# Do you think certain sexual positions are slutty?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [January 16, 2005, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037 "2005-01-16T17:39:17Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@JonScribe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JonScribe)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2005, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/21 "2005-01-16T21:56:12Z")
What’s wrong with “slutty?”
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### Author:  [@Chimpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimpy)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2005, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/22 "2005-01-16T22:01:07Z")
> [@Tapioca Dextrin](#):
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> I don’t know what a Fuilthy Sanchez is, nor do I want to find out, but I’m fairly sure it’s slutty. Maybe.
It goes far beyond slutty, in fact it shares characteristics with the activity involving a bucket described in the OP.
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### Author:  [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2005, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/23 "2005-01-16T22:36:29Z")
I pity her poor husband if he didn’t know she was so pathetic before he married her.
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### Author:  [@Flipstrip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flipstrip)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2005, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/24 "2005-01-16T22:39:22Z")
I feel _really_ sorry for that woman’s husband **overlyverbose**. A repressed partner who refuses to even entertain the thought of love and lust’s possiblilities can be incredibly frustrating.
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### Author:  [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2005, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/25 "2005-01-16T22:51:50Z")
> [@The Mermaid](#):
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> The only positions I consider slutty are the ones I can’t do. As in, the balance on my head with my feet on the wall kind of thing.
Try one of these: [http://www.teeterhangups.com/products/product-list.html](http://www.teeterhangups.com/products/product-list.html)
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### Author:  [@Duckster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duckster)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2005, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/26 "2005-01-16T22:53:55Z")
I guess mentioning chocolate sauce, strawberries and sex all in the same sentence (and the thought behind all three) is out of the question, eh?
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### Author:  [@pokey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pokey)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/27 "2005-01-17T00:02:00Z")
> [@betenoir](#):
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> What a shame as I’ve heard doggie style is the best position for getting pregnant. Which might be an old wive’s tale, but, then, proabably an old wife who’s having more fun in bed than she is.
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> I guess I could see from behind as being seen as slutty because it’s impersonal. Well, I don’t think it is but some people see anything not face to face as impersonal. And I guess on top is not demure enough (like that’s a good quality to have in bed :D)…but what about the millon onther possiblities? Unless she doesn’t know about them.
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> I think it’s interesting how normalized blow jobs have become. It used to be the ultimate slutty act. I guess anal sex is the new blow job…
I have known a couple of girls who said doggie style was bad because it’s like he would rather look at your ass than your face because that way they could daydream about hotter chicks without being distracted.
It doesn’t really explain why any other position would be bad though. I think this lady is a nut. Does she have to be in the missionary position to give this non-slutty blowjob too or can she get her ass up in the air for that one? She’s nuts.
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### Author:  [@aruvqan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aruvqan)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/28 "2005-01-17T00:22:49Z")
> [@overlyverbose](#):
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> I was tempted to mention I was considering buying my husband porn for Valentine’s Day. But I didn’t want her to explode. At least not before dinner. 😉
LOL, go for it, might be entertaining=) watching the total brain meltdown of really stuffy peoploe can be fun 😃
what? not like I am the only person here who does it now and then
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### Author:  [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/29 "2005-01-17T00:28:32Z")
Strange. I don’t agree with her, but on the other hand I don’t think this alone is any reason to sever ties with the woman…assuming there havent been other problems with her. A lot of people have irrational hang-ups about sex. If her spouse can tolerate her strange beliefs, why should it bother anyone else?
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### Author:  [@AveDementia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AveDementia)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/30 "2005-01-17T00:38:13Z")
> [@lavenderviolet](#):
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> Strange. I don’t agree with her, but on the other hand I don’t think this alone is any reason to sever ties with the woman…assuming there havent been other problems with her. A lot of people have irrational hang-ups about sex. If her spouse can tolerate her strange beliefs, why should it bother anyone else?
Did you miss the part where this woman said **overlyverbose** is no better than a whore?
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### Author:  [@tremorviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tremorviolet)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 12:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/31 "2005-01-17T00:42:19Z")
> [@Muffin](#):
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> Try one of these: [teeterhangups.com](http://www.teeterhangups.com/products/product-list.html)
Man, I was fully expecting a link to some incredibly pervy fetish gear type site but it’s _exercise and health equipment_. I’m gonna have to go poke around the Stockroom to make up for it…
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### Author:  [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/32 "2005-01-17T00:45:51Z")
That scene from the Sopranos where Tony’s sister is ramming her mobster boyfriend Raphie up the ass with a furiously buzzing dildo, while she pretends to be his pimp, and Ralphie pretends to be a cheap little “hoo-ar”.
_That_ was pretty slutty sexual position.
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### Author:  [@danceswithcats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/danceswithcats)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/33 "2005-01-17T00:46:10Z")
[Homer Simpson]
Mmmm. Sluts.
[/Homer]
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### Author:  [@Padeye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Padeye)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/34 "2005-01-17T03:31:53Z")
> [@betenoir](#):
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> I guess anal sex is the new blow job…
[Comic Book Guy]Best sig line ever[/CBG]
There is a bit in _Terms of Endearment_ where John Lithgow is bemoaning his wife not having sex with him because “she can’t have any weight on her.” Debra winger suggest her getting on top but he dismisses it since he’s already asked about a hundred times and his wife has refused.
**overlyverbose** , I think you need to get a few wine coolers in your friend so you can discuss degrees of sluttiness in more detail… then report back to us. If blow jobs aren’t slutty does it make a difference in the blower spits or swallows? Is she game for the old pearl necklace or is having your freshly applied coat of Mary Kay soiled by a load of man-goo slutty? …especially with red lipstick. IMHO I think your friend needs your help. Inside this fridid, repressed woman is a stark raving, drunken spring break bimbo, here’s my tits - gimme some Mardi Gras beads, ankles crossed behind her head, clear-heel wearing slut struggling to get out.
In all seriousness if you are right about this being because she has a poor body self image that is a shame. Does she see playboy centerfolds and think she isn’t sexually desirable because she doesn’t look like that? Hell, they don’t look like that in real life. The vast majority of women look nothing like that and they are damn sure desireable.
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### Author:  [@Padeye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Padeye)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/35 "2005-01-17T03:34:42Z")
But in response to the OP I think doggie style is slutty if it’s actually with a dog.
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### Author:  [@ouryL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ouryL)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/36 "2005-01-17T03:37:23Z")
> [@overlyverbose](#):
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> I was talking to a friend of mine Friday. (I’m using the term “friend” very loosely here.) She and her husband are trying to have a baby. She mentioned she was irritated that her husband wasn’t home yet because they had to have sex right on schedule before dinner, otherwise she couldn’t do it for three to four hours, and she would have to wake him up at 4 a.m. Saturday to do it because they have to do it at either 4 a.m. or before dinner (I still can’t figure out the 4 a.m. part - I think it has something to do with optimal temperatures for getting pregnant). When I asked why, she said, “If I’m full, it puts too much pressure on my stomach.” I thought Hmmm, fair enough, but then made the mistake of saying, “There are tons of positions - perhaps you could try one that doesn’t require your husband to lay on top of you.”
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> You’d think I had just told her to try sticking her head in a bucket of shit. She was horrified by the suggestion that she try having sex any other way than missionary. According to her, other positions are slutty, even if you’re with your husband. :eek: Even more strange was that having sex prior to marriage wasn’t whorish - just certain sexual positions were, though oral sex was an exception and performing oral sex didn’t make you slutty. 😕 By now I was thoroughly confused.
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> So when I mentioned that there were many ways of having sex, and that I’m more than happy to engage in (even, God forbid, encourage) certain…acrobatics…to accommodate both me and my husband, she told me that having sex in any way other than missionary makes me no better than a whore. Needless to say, we probably won’t be speaking again.
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> But the whole conversation was really confusing. I mean, what criteria does one use to come to the conclusion that having sex any other way than missionary is slutty? And how can you justify oral sex if any other position than the man on top is “bad?” Has anyone else experienced this? I’m completely dumbfounded, and amazed - her mom was always very frank about sex, and never told her “nice girls don’t do that.”
“In bed”, no. On the street corner, under the street light, yes.
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### Author:  [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 4:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/37 "2005-01-17T04:17:13Z")
I’d like to think that even Mrs. Caroline Ingalls did it more way than just the missionary positions. Jeez.
(prehaps doggie style with a ball gag maybe? That Charles can be one twisted Mother F’er)
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### Author:  [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/38 "2005-01-17T04:40:46Z")
Is it still “missionary” if your knees are up on his shoulders, but you’re still lying on your back? Just wonderin’. 'Cause the “missionary” I see in movies, where she’s on her back but her legs are more or less straight out and still contacting the bed - never quite got the logistics of that one working for me. Maybe it 'cause I actually have thighs.
> [@](#):
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> Does she have to be in the missionary position to give this non-slutty blowjob too or can she get her ass up in the air for that one?
See, laying on my back with my partner stradling my shoulders while I’m giving him a blowjob (I’m assuming this is what you mean) feels rather “slutty” to me. It also feels like I’m trapped, and uncomfortable for reasons related to my own rape years ago. I much prefer to give a blowjob with the man lying or sitting down.
But I’m well aware that it’s my own foible, and I’m sure not going to accuse anyone who enjoys it, or any other consenting activity, of being “no better than a whore.”
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### Author:  [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/39 "2005-01-17T05:21:33Z")
> [@Padeye](#):
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> But in response to the OP I think doggie style is slutty if it’s actually with a dog.
Well that would depend on if you just met the dog or if you were in a committed realtionship.
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### Author:  [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 5:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/40 "2005-01-17T05:31:13Z")
> [@pokey](#):
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> I have known a couple of girls who said doggie style was bad because it’s like he would rather look at your ass than your face because that way they could daydream about hotter chicks without being distracted.
That does seem to be the thinking. But my goodness. Guys (and girls) can daydream about other people at any point. You have to be pretty insecure to think your lover will forget all about you the second he’s not looking right into your face. (Or to put it another way, if you have reason to think that, doggie style may not be the biggest of your problems).
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