Eonwe
February 3, 2012, 12:38pm
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Acsenray:
It’s not at all odd. If you’re in a place where sexual services are legal, then you might be liable for theft of services if you fail to pay the agreed price for the sex.
But if someone is voluntarily having sex with you, with no prior understanding of payment, then there is no exchange of value. It’s no different than having a conversation with a friend, or watching a movie together, or cooking someone a meal. There is no understanding that there is an exchange for value.
If you go to a restaurant, eat, and then leave without paying, you’ve taken a benefit without the understood payment. But if you are invited to someone’s house for a meal and then turn out to be bad company because you’re an asshole, there’s no loss of value, because there was no understanding of an exchange of value.
Having sex is something that people voluntarily do that’s not really any different from being friends or sweethearts. When your friend or sweetheart disappoints you, you don’t get compensated for everything you gave voluntarily in terms of sharing your company, nor does the government impose criminal penalties.
Being lied to and treated shitty is just life.
This is an excellent post.
Acid_Lamp:
Every person is completely within their rights to refuse sexual contact for whatever reason. Part of that deal is the understanding that if someone overrides that refusal, it is a crime: rape. We have as a society determined that consent is the most important thing. Everyone is free to withhold that consent until they feel they know their partner well enough to have sex with them. Don’t want to get burned? Don’t hook up. Don’t have casual sex, and wait until you have a full picture of your partner.
I thought the whole point of the hook-up/no-strings-attached-casual sex was precisely not having to go through the whole ritual megillah of pretending to be an ideal life-partner…* s/he’s hot, so I’ll tap that first, ask questions later.* To which I say, you go, girl/boy. But in that case baware of buyer’s remorse.
From a conversation on related subjects I participated in not long ago: not every *sin *has to be a crime . As mentioned, the world would be nothing but wall-to-wall jails.