# Do you think more about.....? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 14, 2012, 12:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-more-about/637660 "2012-10-14T00:31:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![ToxicRose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c4cdca/32.png) [@ToxicRose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ToxicRose)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2012, 12:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-more-about/637660/1 "2012-10-14T00:31:03Z")
Hello people from Straight Dope. New here and it was suggested to me that I post here. Not sure if this is an appropriate question so please bare with me šŸ†’ **Do you think about exes you never slept with or just forget about them?** ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2012, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-more-about/637660/2 "2012-10-14T00:35:48Z")
If I never slept with them I donā€™t consider them exes. ---
**Author:** ![Covered\_In\_Bees](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Covered\_In\_Bees](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Covered_In_Bees)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2012, 12:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-more-about/637660/3 "2012-10-14T00:41:20Z")
> [@Loach](#): > > If I never slept with them I donā€™t consider them exes. God damn. For as personal as a question this is, someone here _still_ manages to say, word-for-word, how I feel. And in the first post to boot. ---
**Author:** ![ToxicRose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c4cdca/32.png) [@ToxicRose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ToxicRose)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2012, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-more-about/637660/4 "2012-10-14T00:44:48Z")
Forgot to add, **And why ?** ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2012, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-more-about/637660/5 "2012-10-14T01:00:02Z")
> [@Covered\_In\_Bees](#): > > God damn. For as personal as a question this is, someone here _still_ manages to say, word-for-word, how I feel. And in the first post to boot. Someone gets me! ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2012, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-more-about/637660/6 "2012-10-14T01:00:22Z")
I did my dating back in the 80ā€™s, so there were very few dates that didnā€™t involve the main event. For those that didnā€™t, I think about it from time to time. Most of my alternate-timeline ponderings involve the ones where we DID end up together for a while, and then things fell apart. Dammit. ---
**Author:** ![ToxicRose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c4cdca/32.png) [@ToxicRose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ToxicRose)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2012, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-more-about/637660/7 "2012-10-14T01:10:51Z")
So the ones you slept with were worth it compared to those you didnā€™t? ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2012, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-more-about/637660/8 "2012-10-14T01:15:08Z")
No, I just have more to think about for the ones I slept with, and I realize that I missed out on something by screwing up a relationship. Rather than thinking about ā€œmight-have-beens,ā€ I think about ā€œwhat-I-had-and-lostā€. The ones that never went anywhere, I have no idea whether or not there was a shot, there. ---
**Author:** ![HeyHomie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heyhomie/32/207_2.png) [@HeyHomie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HeyHomie)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2012, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-more-about/637660/9 "2012-10-14T16:02:20Z")
Three sexual partners before I married Mrs. Homie (and just her, since the wedding, I promise!). My first: think about her all the time. We were teenagers in love, and DAMN! was she good in the sack! My second: Uncomfortable, sloppy, drunken one-nigh-stand Iā€™ve tried to forget. My third: Friends-with-benefits relationship that lasted off-and-on for two years. I think about her every now and then. ---
**Author:** ![Cinnamon\_Imp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58956e/32.png) [@Cinnamon\_Imp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cinnamon_Imp)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2012, 9:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-more-about/637660/10 "2012-10-15T09:07:53Z")
> [@ToxicRose](#): > > **Do you think about exes you never slept with or just forget about them?** I occasionally think about them, as they were high school boyfriends back when I was young and innocent, and just held hands. Iā€™m particularly amused that one of them turned out to be gay - no wonder he only wanted to hold hands, and Iā€™m glad to have acted as his beard if that helped him for a while šŸ˜‰ The other one told everyone that he was going to sleep with me and promptly got dumped for it. An anti-self-fufilling prophecy? šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Foxy40](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a9a28c/32.png) [@Foxy40](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foxy40)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2012, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-more-about/637660/11 "2012-10-15T15:17:27Z")
Unless I marry them, I donā€™t think of them at all. Whether we were physically intimate or not. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2012, 12:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-more-about/637660/12 "2012-10-16T12:38:38Z")
I had sex with all my exes, but usually didnā€™t sleep with them.