yes, i use whom in everyday speech; usually accomp. with a snooty voice.
In writing, I end up backing up from those horrid prepositions hanging like finger stumps at the end of a mangled sentence and usually find myself correcting the who/whom as well.
I believe we have other threads dedicated to the righteous stomping of those who misuse “you’re”, I would like to hijack to say that my own sister, a journalism major, misused “loose” in our own grandmother’s obituary. See how she likes the one I write for her.
My boss gave up swearing for the new year, and fines himself $5 for charity every time he indulges. I’ll have to dig up that link to the Shakespearean insult generator so he’ll have something to say.
Two years ago I had a bout with a very strange ear infection that caused me to have a really difficult time concentrating, so I’d prepare sentences mentally ahead of time and recite them like a little internal teleprompter. It sounded pretty stilted but it improved my grammar, because it ran past a little mental Brother Peterson (O’Dea High School’s grammar Nazi) in my head before it escaped.
Whom’s your daddy !
I use it in writing, but rarely when I’m speaking. I tend to be more pendantic on paper (or computer).
I tend to be casual in my speech, but yes, I do use it occasionally.
I use whom in writing and in speech. Many people don’t, and it’s up to them whether they do or not. I don’t care. The English language is evolving to get rid of the word, I’m afraid, but I’ll live with that. I like the word and the concept behind it. Of course, there are places where whom is actually appropriate but I don’t use it at all, since sometimes it just sounds too stilted. I treat the subjunctive mood with the same reserve. Concerning grammar, I’m very conservative, but there are places where even I feel it’s time for change.