ---
**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/52 "2010-07-16T16:03:26Z")
> [@corkboard](#): > > Hold on a minute- “\*half \*a hand job”? Sorry, does not compute. > > Not to completion. To me, making out is when you get each other a bit hot and bothered but you don’t finish–at least not then. It’s priming the pump, so to speak. > > I’ve never heard of “making out” that did not involve tongue kissing. What you’re doing is “foolin’ around”, “hanky panky” or “gettin’ some”. It’s not “making out”. To me, those imply completion. ---
**Author:** ![History\_Geek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b19c9b/32.png) [@History\_Geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/History_Geek)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/53 "2010-07-16T16:35:56Z")
I recently split up with my wife of 8 years; we did not “make out” after the first… I dunno, week, maybe. Making out quickly became part of foreplay. I’ve had a girlfriend for the past three months; we’ve made out on exactly two occasions, and the second one we went ahead and had sex. Now making out is definitely a minutes-long activity for us, but it is also a prelude to the removal of clothing and things which logically follow from that. I think it might be worth a poll to determine who feels stronger that making out to be an end in itself - men or women? I’d bet that women feel making out to be an end in itself a lot more. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2010, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/54 "2010-07-16T16:52:30Z")
I meant the question to be more about kissing specifically, which is what I have in mind when I talk about making out. Should have been clearer. 🙂 My boyfriend has his hand down my shirt countless times a day, but he was wondering why we don’t smooch for long periods the way we used to before. (And as others have pointed out, we only did that when we couldn’t have sex because of circumstances and there was no other outlet for our, uh, passion.) ---
**Author:** ![SanVito](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sanvito/32/2805_2.png) [@SanVito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanVito)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2010, 11:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/55 "2010-07-19T11:00:27Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > I never heard the word “snogging” before this thread. I like it. It sounds like [snu-snu](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Snu_snu) but even funnier. Is it a Britishism specifically? Yes, it’s British slang, used universally up and down the country. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2010, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/56 "2010-07-19T20:58:25Z")
> [@HazelNutCoffee](#): > > My boyfriend has his hand down my shirt countless times a day… Lucky so-and-so. If I have my hand in my wife’s shirt more than once a day, it’s because I did her laundry. :mad: ---
**Author:** ![lindsaybluth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/90db22/32.png) [@lindsaybluth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lindsaybluth)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2010, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/57 "2010-07-19T21:18:19Z")
No ten minute sessions anymore, but a few minute sessions, sure we do. It’s often when one of us is rushing out the door to work or a meeting, and we both want more “quality time” together but instead have a little make out/grope thing. Maybe try it when you guys rush out the door? ---
**Author:** ![Serenata67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/serenata67/32/10646_2.png) [@Serenata67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Serenata67)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2010, 11:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788/58 "2010-07-20T11:53:40Z")
Been together 3, lived together 2.5, married .5. Still make out. It’s fun! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-still-make-out-with-your-so/546788.md?page=2)