# Do you think you would ever remarry? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 5, 2009, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-you-would-ever-remarry/512615 "2009-10-05T00:52:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-you-would-ever-remarry/512615/41 "2009-10-06T15:04:39Z")
I have been with him for almost thirteen years now and still no marriage, and no real urge to get married. If something happened to us I would absolutely (eventually) get into another relationship, but I wary of marriage. ---
**Author:** ![Ann\_Onimous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ea5d25/32.png) [@Ann\_Onimous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ann_Onimous)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-you-would-ever-remarry/512615/42 "2009-10-06T15:08:51Z")
Married so far for almost 12 years: and no, I would not get remarried. I mean, once you’ve had prime rib, why take your chances on ground beef? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![jabiru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/bbce88/32.png) [@jabiru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jabiru)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2009, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-you-would-ever-remarry/512615/43 "2009-10-07T01:12:46Z")
> [@Harry1945](#): > > I would not. I’ve learned I’m too selfish. I sometimes wonder why I even stay a member of this board - other people always get there with my response before I do. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Brainiac](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/8797f3/32.png) [@Brainiac](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brainiac)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2009, 2:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-you-would-ever-remarry/512615/44 "2009-10-07T02:05:38Z")
No I’ll never remarry. But mainly because I’m no longer dating. I’m not interested in women my own age and my daughter gets upset when I date women her age. ---
**Author:** ![BaconAndEggs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f4b2a3/32.png) [@BaconAndEggs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BaconAndEggs)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2009, 10:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-you-would-ever-remarry/512615/45 "2009-10-07T10:41:13Z")
> [@belladonna](#): > > Not only do I not want to remarry, I’m not even ready to actually get divorced yet. I’ve been married 10 years, but I haven’t seen my husband in over 6. > > I have a boyfriend I’ve been living with for nearly 4 years now. He knows I’m still married, obviously, and talks about me getting the divorce so that he and I can marry. But I can’t bring myself to do it. I don’t want to break up, but I like how things are now without all the complications marriage brings. Plus, I really don’t want to be _that_ girl–the one who divorces and remarries in the same month. Feels crass. So you don’t know what happened to your husband? You should file divorce papers and list the reason as abandonement and then you can be free to marry your new boyfriend whenever. Doesn’t have to be the same month. ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2009, 10:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-you-would-ever-remarry/512615/46 "2009-10-07T10:45:08Z")
The dating scene has changed ALOT in the 20 years since Mr. Ujest came into my life. The only way you could get me to get back into that quagmire is if I received a lobotomoy and a hazmat suit. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2009, 12:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-you-would-ever-remarry/512615/47 "2009-10-07T12:12:40Z")
Life with my second wife is so completely better than it had ever before. I don’t know what would happen if I lost her for some reason. ---
**Author:** ![the\_first\_supraliminal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f475e1/32.png) [@the\_first\_supraliminal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/the_first_supraliminal)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-you-would-ever-remarry/512615/48 "2009-10-08T17:34:15Z")
I’d give it another go, if I could be sure this time she wouldn’t die before I did. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-you-would-ever-remarry/512615/49 "2009-10-08T18:00:25Z")
I definitely want to remarry but I’m not actively trying for it. I’m still enjoying being single and doing my own thing. (Especially playing video games and watching cartoons. The ex used to make fun of me for those and that was eight years ago when I was 22. We were oonly married for a year.) If she comes along and we hit it off and it went the way of marriage I would take the leap. ---
**Author:** ![Add99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/977dab/32.png) [@Add99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Add99)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2009, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-you-would-ever-remarry/512615/50 "2009-10-09T01:38:34Z")
My wife of 23 years died four years ago today. I met her when I was 15, married at 19, kid #1 at 21, #2 at 23. She was a blind date. Breast cancer took a decade to kill her. Very nasty. I have not dated, although I have contemplated it. This is the first time in my adult life I have not had obligations (kids are grown). I rather like it. I used to feel like a mule pulling a plow. I fear growing old alone. I have aged well so far, but thinning hair, wrinkles, grey hair are creeping up… Women talk a LOT. They want to do stuff. You end up holding their purse while they try on shoes and YACK. I’m glad the libido has dropped off a bit, otherwise I might go charging around. As it is I feel no pressing need, but suspect I might regret it later (not to mention the fiscal security of another income). ---
**Author:** ![Avarie537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/48db29/32.png) [@Avarie537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Avarie537)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2009, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-you-would-ever-remarry/512615/51 "2009-10-09T16:30:34Z")
Sure. In fact, I already have my old-age husband picked out. He and I have been dear friends for 15 years. Well, we might not marry, but would certainly be able to live together and deal with each others’ crabbiness and mood swings. ---
**Author:** ![jsc1953](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/5daacb/32.png) [@jsc1953](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jsc1953)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2009, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-you-would-ever-remarry/512615/52 "2009-10-09T20:07:33Z")
I’ve been widower-ed now for 7 weeks, so the topic is on my mind a bit. I can definitely see myself dating…I’d certainly enjoy the company of a intelligent, attractive and hot-to-trot woman for an evening. And I’d enjoy companionship – vacations, or weekends together, stuff like that. And I don’t relish the prospect of growing old(er) alone. So does that mean re-marriage? Kinda sounds like it, although it’s hard to picture now. ---
**Author:** ![ralph124c](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/8797f3/32.png) [@ralph124c](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ralph124c)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2009, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-you-would-ever-remarry/512615/53 "2009-10-10T14:53:53Z")
According to Dr. Johnson; a second marriage is “the triumph of hope over experience”😛 ---
**Author:** ![Thymeless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ea666f/32.png) [@Thymeless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thymeless)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2009, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-you-would-ever-remarry/512615/54 "2009-10-11T03:37:10Z")
Married at 32; divorced at 50. Spent the past 10 years recovering from that disaster. No way will I ever risk experiencing that level of pain again. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-think-you-would-ever-remarry/512615.md?page=2)