# Do you use the toilet in front of your partner? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 10, 2010, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-use-the-toilet-in-front-of-your-partner/556729 "2010-10-10T23:15:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![slagathor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ac8455/32.png) [@slagathor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slagathor)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2010, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-use-the-toilet-in-front-of-your-partner/556729/61 "2010-10-12T18:46:44Z")
Number 1 I’m totally fine with. But I can’t poop with onlookers. Besides, I’ve always been a fan of reserving some semblance of privacy even in the closest of relationships. I just find that it’s a lot easier to maintain romance/passion when you haven’t seen your partner’s poo-face. ---
**Author:** ![jackdavinci](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackdavinci/32/3259_2.png) [@jackdavinci](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackdavinci)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2010, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-use-the-toilet-in-front-of-your-partner/556729/62 "2010-10-12T19:17:04Z")
I don’t have a partner, but past people I have dated, generally didn’t care about open peeing. And in general, I’ve found males usually not to be too shy about it, especially outdoors and/or after drinking. And my housemates, while we won’t pee in direct sight of each other, have no issues with peeing while someone is hidden behind the shower curtain. OTOH I’ve never been comfortable being around #2 going on or had someone comfortable around me doing #2. In fact I don’t even like people to be in the adjacent room for that. I’ll usually turn on the sink to achieve a semblance of auditory privacy. ---
**Author:** ![Mrs.Cake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/2acd7d/32.png) [@Mrs.Cake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mrs.Cake)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2010, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-use-the-toilet-in-front-of-your-partner/556729/63 "2010-10-12T20:11:57Z")
Never been a problem for either of us - we don’t ever bother to close doors in the house unless guests are over (his studio being an exception, to keep the cats from clawing up the harp case). Rarely one of us will feel the need to give fair warning to the other (“quick, turn on the fan and leave the house”), but that is just courtesy, not delicacy. ---
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2010, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-use-the-toilet-in-front-of-your-partner/556729/64 "2010-10-12T23:02:01Z")
In both of my marriages, the woman in question was opposed to both, though my ex would occasional pee while I was in the shower. My first serious girlfriend was fascinated by the idea, and would demand to watch me pee. I think she has a fetish. hehe I would pee in front of just about anyone, but I would be uncomfortable with a BM in front of the little lady. Especially my current “wife” who is just to damn competitive… ---
**Author:** ![Stoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stoid/32/272_2.png) [@Stoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoid)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 6:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-use-the-toilet-in-front-of-your-partner/556729/65 "2010-10-15T06:36:24Z")
Pee: yes Poo: are you fucking insane??? ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 7:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-use-the-toilet-in-front-of-your-partner/556729/66 "2010-10-15T07:00:34Z")
> [@wolf\_in\_second\_hand\_clothing](#): > > My ex practically _made_ me pee in front of her to prove that I was comfortable in our relationship (she did it in front of me all the time). She never pooped in front of me, but once she tried to come in and see how I looked when I was pooping. I locked her out. I’m scared. ---
**Author:** ![SevenOfTeemingMillions](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/76d3ee/32.png) [@SevenOfTeemingMillions](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SevenOfTeemingMillions)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 7:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-use-the-toilet-in-front-of-your-partner/556729/67 "2010-10-15T07:42:24Z")
I won’t even pee in front of my dogs. 😃 They follow me around and they’re probably wondering what I’m doing in the only room in the apartment where I tell them to go out. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/do-you-use-the-toilet-in-front-of-your-partner/556729.md?page=3)