# Do you think certain sexual positions are slutty?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [January 16, 2005, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037 "2005-01-16T17:39:17Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 8:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/41 "2005-01-17T08:42:19Z")
> [@trublmakr](#):
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> If your sexual positions aren’t slutty, then you’re not doing it right.
> This woman sounds like a dried up old prune, and I wouldn’t give her opinions on it a second thought.
Well said.
This prune needs to watch that older lady who does the call in sex show on Oxygen or Bravo. It would probably make her :eek:
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### Author:  [@Barbarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Barbarian)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 12:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/42 "2005-01-17T12:58:23Z")
Sue Johansen! (Yet another Canadian nurse corrupting the U.S. with our socialistic health care policies.)
Your friend’s bigger problem is that she thinks sex should be _limited_ while trying to get pregnant. I wouldn’t be surprised if her husband is deliberately working late, because being forced to have sex on a schedule is one of the few ways possible to make sex dull.
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### Author:  [@irishgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/irishgirl)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 1:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/43 "2005-01-17T13:28:56Z")
Is it possible that this lady’s ideas are coming from her husband?
If he is her one-and-only, and presumably was happy enough with their pre-marital sex-life to get married to her, maybe it’s HIM who has the “nice girls don’t do X” attitude, which has rubbed off on her.
There are some men who while they’re happy enough to watch porn where women do all kinds of things wouldn’t want any woman “of theirs” doing anything so “slutty”.
Trust me, I had an ex boyfriend like that. Talk about your Madonna/Whore complexes!
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### Author:  [@calm\_kiwi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/calm_kiwi)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 2:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/44 "2005-01-17T14:11:16Z")
> [@Tranquilis](#):
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> “Sluttishness” is determined by _how_ you select your sex partners, not by _what_ you do with them afterwards.
“Sluttishness” is determined by what your opinion of a “slut” is. Not how someone else chooses a sexual partner OR what position they adopt.
Slut is one of those transitory words, there is no benchmark slut to judge other sluts on.
A slut is in the eye of the beholder 😃
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### Author:  [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 2:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/45 "2005-01-17T14:20:31Z")
> [@calm kiwi](#):
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> A slut is in the eye of the beholder 😃
And a jerk cums in the eye of the beholder. 😛
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### Author:  [@calm\_kiwi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/calm_kiwi)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/46 "2005-01-17T14:29:35Z")
Yes some jerks have a lousy aim 😃
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### Author:  [@archmichael](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/archmichael)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/47 "2005-01-17T15:28:54Z")
> [@Padeye](#):
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> IMHO I think your friend needs your help. Inside this fridid, repressed woman is a stark raving, drunken spring break bimbo, here’s my tits - gimme some Mardi Gras beads, ankles crossed behind her head, clear-heel wearing slut struggling to get out.
I have to agree with **Padeye**. When I read the OP, my freak radar read a huge blip. Sounds like someone who probably likes it too much, so she set up some artificial barriers. Probably love it doggy, with hair-tugging and some butt slaps as well.
> [@betenoir](#):
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> I guess anal sex is the new blow job…
I am going to try to work this into as many casual conversations as I can.
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### Author:  [@bob\_loblaw](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bob_loblaw)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/48 "2005-01-17T15:47:56Z")
i think giving a guy you just met a handjob in the corner booth of a bar the other day to be a slutty position, but then i’ve never claimed that i’m not a slut.
and staring into the camera while taking it doggy style is like the sluttiest of slutty positions, imo.
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### Author:  [@Lord\_Ashtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Ashtar)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/49 "2005-01-17T16:05:20Z")
I’ve never understood this taboo against any position that’s not missionary, especially with your spouse. I figure that once you’re married, you should be allowed to…um, express your love in any way you wish. Of course, I’m not married so YMMV.
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### Author:  [@Shade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shade)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/50 "2005-01-17T16:30:37Z")
Three pregnant women were talking. The first said “I was on top when I conceived because that means it’s going to be a girl.” The second said “We were missionary, because that means it’s going t be a boy.” The third woman said “Oh my god! I’m going to have puppies!”
To take the devil’s advocate position for a moment, most people probably have some things they think someone else would be weird for indulging in (eg. Dressing up as Kirk and Spock and slapping each other with Cucumbers listening to the strains of ‘Candle in the Wind’ not that I’ve met anyone who likes that…), though they may be polite enough to not to say so to their faces. This woman just has a much much much lower threshhold. Indeed, nearly penultimately low 🙂
Another thought. I get the impression that there’s a stereotype that a husband would often try to persuade his wife to experiment more than she would naturally want, so experimenting becomes associated with ‘doing whatever he wants’ and froim their to whoredom. I’m not saying that’s true, but that it’s a common sterotype is enough to perhaps give some insight into her position.
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### Author:  [@badmana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/badmana)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/51 "2005-01-17T16:45:55Z")
She’s pretty strange.
How’d she come up with a 4 am high basal temp? She has no idea how it works. You need to hit her with a fertility book or 3.
Of course she’s probably faint from the graphic text and pictures contained in such a book so it probably wouldn’t help.
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### Author:  [@Jadis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jadis)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/52 "2005-01-17T17:29:22Z")
> [@CrazyCatLady](#):
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> She had no problems sticking a dick that had been in someone else’s _ass_ without washing afterward in her mouth…
Since we don’t have a barf smiley, this one will have to do: :eek:
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### Author:  [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/53 "2005-01-17T17:36:20Z")
> [@Lord Ashtar](#):
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> I’ve never understood this taboo against any position that’s not missionary, especially with your spouse. I figure that once you’re married, you should be allowed to…um, express your love in any way you wish. Of course, I’m not married so YMMV.
I sort of assumed this, too, for which my husband has told me he is eternally grateful. I figured - well, I’m going to be married to you, hopefully for the rest of my life. Why not make it a free-for-all? It certainly keeps sex more interesting. I’ve got the option to say no if he does want me to dress up as Spock and slap him with a cucumber (thanks, **Shade** for that image, by the way), but if there’s something he really wants to try that doesn’t involve a lot of pain, I’m game.
Upon further reflection, I really don’t see anything I do with my husband as whorish, provided he’s not peddling me to others. Maybe I just have a really high threshold for kink. Maybe I am a slut. I’ve never said otherwise, either, but if I am, it’s only with my husband.
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### Author:  [@Elza\_B](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elza_B)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/54 "2005-01-17T18:55:01Z")
I’m not defending this woman because I do think she has some issues, but speaking as someone who was molested and raped as a child, sometimes it is VERY difficult to get past those feelings of guilt about parts of sex. After two years of being with my husband, it’s only recently that I’ve been able to initiate without feeling guilty. It’s not that I don’t _want_ to, it’s that I have a panic attack and overwhelming feelings of that seven-year-old guilt that I have trouble stopping. I would never think someone else is slutty, but I have a hard time not seeing MYSELF as a horrible person for wanting sex in a different way.
Luckily, I have an amazing, wonderful, patient husband who has worked on these issues with me, and things have improved ten-fold. They aren’t perfect, but I’m finding it’s a lot easier to enjoy sex when I don’t feel guilty about having it.
E.
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### Author:  [@Padeye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Padeye)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/55 "2005-01-17T19:32:28Z")
**Elza B** , you make a good point but I’m not certain it applies here. It would have been one thing if she said, “me on top, **I** could never do that,” but she said that **overlyverbose** was “no better than a whore” if she would consider bumping uglies in any but the missionary approved position. I could easily be wrong but that makes me lean toward garden variety prude rather than abuse victim.
Your husband sounds like a good man to help you through these things, not all are so lucky. I used to have a platonic friend who said she could never stay friends with anyone she had sex with. I later found that her “solution” was to host gangbang parties where any man who showed up at her hotel room could have her. When I confronted her about how incredibly dangerous this was she just said she was sewing her wild oats. I don’t know if she was abused but it wouldn’t suprise me.
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### Author:  [@TV\_time](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TV_time)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/56 "2005-01-17T20:00:42Z")
> [@betenoir](#):
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> Well that would depend on if you just met the dog or if you were in a committed realtionship.
Then there is the age thing - just how many dog years before you have a consenting adult.
And some breeds are just more slutty than others. I mean, really, have you seen the way some of those poodles move?
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### Author:  [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/57 "2005-01-17T20:55:31Z")
> [@Jadis](#):
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> Since we don’t have a barf smiley, this one will have to do: :eek:
Yeah, tell me about it. At least you got by with just hearing the highlights. I got stuck listening to the blow by blow descriptions.
It was pretty funny, though, to see the faces of the guys who absolutely _insisted_ on knowing how she knew for certain he was screwing around. They couldn’t just take her word for it that she was certain, or take my word for it that they _really_ didn’t want to know. No, they just had to know. And then they got mad at us for telling them, because that was just gross and they didn’t ned to know that.
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### Author:  [@kidchameleon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kidchameleon)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/58 "2005-01-17T21:48:24Z")
> [@trublmakr](#):
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> If your sexual positions aren’t slutty, then you’re not doing it right.
> This woman sounds like a dried up old prune, and I wouldn’t give her opinions on it a second thought.
Put that in your OK Cupid profile. 😛
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### Author:  [@Padeye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Padeye)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/59 "2005-01-17T23:23:54Z")
> [@CrazyCatLady](#):
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> …how she knew for certain he was screwing around.
Did this happen more than once? I mean, “let me blow you when your tallywhacker tastes like someone’s fudge factory, shame on you. If it happens ten or twelve times I really need to get a clue.” Criminy, it’s the punchline to a joke.
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### Author:  [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2005, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-certain-sexual-positions-are-slutty/285037/60 "2005-01-17T23:49:55Z")
> [@trublmakr](#):
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> If your sexual positions aren’t slutty, then you’re not doing it right.
I concur wholeheartedly.
Actually, I don’t believe in the concept of ‘slutty’ or ‘slut’ or ‘whore’ or ‘tramp’ or whatever. Nobody thinks twice about men sleeping around, but a girl decides to have some good clean fun and suddenly she’s a slut. I think that’s bullshit.
> [@astro](#):
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> That scene from the Sopranos where Tony’s sister is ramming her mobster boyfriend Raphie up the ass with a furiously buzzing dildo, while she pretends to be his pimp, and Ralphie pretends to be a cheap little “hoo-ar”.
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> That was pretty slutty sexual position.
Actually, this is a meme that bothers me as well. It’s like people just can’t get over the idea of doing anything they wouldn’t want their mom to watch. What’s so disgusting about a girl topping a man? There’s nothing wrong with sticking something in the girl’s ass, of course, but the guy’s ass is just off limits :rolleyes:.
> [@WhyNot](#):
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> Is it still “missionary” if your knees are up on his shoulders, but you’re still lying on your back? Just wonderin’. 'Cause the “missionary” I see in movies, where she’s on her back but her legs are more or less straight out and still contacting the bed - never quite got the logistics of that one working for me. Maybe it 'cause I actually have thighs.
I’ve done this quite a bit. Body type probably does have something to do with it, and the legs should be opened up at least a little.
> [@archmichael](#):
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> Sounds like someone who probably likes it too much
Do people really worry about liking sex too much? That’s horrible. Sex should be a wonderful thing for both partners.
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